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My neighbor is in her 70s. I'm in my late 20s and live in the apartment upstairs from her, so when it snows I like to help clean off her car/shovel out her parking spot. Today she tried to pay me after I helped her. I don't want to accept the money, but want her to still feel comfortable asking for help/not feel like she's taking advantage of me. How should I go about this? Maybe ask her for something small so she feels like she's helping me too? It's never any trouble helping her with the snow removal, it never takes more than half an hour

I know there was some schism and moving of instances, but beyond that I can’t deduce what happened/is happening.

Not limited to SO, can be friends, family, etc...

Say it were implemented in this world and you could say anything you like (written, spoken, signed whatever) to anyone who can hear/read/see it. What kind of problems could that create and are there any ways to resolve them without limiting that absolute free speech?

Could it even create unsolvable logical errors? E.g an omnipotent god can't create a stone too heavy for itself to lift. Maybe there are similar things with absolute free speech.

I had a friend (still have the friend, though we don't have regular access to each other anymore) who liked to "show off" how obscure some of his possessions were, possibly to achieve the "wanderlust effect" (i.e. the reaction of "how did you get these here"). Something about the anticipation that his inventory was alien to whoever he showed.

One day, he was asked to bring games and a console and he brought one of those extremely rare knock-off bootleg gaming consoles they sell in Asia, which we're not even remotely near.

"What the heck is that" asked my other best friend?

"It's the Mega Duck. I brought CFGP with me too."

"Why can't you be a normal Upstate New Yorker? We literally got Playstation."

"What fun is that?"

It wasn't some small quirk either. One day he took a long walk and came across a part of the area nobody had been to in decades and took pictures with my camera which he happened to have. Also having hyperthymesia, he came back and was all like "I took these photos of a place that seems like it was out of a fantasy painting and also recognized someone there who was on the missing persons list when I came back". Like a boss.

In contrast, alas, ever since moving, my possessions have become overwhelmingly mundane enough you'd expect most of it to be in an 18th century post-colonial American home, the exception (if you could call her that), ironically, being my dog who is of a rare breed.

What's the most wanderlusty thing you own, something that would be the absolute opposite of mundane if in your possession?

What is a good alternative to proton mail these days?

Cc @[email protected]

Picked up a dozen hiking the railroad tracks yesterday. Seems I ought to be able to do something creative with them. I usually don't create purely for art's sake, I want it to be practical.

I can wire wheel the rust off but can't heat it enough to work that way.

Was hired as a temporary employee (not through an agency) for one year and was told by HR that maybe after 6 months they would consider bringing me on FT. Would it be better to express my interest with HR instead of my manager since they were the ones who originally mentioned it?

Knowing what a privacy nightmare all meta apps are, I'm wondering if there is an alternative option which is more privacy friendly but still has some of the ease and simplicity of some features such as messenger.

I already know there will be friends I can't convince and thats fine, I may just have to accept that. But if I could avoid using it as much, I'd really like to.

I am of the age to have kids, some of my friends have them, but I have mixed feelings about it, just wondering about other people's experiences.

By that, I mean what's thing have you done that's the most likely for someone to react with "how the heck could you have done that on accident?"

My example: I successfully cooked a prime rib on accident. I was in charge of the house while everyone else was gone, and there was a prime rib slow-cooking in the oven. The problem was that a mist was coming out of the vents, and I didn't know it was normal. So I'd see the mist, turn off the oven, call my parents and grandfather, they would assure me it's normal, I'd turn the oven back on, and the cycle would continue because I don't risk that stuff. When they finally came home, we had the prime ribs for dinner, and the way I caused it to cook actually improved it. They bit out of it and immediately said "this is the best prime rib I've ever had". Thus I accidentally cooked a good prime rib. That's a positive experience anyways.

What some might say is my most profound negative example: There was a Minecraft level that was a replica of the whole nation of Denmark, and while the features that would allow it to otherwise be destroyed were disabled, I accidentally found the glitch that led to its demise and eventual conquest by America.

4chan has become unbearable due to a ridiculous rule that, coupled with some of the worst choices in moderation staff, has turned even the slower, thematic boards into some of the least free-speech-friendly places on the internet. And when I'm saying "free speech" I don't mean slurs or being mean to people in general, I mean expessing all kinds of opinions that local moderator might not like, most importantly discussing their unjustified actions regarding deleted posts and blocked users. Citing the rule that made this happen:

8. Complaining about 4chan (its policies, moderation, etc) on the imageboards may result in post deletion and a ban.

The community is only 13 days old. Frequently I see post on all from either the mod or new accounts all ranting about bch or related sites and they’re all super excited to tell you about it. I mean look at the pinned post and replies for goodness sake.

All new accounts. All just loving bch so much and super excited to tell you about it. A lot of the posts have strikingly similar formats too. Like bold sub-title paragraph of text and repeat. Reeks of botting/astroturfing. Just me or nah? Im going to post again regarding lemmy being cool with bots auto posting links to off site frequently, but that’s a rant for another day.

Imagine suddenly you no longer exist, poof, from one day to the next there is no more you.

What if you knew that this day would come in a month?
What if it wasn't for another year?
Or in 5 years?

Would you spend your remaining time differently than you do now?
If so, why aren't you already doing it?

My position is that it's a snack and husband tax must be paid. My wife is arguing that it's a meal or occupies some third food space and it's entirely hers. Who's right, court of Lemmy?

Could be from a show and/or movie.

I was gonna go try to feel righteously validated for a pet peeve of mine over at Unpopular Opinion, but it's closed. Then I saw this post and it describes some concerns with moderation policies, but the link it references has a bunch of crossed-out text, and I was just wondering if someone is willing to write out the detailed explanation of what happened and what the controversy is.

Now, no doubt this is my own dumbarse fault, but I'm coming to find that relying on Imgur to preserve my pic-content across the mini-articles I write and share on the Lemmysphere is just... well, I mean it's just so utterly hit-or-miss that it's become completely unreliable, daggit.

For example, I happened to check on the Satania review I first posted ~10mos ago, and discovered that the Imgur page source had been deleted without notice, altho oddly, the lead full thumbnail / image still remains. Like, what...?!

Point is-- there seems to be utterly no rhyme nor reason for the image deletions, whether the content is uploaded via official acct or not, or is kid-safe vs NSFW stuff, or is new vs old stuff, or even via file-size issue (I think, not totally sure).

Anyway, yeah... it's clearly past time to get the hell out.

So what would you recommend, mateys, and how reliable do you think that host is? (I'm completely cool with paying a monthly fee via PayPal in order for our content to last)

Note: the lead pic is just an anti-Imgur thing I randomly discovered, lol.

Just seemed like a fun question. I have been getting Kroger brand, and they seem to have a lot more plain fat chunks than they used to. And usually fat is where the flavor is, but these seem flavorless. But what else makes a good bacon bit? And what is your favorite brand?

Would be moving from Mullvad, would appreciate opinions on the current landscape of VPN’s from those who keep a better eye out. TIA.

Literally the headline. Not illegal at all is best of course.

I'd like to have a sort of reverse Warrant Canary of sorts, that will pop if security is breached