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My experience on this platform has been mixed so far but one thing I've noticed the most is a significant contingent of the user base is really reactionary in their discourse.

This is a very typical exchange I have here :

User: I don't like this color because it's red.

Me: I don't know, looks more like purple to me. What about red is bad?

User: Why don't you fuck yourself in the face you fucking cuntfuck!

Me: OK...

Like, what gives? I don't have this experience on other platforms. I have arguments but never this shutdown meccanism.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

are you on *.ml?

that's their whole game.

block .ml and most of the people deliberately picking fights should up and vanish.

i say that as very rarely experiencing what you're describing, especially compared to other social media platforms

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Self selection I assume. You need a certain mindset to go the long mile of actively being on lemmy, and that mostly overlaps with an hypercritical attitude.

Or maybe that's just me.

[–] [email protected] 82 points 2 months ago (12 children)

I wasn't sure what you meant, so I decided to check your profile and see if I could find some examples you responded to... And I learned a lot about you in the process. You sent a single person a lot of "why are you angry" comments. You get into a LOT of arguments on politics subreddits, and even defended Kyle Rittenhouse. You noted that you need to tell people you're left wing, because the things you say convince them you're not.

At a certain point, the reason why so see so many angry people might be that you're the one pissing them off. Or at the very least, you're seeking them out.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Challenge them and they mostly back down and come to their senses. Failing that, block them. They're so sad it's not worth your time. I imagine they live very lonely lives arguing on the internet with strangers.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

You will need to block a bunch of people when you first join, or move to an instance that has already done that for you.

... or use a platform that automatically hides comments that get lots of downvotes. I looked in your posting history - the comments you remarked about being angry didn't even show up for me.

... and filter out US politics & Israel politics. You'll need an app/platform that lets you define filters, tho.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (11 children)

Your filter may have hidden the fact that he posts a LOT on politics, political memes, and world news, and often gets extremely downvoted for what he says.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I think a lot of it has to do with an* impending sense of anomie. Something someone said to me once that I'd have done well to heed earlier: Don't take what people say personally, especially if they mean it personally. The idea being it's probably more about themselves than you.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I think it’s spelled “anime”

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Lets not do that stupid reddit chain comment thing here

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (4 children)

Popcorn

Me waiting for someone arguing there are no angry guys here.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I am SO FUCKING CALM

bet that makes you angry huh? you mad im so calim?

/s /jk

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