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this issue of such a massive proportion can only be solved with intention—it’s not getting fixed by accident. recognizing the problem is the first step.
I do agree that the reports and downvotes of topics geared toward women are very widespread which is exhausting, and can make it hard to talk about the things you want to. Most of the virulent, misogynistic comments get removed quickly but often the damage is already done by then. I have learned over the years on the internet that sometimes I should let womens', trans' and other races' people's spaces be their spaces, and check carefully if whatever I have to say really adds to the conversation or just minimizes/drowns out the opinions of the minority audience the community is for. So I have had the urge to participate but have backed off. I'm a bit torn because the lack of activity can also make a community feel unwelcoming, but I am concerned that even my most well-intentioned comments could have a blind spot or inherent bias that makes it also unwelcoming.
The solution I see is that a woman safe-space instance is needed, whose admins ban misogony, unhelpful comments and reports, mass downvoting etc., to the point where some might feel the actions are like PTB. Beehaw has a strict moderation stance, they even defedded from lemmy.world due to the amount of toxicity they had to deal with, but they are able to curate a more welcoming experience. We are still "early days of Reddit", it will take time and effort from users of all genders to make it a better place.
Tbf, i wouldn't recommend Lemmy to anyone i know either for more reasons including this
One of my first experiences on Lemmy was a bunch of mens rights activists celebrating a women's tech job fair being overrun by men.
I'm not surprised that this is a problem. Lemmy's main demographic is the tech obsessed, that's always going to be filled with misogynistic neckbeards.
the tech obsessed, that’s always going to be filled with misogynistic neckbeards.
Generalizations are hateful.
Back when I used Reddit, one of my favorite subs was TrollX. If we had a sub with that spirit, it would be a good start.
Are there secret communities on Lemmy? Not that secret communities should be a default, but I was invited to a secret sub on Reddit years ago that was all women. It was a true safe space from harrassment, where we could talk about feminine things that we knew wouldn’t gain traction in main subs. I have no idea how it started, but I knew that users who were invited to join had previously been vetted by the sub’s mods - they saw that I’d made feminist posts and multiple comments about being a woman, and didn’t go around picking fights. It was like a background check.
I don’t believe there is any one solution, but starting with dedicated communities (in the spirit of TrollX), with mods that smack down misogyny and (actual) trolls, sounds like the best way to start.
Let's get away from the "X chromosome" bit now that we're not stuck with Reddit's bad names
It doesn’t need to be called the same thing.
I’m also not sure if it matters, but Troll X and Two X Chromosomes were very different subs. Troll X was more of a spin-off, and was never strictly for XX women - it was trans-inclusive by default. That’s what I’m hoping for here too.
Thanks for the enlightening thread. And that puts a dampener on the enthusiasm that I was feeling for this place. Not that I should be surprised or anything.
I might misunderstand how things work here but it sounds to me like if entire communities are getting bombed by downvotes, then it's the various admins across instances that are allowing this to happen. And it puts a bit of a dark cloud over this place now for me.
One of our admins was banning people if they saw you only downvoting. This place is so much better than reddit, that growing pains are fine with me.
I think it's much better then literally anywhere else on the internet. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen, but unfortunately everywhere else is worse. As such, I'm not sure whaz the solution is for Lemmy in particular.
Everywhere where it seems "better" is just moderation making it seem like that.
So you're saying the moderators on Lemmy aren't making the space seem safe for women?
I haven't seen any comments not removed by moderators. Unfortunately there's a time discrepancy between comment made and action taken.
If this time discrepancy didn't exist, I think we'd be perfectly fine.
I don't think there is a way to have real time moderation without having bs like pre-approval of messages or AI snake oil. Which I am strongly against.
Something like automod might work, but then you're just playing the linguistic cat and mouse game with the people who want to be shitty and are willing to test boundaries.
Yes. It does not work without severely limiting what people are allowed to say. I do believe anonymous communities don't work without moderation, but I also believe blanket censorship is bad.
I have no good answer :(
The is why dull_mens_club gives me really bad vibes. Any similar community aimed at women would be harassed into oblivion.
Any similar community aimed at women would be harassed into oblivion.
And why is that a problem with dull men's club? I mean I'm not subbed to it but it occasionally appears in my feed (I browse /all) and it seems to be just what it says on the cover: A dull men's club.
Not good. We need Lemmy and the fediverse represent all people as a whole if er hope to become the standard backbone of internet communication.
It's especially jarring coming from Mastodon, which is broadly more diverse than Lemmy. I've witnessed some really questionable comments here during the last year. I really hope something can be done to improve things. I think a feminist-specific instance might be the best option, much in the way someplace like Hexbear has managed to create a fairly strong community bloc with strong core beliefs.
I don't think creating more echo chambers is the right thing to do tbh
Sadly hexbear doesn't have a ton of really active comms specific to women. Though at least they're very aggressive removing misogyny across the instance. It's been categorically less stressful posting on hexbear vs the rest of lemmy simply because I'm not then checking an inbox with replies/dms calling me 'removed' or 'it' or other charming insults.
Removing downvotes makes sense too, though I also like keeping them and using them to ban people abusing it. The voter is only visible to admins though.
I would moderate it :(
You don't need to ask anyone's permission to create a Lemmy community.
It seems to be one of the problems where Lemmy feeling a bit like old Reddit is really, really bad. Remembering from back then, it took many years of concerted effort and dedicated subreddits attacking sexism (that were in turn harassed and hated on by the "mainstream" Reddit audience, like SRS for example) to slowly change the culture. And it's not like Reddit is some sort of safe haven even now.
So, something like Hexbear's the_dunk_tank, but against bigotry? Not sure any of the admins on the Fediverse would allow a community like that. Everyone in charge here seems very anti-drama, which is another word for pro-status-quo
Yup, that's a problem. Specially because, once the gender ratio gets too skewed towards one side (it is), the Petrie multiplier kicks in; then the sexism targets each woman more and more frequently.
Potential solutions that I see for the problem:
The admins could try banning sexist men, but that'll never happen
The admins of what? There is no singular "admins" of the Fediverse. That's kind of the whole point.
I understood "the admins" as "a meaningfully large amount of the admin teams of the Fediverse". Collective action.
I still don't read it that way, but assuming it is, that is still unreasonable. There are simply too many differing viewpoints, by design. The best option for this sort of thing is to start a female focused instance. It won't be able to affect the wider fediverse directly, but it would be able provide the space that is seemingly absent atm.
I think that it would be a good start. But only a start; sexism is a social problem, so even if you ban the individuals saying sexist stuff, you still see sexism elsewhere.
And even if you ban overtly sexist users, others will keep:
etc.
That's still aggravating, you know? You can't pinpoint why but it still makes you feel unwelcome.