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[–] [email protected] 0 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

You are asking mostly nazi Ukrainian supporters, for a war where actual success of nazis, means nuclear strikes on USA.

Let's just say Lemmy is incapable of unsticking head from ass. Militarist nazi diminishment of russia, but with higher minimum wage and healthcare? Sign them up

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 weeks ago

I look back over history and see that every system of social organization ever was rigged against the people at the bottom, and then I look further back into nature and see that nature is literally trying to kill you all day every day, and I just take it as par for the course.

Our current system is less rigged against me than would be literally any other system under which I might have lived at any point in the past. I’m more free and supported than almost any other human who has ever lived, and for that I’m grateful.

I guess you could say I deal with it via the deliberate choice to be grateful, and to ignore the people who think I’m foolish for being grateful.

My mental health is certainly better than it would be if I chose to be bitter and resentful of the facts of existence.

Being surrounded by hostile forces that want to exploit and eat me is just part of existence. I am also surrounded by forces that want to nurture and assist me. I focus on those.

The ideal is to be capable of fighting a war, and capable of laughing in easy joy at the same time. Why? Because existence is war, and war is dreary and miserable if it’s the only thing that exists.

Elie Wiesel wrote in Night about finding freedom while strapped down to a table being tortured by concentration camp guards. It’s hard to find a scenario in which a person is more fucked. But it was there that he discovered the freedom of his spirit. If he can be free in that situation, I can be free in this situation.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Every day is a step towards my plan leaving this country and going back to Korea

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 weeks ago

I submit to it while kindling a fire inside. For the rest of the day escapism. Everyone is just doing escapism.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

I've been looking for a mutual aid organization to join and looking into what it takes to get a gun in my state. Bleak, I know lol

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Quite frankly, a big part of managing the stress when looking at the macro-political situation and how that intertwines with the macro-econonics and fucks up the microeconomics of households, is to not dwell on it. Too much doomer content bringing you down? know when to stop consuming and do something else. There's a point where you cannot change it and making yourself depressed thinking about it too much is just going to make your own life shittier.

I also work hard to find the best path to survive, thrive and live my best life. Sometimes that means taking some time to learn the rules of the game that's set up so you don't dive head first into the pitfalls that are setup for those who don't pay attention to the rules. Learn more about the big scary words at play as you sign up for an insurance plan, and what they mean. Learn about interest (both on your debts and your funds) and how interest plays into your finances, how to budget and figure out what you can afford, and how to financially improve upon your previous choices that occurred either due to lack of knowledge or due to making the least bad decision available to you at a given point in time.

But also make sure to find joy and happiness in a bunch of different timescales to both be happier and improving yourself so that no matter how mundane your life is, you have sparks of joy to keep you always looking forwards to something:

  • Small affordable indulgences, be that a yummy food like a small block of aged cheese, or maybe a small lego set or a small game. Whatever makes you happy that you wouldn't normally spend on
  • Take a moment to appreciate something in your environment. I like to take a minute to look at the stars every time I'm outside at night, but also actively take in the trees and patches of woodland and how they're currently reacting to the weather. If you can keep a small plant, just checking in on your little potted plant every day can bring its own joy in caring for your little buddy
  • Find a creative outlet, no matter how much you suck at it, just find something you can make that you enjoy making
  • Pick something fun you can look forwards to at all times that's just around the corner. A club that meets monthly to do a hobby you enjoy does well. I then try to also make sure to find some excuse to get together with friends and spend a little more money than I otherwise would every few months so its extra special and I can really look forward to those get togethers.
  • Start exercising regularly. Your body was made to move, and making sure you're actually using your body and pushing your muscles a bit 3-5 times a week is amazing for both your general health but also your mental health too. Take a walk, ride a bike, make a fool of yourself on a dance floor, struggle to do a pushup/pullup. It doesn't have to be structured, just something to actually move your whole body throughout the week and actually use your muscles

TL;DR STOP DOOMSCROLLING AND GO POKE SOMETHING WITH A STICK...it might even be a little fun

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

I appreciate this comment.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

I think about how much worse it would be if I was in another paradigm where even expressing such an opinion would get me punished, jailed, or killed, then go on with my day.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

I don't let them win over my soul. I'll never believe that capitalism is good. I'll never let them that money is more important than people. And if someday enough people believe the same as me that things start to change I'll be there to help make that change happen.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Currently taking a sabbatical from giving a shit about anything.

Got assaulted, seriously injured, car got stolen, lost my job working at a non profit helping the homeless, became homeless, spent a year that way, racked up a whole bunch more injuries.

Managed to qualify for SSDI, got on a bus, rode halfway across the country in horrible agony to find a shithole I can afford to rent, with just the clothes I had on me.

Its been about a year now, doing my own physical therapy, slowly recovering.

Can't afford actual physical therapy, couldn't get to it anyway.

Maybe sometime next year I'll be able to get my glasses replaced.

Maybe if I get to the point I can walk or use my wrist for more than 10 minutes at a time I'll look into some kind of remote work... or just make a video game or something.

...

How do I deal with it?

Just keep living, one day at a time.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

If you want to make a video game I'd be willing to help, I've started a few and have learned a lot of the ins and outs. I'm partial to godot myself

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

Maybe when I can actually use my wrist or sit in a chair for more than 30 minutes without extreme pain...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 weeks ago

volunteer, support local, and play music

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 weeks ago

I do what I can when I can. Hopelessness hinders the change I can make

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Invest in people.

Barring that: move to somewhere that is better for investing in people.

Doing better with only a focus on money, within a capitalist framework, will absolutely challenge your morals and ethics from time to time. Investing time in people, and community in general, has no such downside. Also, you'll need both to ascend Maslow's Hierarchy and be a well-rounded and healthy person around here. Succeeding in this area will also shift your viewpoint away from purely financial matters, or worse yet, basing your self-worth on your financial value to the market.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago

I try to maximize my time doing things I actually like doing. I don't have control over the rest of the hell hole, but I can try to make my small part of it bearable. Even better if I can share the enjoyment with others so they can escape, if only for a while

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

i cry a lot and smoke a lot of weed lol

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)
  • To be or not to be
  • But that's not the question
  • How to be me
  • If I'm more than a profession
  • Won't leave me be
  • If only to form a question
  • While I try to want to be
  • So I cope with the trope
  • Choke on their smoke
  • And pretend I learned their lesson
  • Wait for a rift in the grift
  • And not drift into depression
  • Hard to try an ignore the lie
  • So they can worship their myth
  • To give their false confession
[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 weeks ago

It's kind of like trying to cope with the reality of death

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 weeks ago

Pretty easily.

I live my life and care about the people around me. I ignore things I can’t affect.

The sky is not falling. The ground is right here and things are generally OK for most people.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 weeks ago

I don't want to overstate this, but some liberation can come from within.

Yeah, we all have to play their game, but internalizing the values our sick society places on us is optional. Make peace with the things you alone cannot immediately change. Resist in the small ways you are able, find joy where you can, and do what you can for the people you care about. Free your mind and your ass will follow.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 3 weeks ago

Me and my family have been doing really well since we escaped the leftist venezuelan dictatorship.

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