are you on *.ml?

that's their whole game.

block .ml and most of the people deliberately picking fights should up and vanish.

i say that as very rarely experiencing what you're describing, especially compared to other social media platforms

Self selection I assume. You need a certain mindset to go the long mile of actively being on lemmy, and that mostly overlaps with an hypercritical attitude.

Or maybe that's just me.

I wasn't sure what you meant, so I decided to check your profile and see if I could find some examples you responded to... And I learned a lot about you in the process. You sent a single person a lot of "why are you angry" comments. You get into a LOT of arguments on politics subreddits, and even defended Kyle Rittenhouse. You noted that you need to tell people you're left wing, because the things you say convince them you're not.

At a certain point, the reason why so see so many angry people might be that you're the one pissing them off. Or at the very least, you're seeking them out.

Challenge them and they mostly back down and come to their senses. Failing that, block them. They're so sad it's not worth your time. I imagine they live very lonely lives arguing on the internet with strangers.

You will need to block a bunch of people when you first join, or move to an instance that has already done that for you.

... or use a platform that automatically hides comments that get lots of downvotes. I looked in your posting history - the comments you remarked about being angry didn't even show up for me.

... and filter out US politics & Israel politics. You'll need an app/platform that lets you define filters, tho.

I think a lot of it has to do with an* impending sense of anomie. Something someone said to me once that I'd have done well to heed earlier: Don't take what people say personally, especially if they mean it personally. The idea being it's probably more about themselves than you.

Me waiting for someone arguing there are no angry guys here.