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My mum thinks French toast is just bread soaked in egg and sticks everything in the oven at 200°C and I mean everything

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

My mother has been dead for many years, so now I can safely say that she was an awful cook. I still can barely eat vegetables.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

My mom is amazing. My dad eats tomato soup out of the can, cold.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

@x4740N

My mother was awesome at cooking but I never helped or watched her & now I can confidently say I am a better cook than she is.

#cooking #food #parents

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

I am a much better cook than my parents barring two exceptions, my mother is an incredible baker and my dad is a master with an old school barrel smoker (his smoked salmon/trout and ribs are amazing). Outside of those two specialties though neither can cook for shit, I legitimately though I hated pasta and steak until I started cooking for myself at 15.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My mom can cook. My dad is decent. They both can't cook my steak right tho.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

My dad has said on multiple occasions that the best steak he ever made was with just salt and pepper. However, every time he makes steak, he proceeds to put some kind of marinade on it, and it always turns out like leather.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

I learned how to cook from my mom, but in my humble opinion I have surpassed her. My dad, lol he would starve if he had to cook for himself.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

My father was a short order cook for a time, so he could make things (mostly breakfast) just fine while he was alive.

Mother was fine, mostly self taught (grandmother wasn't great) but she thinks her meatloaf was bad. I remember nothing about it so it could not be bad. I remember the bad childhood food. Some neighbors cooking was horrific.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Nah my Mum's great and my Dad's fine

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My mom is decent at cooking, she can follow a recipe and even make a few things on the fly. However she doesn't believe in salt or anything "exotic" (which could be something nearby, like Cajun seasoning)

Dad is decent at grilling, he's more agnostic when it comes to salt. He changes his mind about what he likes and what he doesn't like, sometimes within the same meal, so it's really hard to cook for him.

I will eat pretty much anything, but I rarely get to explore new foods or revisit foods my parents deem "exotic" or "salty"

Unfortunately this includes specific brands/types of food and seasonings/condiments. For example, French's is the only type of mustard that tastes good. Heinz is the preferred ketchup. Hellmann's, the mayo. God forbid someone buys the salt that doesn't have the girl with the umbrella on it. Most veggies are preferred frozen, definitely never canned. Steak HAS to be "fresh" and at least 1.5" thick (or something). No preseasoned meats, those are too salty. Don't get the wrong butter, it's too salty. Don't tell them you're making chili and then give them white chicken chili. Beef, pork, or chicken ONLY. Anything else is "gamey"/disgusting/weird. Only use yellow onions. Don't make mashed potatoes with anything other than russets. Unless they're instant, then it HAS to be the red potatoes. But not the seasoned packets. Don't bake anything with bacon wrapped around it. But, please bake the bacon instead of frying it in a skillet. No turkey, especially not ground turkey. Unless it's Thanksgiving, then you have to bake one. With stuffing. But not that stuffing. Simply Orange orange juice ONLY. And it has to have pulp. One brand/type of coffee ONLY. Unless it's instant, then get this other one. No boxed wine, yuck! Except when the doctor tells them to drink wine, then they MUST have it because the other wines are too dry/bitter/sweet/????. No Asian food. EXCEPT that one dish we had that one time 10 years ago, that was good, what was that again? Mexican food is DELICIOUS, but only from this one restaurant, and it has to be the fajitas, a burrito, or a few tacos. But not fish tacos. And certainly not street tacos - they're too small. Unless my sibling wants street tacos, then everyone LOVES them. Oh, and we LOVE Italian food, but only if it's regular spaghetti noodles or penne pasta. None of that rigatoni spiraly shelly shit. Unless it's pasta salad - then it has to be the multicolored spirals. Or mac and cheese - then it has to be the mini shells. And only KD. None of that Velveeta crap.

...I could go on, but I fear I have revealed too much lol

~~save me~~

Fun times!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I am guilty of some of those preference bits. Like the mustard, ketchup, etc made me chuckle because I can taste a difference or maybe a texture change throws me off. Pulpless Orange Juice? No way! I come from a house where my mom, grandma aunts and uncles can cook professionally a variety of different cuisines and make most of things from scratch, which is exhausting IMHO but to each their own.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Lol fair enough Yeah cooking is truly exhausting to me too

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

They are the best, but they try.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My mom doesn't believe in using salt when cooking. She's actually a decent cook but she tends to make somewhat bland food.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Depending on the dish, I'll under-salt food with the notion that everyone can add salt later to their liking. But again, that's only for certain foods.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My mom can cook well, especially Indian food, but as my parents get older their meals are more bland and simple. They might do it up on special occasions, but we're all getting to the ages where me and my siblings do most of the cooking at family events.

The kids have sort of surpassed the parents. Millennials are all such fucking foodies lol it's almost embarrassing 😋

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Surprisingly my dad is a really good cook and my mom can't cook meat that doesn't feel like chewing on a piece of leather.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

That could be a matter of taste, too. For instance, I love a dry bird, so if I cook a chicken or turkey to my taste most people will complain about it, but I love it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My Mother was a very stereo typical United States mid-west housewife cook. She could cook a protein, a vegetable, and a starch and get it on the table. Everything would mostly taste OK, but outside of salt, pepper, and the occasional herb, the flavors were all the same. She did do a couple of things pretty well. Her meatless lasagna was actually really good.

My Dad could cook pancakes and he did the grilling. That's about it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Wow I guess the stereotypes have to come from somewhere. Would you say they consider food important? I feel like many of my generation are becoming obsessed with sourcing and preparing food, whereas I think when I was growing up we focused more on the company? Idle thought anyway

[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago

Both of my parents are great at cooking. My dad is awesome at practical, healthy, well-balanced meals, and he did most of the day-to-day cooking when I was growing up. My mom absolutely loves to cook but can never just make a straightforward meal - she plans an entire elaborate dining experience from soup to nuts with drinks included. She has a huge library of cookbooks and every time she makes a recipe, she writes notes and feedback in the margin next to the recipe.

I'm more like my dad, but now and again I like making a more elaborate meal, mostly for special occasions. I'm exceedingly glad they taught me to cook - it's such a basic life skill! Some parents never teach their kids, and those kids become adults who can't make much more than scrambled eggs or pasta.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 7 months ago (2 children)

As a kid I always thought that I didn't like steak and pork chops.

Turns out, those things are delightful if you stop cooking them once they reach a safe internal temperature.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Much the same. My parents are shocked that I now eat medium rare steak and don’t instantly die.

Also, turns out meat tastes far better with salt and pepper, to accompaniments my parents didn’t believe in.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Wow I've heard about no spice households, but never thought it would include salt and pepper! You must have loved going to friends' ~~horses~~ houses (lol funny typo) for dinner lol

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

Rarely got invited, but I loved restaurants. My mother also wondered why I developed an interest in cooking at a young age, not realizing it’s because I wanted something that tastes good.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Same, I could never understand people's love for bacon. I realized it is much better if it isn't ash.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

Bacon that doesn’t break in several places when you bite into it?

That’s only in movies.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

They're both terrible at it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

No. I would say not.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

My mom is great at just about everything, except her chicken is always bone dry. She likes it that way apparently.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

My father was not the greatest cook. He could bake pork ribs or chicken legs fairly compentantly, and he could boil potatoes or pasta. But that was the extent of his skills. Anything fried in a pan was cooked beyond recognition. I was in my 20s before I realized steak didn't have to be the same consistency as shoe leather. A common dinner he'd make was mashed potatoes with margarine, topped with macaroni mixed with Catelli meat sauce. It took me a number of years to undo all of that and learn to cook properly.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

My mom was always kinda shit at cooking. So many foods I thought I didn't like turned out to just be because my mom couldn't cook lol

My dad used to be pretty good but at some point he just stopped giving a shit and none of the things I used to love him make, don't come out at all like they used to. The only thing I hated that my dad made growing up was pancakes because he made them with Bisquick and they tasted like a bad dinner roll. He used to make hella good lemon chicken but these days, the lemon sauce is barely flavored and way watery compared to the thick, sticky glaze it used to be.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 7 months ago

I didn't think so when I was growing up, but when I moved out I realised that it was extremely plain food.

My parents were in their formative years in Britain in the '70s, so they grew up living on tinned food and I guess they just never moved away from that. That said, Sunday dinners were always made fresh - they were the best!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

My mother cooks a wide range of stuff that is generally good. I don’t agree with some of the ingredients but the methods and results are solid.

My father used to cook a limited range of decent dishes but seems to have forgotten about that, and has become incredibly lazy about food… if it’s not something frozen he can microwave in 3 minutes, he considers that way too long and too much effort. Their microwave stopped working and had to be replaced, and in the meantime, he was simply flabbergasted and thought he was going to starve to death. He apparently didn’t realize you could heat canned soup on the stovetop.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 months ago

My mom is good at following recipes but doesn't know how to adjust them etc. So meat usually comes out pretty dry. When I hit my twenties and had lived with a few chefs, I changed the game by basting the thanksgiving turkey, initially to mockery by my folks which stopped after they finally had juicy turkey for the first time in years. They now baste.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

Well yes because they are dead.

My dad was a pretty good but infrequent cook, my mom was a frequent and uninspired cook (we got spaghetti, chili, grilled cheese, sort of bachelor cooking but with occasional seafood boils too). They were both busy people.

I am a good cook but it's from years of experimenting and making mistakes. My kids, 3 are good cooks already, 1 is not and none of my step kids are.

But again, I was not a good cook when young. I don't really understand how one can keep making mistakes without learning from them though. My ex was an absolute terror in the kitchen, worst cook I have ever seen, literally burned water once, and he learned and ended up running a little kitchen in a health food store, very successful at using what was available to make interesting food that sold well so I firmly believe anyone can learn if they want to and if they just keep going.

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