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The emergence of social media has destroyed all the small communities to standardize communication and information.

It's a bit of a digital version of rural exodus. And since 2017/2018, I've noticed that everything that, in my opinion, represented the internet has disappeared.

I've known Lemmy for a few hours and I feel like I'm back in the early spirit of the internet.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (5 children)

Only a fool or a 12 year old would think otherwise. Back in the late ‘90’s, the web had a great sense of community. On forums, IRC, places like Cybertown, etc. You had smaller communities where you could reasonably know most users. They had a human scale; like a friendly neighbourhood.

Modern social media is definitely terrible. It happened because we were too welcoming. Back in those days, the web was a nerd domain. We all shared the same sort of interests and optimism for the future of the web. You had to BE a nerd to get online. To WANT to be online.

But now that it’s too easy for everyone to get on, the idiots have taken over. We really should kick everyone off the web who can’t name at least three characters from either Star Wars or Star Trek.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago (5 children)

Star Wars or Star Trek.

This is what the sociologists call "eurocentrism"

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago
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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

Nah. Just corpos.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You don't consider Lemmy to be social media?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago

For me, "Social Media(tm)" requires algorithm based media to be delivered to you without your input and heavy advertisement model attached that introduces corptate bias.

Lemmy is more like a fancy forum. Not quite the same as old bbs forums, but still better then twitter, facebook and whatever the hell reddit is becoming.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Does anybody not think that?

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It's not social media that did it. It's monopolistic, unregulated, greedy, giant tech corporations that made the internet shitty.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

It's not 2017-18 social media, friend. It's just late state capitalism.

And the lion's share of it can be traced to increasing real estate and rent prices.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

If it's just the op, then where did all these articles come from!? Social media for ants!?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago

social media has destroyed the spirit of the internet?

I’ve known Lemmy for a few hours and I feel like I’m back in the early spirit of the internet.

I mean, Lemmy is social media. You might dislike centralized social media or something, but...

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago

My nickname back in high school.

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago

Yes. You are the only one in the entire fucking world.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You really think you're the first one, much less the only one, to say that? Really?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

just because someone wasn't the first to say something, doesn't mean they shouldn't say it

[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's nice. Don't know why you're telling me I never suggested remotely that.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You really think you're the first one, much less the only one, to say that? Really?

[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You want to walk us through that one Magellan because I'm curious to see how you're gonna get from A to Z.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 days ago (1 children)

do you need a detailed tutorial to get from A to B?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (6 children)

Nah, you're going to need way more steps than that.

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[–] [email protected] 69 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Not social media. Capitalism.

The internet was ALWAYS social (e.g. telnet). It wasn’t ruined by people using technology to connect, it was ruined by capitalism finding new, insidious ways to monetize the human social drive.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

This is why I'm finding more and more that it's easier to find local events the "old fashioned way" (word-of-mouth, flyers, local newspapers and zines, etc) rather than through social media. It used to be easier to see events local to me, but now the algorithm pushes events that I may like but aren't local at all. Sometimes I do actually see something local, but it's too late.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 week ago (4 children)

i think the difference is that before the internet was a social mesh of countless websites.

while today it's just a handful of social media sites.

yhea, it's capitalism, but social media is the main tool capitalism used.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

The old internet was just an intermediate stage between the standardised internet, and before the internet when you had to find a clear channel through the ionosphere. Congratulations, however old you are, you've lived long enough to be bitter that the world has changed.

Now if we're talking about the specific way it's developed with a new generation of robber barons controlling everything, obviously few here will disagree.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Forums are dead, replaced by unsearchable fb and discord and searchable reddit. Discord being completely unsuitable and other two being propaganda platforms and most users use them to farm e-fame.

And nobody agrees to drop them for any reason either. A few years back entire fb sized sites were dropped and replaced over the smallest of infractions.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago

Which Douglas Rushkoff book is this concept again? I've lost track.

The internet keeps dying again and again. It started as a research project turned into a way to aid research. Then the sphere grew as nerds found a space to connect with other nerds. It was a community space where people knew each other. The only big source of trouble was each year, in September, when a new crop of kids gained access to the internet at their college. They had to be educated in the social structures and ethos of the culture they were stepping into.

Then, in the early nineties, the spirit of the internet died, in the Eternal September, as ISPs encouraged non-nerds to enter the cyber world. The community was flooded with more new people than could ever be trained to follow the cultural standards that had been established, and so they simply overwhelmed the capacity of the society to maintain itself.

Then those people began creating a new culture, a multiculture, with communities and sites forming around anyone with a bit of passion they wanted to share with the world wide web. People taught themselves web development just to share pictures of their families and poetry about their favorite trees.

But then, the spirit of the internet died. Advertisers wanted to take advantage of the new space to which everyone seemed to be devoting so much attention. They started monetizing sites. Creating sites became less and less about sharing your passion, and more and more about generating ad revenue.

And the internet persisted. Despite the disgust of the users, nothing seemed to stop the influx of capital into the community. And then came encryption, allowing people to even buy and sell things online. The internet died again, becoming a giant mall, a place you went to find stuff to buy rather than people to talk to.

And then came social media. It took the idea loved by so many of the early pioneers of the internet, that everyone could have their own site, dedicated to whatever they loved most, and centralized it. Friendster, sixdegrees, MySpace, and so on. With this change, the spirit of the web died again, commercializing even the idea of your personal page, your digital representation of yourself.

It has died. It will die again. Nothing can be relied upon.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Social media is just a symptom of the larger problem which is the corporations prefering to build walled gardens so they can control users rather than the open protocols that defined the early internet. Back in the day, I used to call it "everything becoming facebook".

Social media is fundamentally a moat - a wall built around a set of consumers to keep them away from competitors. Investors love moats. If you whisper as quietly as you possibly can to yourself "I found a company with a wide moat that no one is talking about yet" JP Morgan himself will literally burst through your wall like the Kool Aid Man. They love it because it avoids competition, and as much as competition is the whole point of capitalism, it's the last thing an actual capitalist wants to deal with.

A big part of what made the early internet super valuable was the opposite of moats: open protocols. For example how GMail can send email to Yahoo or any other email provider. If Google had their way, that's not how email would work at all - you'd need a google account to both send and receive emails. That's why these companies have been trying to kill email for ages, trying to get people to use their own proprietary messaging systems instead, where you can only send to others with an account. Then they could capture you and keep you all to themselves.

Which brings us to the fediverse. The fediverse is an attempt to return to open protocols rather than creating a moat around a group of users. In many ways it's like email - your email provider might cut off a server if it's just sending spam all day, and this is basically defederation. But otherwise nothing stops you from communicating with anyone, and that's how it should be.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago

Social media is a great idea, honestly. What's ruined it is the same thing that ruins everything - money men.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago

We have the technology--we can rebuild it

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Throughout history, every village had one idiot, two max. And maybe one psycho.

Today thanks to the power of the internet these idiots and those psychos can unite and create big communities and represent a strong unified force in the world.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I fucking hate anyone on the internet who starts with "am I the only one..." Its so tired, lazy, lacks creativity, and has a touch of narcissism or inability to be self-aware.

But this!

Holy shit. For anyone to truly think they are the only ones to have considered social media to be such a bad thing with 7-8 billion of us and social media for 20 fucking years.

Absolute garbage. Get a mirror and do some reflection OP. Holy fucking shit.

And for the record.... NOBODY is the only one for anything. Pick a different I tro for once. Holy god damned shit.

I can only hope some twatwaffle responds to me merely saying "This."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Am I the only who who thinks they are overreacting a little?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

You feeling ok buddy?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 week ago

I don't blame social media at all. The Internet was, and still is, a communications platform. Some form of "social media" has always existed on the internet even if they were not called that back then.

I blame doing shit for the sole purpose of making money to be what has fucked up the internet. At least it's only fucked on the surface. The real Internet still exists, it's just not right out in the open where any random normie can find it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Most people aren't made for the internet.

Most people can't handle the type of information. Most people fall for rage-bait, hate-inducing, right-wing propaganda.

We need to find a way to make the internet a thing where there's only people on it who actually want to use the internet in a healthy way.

One way to do this is to say no to commercialized parts of the internet. Say no to all commercial platforms selling ads or selling your data. These are full of rage-bait and only attract the worst in humans.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

Reminder if you want this platform to continue to exist, you should donate to Lemmy. Devs, your instance, your favorite app, etc. If you can’t afford to donate, try and recruit a few of your friends to Lemmy.

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