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Filler and injections.

Overalls. Can't handle em

Big boobs.

thanks to all the men in the comments providing women with a free incel blocklist. your opinion may be useless, but at least no one appreciates you.

Not a beauty standard per se, but I don’t like tattoos one bit.

It used to be “rebellious” to have a tattoo, but nowadays it seems like everyone has one - so maybe the truly rebellious thing now is not having them.

"Beauty has to be gendered"

I think you don't need to "look like a man" or "look like a woman" to be pretty

My favorite people, and probably yours too are not 10/10 hotties. The people I want to spend time with are funny and kind.

Chasing 'beauty standards', I feel, is a waste of your human potential. That time can be better used building friendships and community. Isn't that what most people really want?

If people focused their time there instead, maybe they would feel more accepted, confident and worthy instead of trying to shortcut their way to perceived success by altering their bodies. I find it sad that the digital age has pushed humanity so deeply in to 'comparative society'.

Confidence is the hottest most attractive thing to me in the end.

Flat stomach

It looks gross

I've never dated a woman wearing false nails. The same with botox.

Also, I'm not seduced by make-up. Contrary to false nails, I don't mind it, I find it useless. I like to look at actual people, and I may even feel attracted to some of them. I'm not interested as much in looking at the fantasized image people may have of themselves.

I'm also not obsessed with a person looking young, meaning I don't mind grey hair and wrinkles. Why would I? I do wear my own wrinkles with no worries, alongside those (short) grey hair I would have on top of my own big head if I was not completely bald.

Not considering the body itself, there is a 'sexy' thing that always left me wondering what was so hot about them: high heels.

I mean, I get it they help shape the legs. But they're also quite obviously less stable to walk with and they seem rather uncomfortable to wear for hours. I would tend to favor the company of a woman able to go out for a long walk with me, be it in nature somewhere or to visit some art gallery or museum in town.

Septum rings. They just remind me of cows.

Tabs over spaces, always

... wait, you're asking in asklemmy, not programming...

Uhhh... that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc

I don't get why people try to hide freckles. They're so unique!

Not everyone is beautiful. Most people are average and many are not attractive.

Obesity is not beautiful. It is unhealthy and honestly delusional.

Edit: Most people are thinking of this when mentioning obesity.

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=real+obese+people+&t=h_&iar=images

Not this.

https://duckduckgo.com/?q=heavy+rugby+players&t=fpas&iar=images

Complaining about the BMI scale is a disservice to those who truly need to lose weight for their health.

Fake eye lashes. Holy God do they look stupid but somehow are so normalized. No idea how some women find the courage to walk outside with what look to me like Muppet eyes.

For the love of God ladies, tone it down. Your eyes are beautiful as they are! Mascara is one thing, but if I feel a fucking breeze every time you blink, it’s gone too far.

Beards. I never understood why some women find it so sexy. But I am okay with people having different tastes. What is icky is that some women have made such a huge deal about them that it gets borderline unfair for men who don’t want to bother with grooming or those who cannot grow a full beard.

Symmetry.

Overly full lips. There's a bandwidth there where it should fit the rest of the facial features. Filling them up with collagen just almost never looks good.

What always disturbs me, and it seems worryingly prevalent on The Apprentice, is drawn-on eyebrows.

Long hair.

Shorter is better.

Ultra low body fat, e.g. high fashion models, bodybuilders. You don't see it that much in real life, but it's pretty heavily promoted in media. Plus the dehydration thing for bodybuilders, I hate that 'saran wrap' look.

I've always disliked plastic surgery, botox and heavy makeup. But that's normal enough

My real hot take is I am disgusted by long, fake nails. They make my skin crawl. They're so cumbersome, I truly don't understand how people love with them

Edit: Thread is locked; it somewhat spiraled from what I originally envisioned for the discussion. Just wanted to dump by thoughts in this edit.

I created the thread from a perspective more of pointing out things people do to their bodies in the name of "fashion" or "beauty" that are invasive, cumbersome, or unnecessary, when people should be proud of the bodies they have. Some took this in the same light but others didn't.

I would have liked to have a whole discussion about it, communicate my perspective a little more clearly, but by the time I came back after work to view the monster I'd created, the thread was locked. It's a shame that we couldn't have a more mature and nuanced discussion about what it means to follow a beauty trend to everyone, but I suppose it's better that rhetoric not escalate