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The baby doesn't understand English (although they can recognise the rhythm and sounds of language).
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The mother understands English
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The baby experiences the same emotions as the mother.
In conclusion, read something that will make the mother relaxed and happy. If that happens to be The Cat In The Hat, then great. I read Don Quixote when my wife was pregnant with our first, our second got Moomin and Hairy Maclary (by virtue of being there when I read to the first).
The most important thing is to keep reading to them, every day, after they're born too. Buy tons of children's books (for your own sanity), do the voices and have fun with them.
Fwiw, my mom had a similar debate and decided classical music instead. Came from some company called baby beethoven. So I'm biased but I think music is probably best. Words won't really be understood anyway just tones. No angry sounds around baby.
I remember my mother telling me that if I don't get staright A's, she was gonna regret it, and my dad told me: "Don't make me regret fucking your mom last night". I spend the next 9 months planning for school, and the next 18 years trying so hard to be top of my class. Never had any fun. Wtf even is this "video game" y'all talking about. -10/10 would not recommend.
Please don't berate your fetus into depression, it's not worth it. Instead, play ~~baby~~ fetus shark.
Cat in the Hat. Kid's got a while life ahead of them to get depressed about the vile things humans have done (and still do) to each other. Let the kid have a few months of happiness.
Cat in the Hat. Kid's got a while life ahead of them to get depressed about the vile things humans have done (and still do) to each other. Let the kid have a few months of happiness.
The content doesn't matter in the slightest.
Music of any type would be infinitely more impactful than random words.
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It doesn't matter. A baby doesn't understand what you read to it. It only hears you voice and regocnizes it once they're born. But it'llhear your voice in the belly regardless. Every time you say anyyhing, the baby hears your voice. Reading a book to a belly is mostly for the parents-to-be
I don't think we're at that stage. People are still debating whether or not that kid is a kid or not.
My wife had a favourite song when she was pregnant and it was very useful for calming after the birth. It was quite a chill tune.
Jonathan Swift
Reading to a baby is about exposing them to different words and patterns than what you get from normal speech.
If you want my advice, talk to them constantly as if you are the narrator, and smile and make eye contact at every opportunity.
Not sure if this applies before birth. It couldnt hurt, so I suggest reading whatever you like to read. And make sure its something that the mother wants to hear, assuming you arent her.
Not sure if this applies before birth.
Please demonstrate the prenatal eye contact, I dare you.
Hold my beer, I'm going in
Kids don't live in wombs
Not with that attitude.
I read to my child every night while they were in the womb and when they came out my reading voice was like drugs it would knock them out so quickly if they were sleepy!
Why would you do this when you could just as easily have them listen to WeFunk! Radio, the funkiest internet radio around, for free?
Neither will harm or effect your baby in any measurable way.
What will effect them measurably negatively is having obsessive parents who min/max every decision rather than being happy and enjoying their child.
Happiness comes from acceptance, not obsession.
~~I think people are downvoting you because "effect" is in there twice.~~
~~The first one is right.~~
Neither one is right. Effect is typically a noun. Affect is a verb.
You're not wrong.
I wish I could see the edit timestamps on Lemmy, because I'm sure that comment was different.
The stupid thing is, I'd originally written the comment with quotes to point it out, then chopped it back because I realised that I was massively overexplaining it. Those quotes would have been handy now!
I'll strike my comment out so it's not misleading, but I'll leave it up so this still makes sense.
On the Voyager app you can see that it wasn't edited at all.
Boost shows that it was edited :|
In any case, it's not outside the realm of possibility that I made a mistake in my original reply! :)
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Happiness comes from acceptance, not obsession.
A kid in the womb is better off listening to old people's regrets and dying wishes so they can handle dying of old age better when the time comes
baby is inundated with 'back in my day', [redacted] ruined everything, complaints about life sucking ass, etc
9 months pass
baby pops out
immediately uses all their strength to jump to the nearest window ledge and yeet
I really hope kids in the womb today get the chance to die of old age.
It's mostly about the sound of your voice. My eldest got Vonnegut and Law & Order. So much of the latter that both before and after birth the "dun dun" sound from the show noticeably calmed her down.
Just talk to the baby and play them calm music. The type may matter but what is most important is you interact in some way.
Heavy metal, obviously.
I really don't believe either of those things will do anything at all.
The content likely doesn't matter, but I read it helps the baby recognize the parent's voices (esp the Dad's, Mom already gets a lot of time), and it can also help them get a head start on recognizing the phenomes of your language.
So my baby will think Mike Duncan is his father because of all the History of Rome podcast is being played to him
If it's a recording of someone else it sure as hell won't. Might have some effect on replay, but won't be making baby any more familiar with the parents.