Ask Lemmy

I've noticed some instances being very nice overall (hence I'm here) and some being nothing but negative (feddit stood out to me). And occasionally I see a post copy-pasted across a whole bunch of instances with different newly-made accounts sharing misleading news articles.

fortunately, a well oiled block button, and a regex instance filter makes short work of that. I really like lemmy, but just like reddit it's messy

Your perception of lemmy has been tainted by the kind of communities you interact with. You and I have wildly different experiences on this app.

Part of the reason you feel this way may be caused by you being subscribed to unpopularopinion, an inherently contrarian community. If you'd like to be happy, stop following that community.

I also encourage you to avoid engaging in political conversations with non-rational people: It is extremely unlikely that they will change their minds, and even if you do reach an understanding, that conversation is really likely to leave you with a sour feeling.

In comparison, the communities I'm in are mostly about memes, IT, privacy and LGBT stuff. No news about the war, and no political arguments with random, possibly deranged, users.

The instance I'm in doesn't even have downvotes! Depending on how you use lemmy, you can have either really good or really bad experiences. I recommend u to try to avoid conflict, and maybe even switch to a downvote-less instance.

I would say that lemmy is just more realist then naive optimist, since more intellectual people probably use lemmy or even try to fund Reddit alternatives.

Looking at your post and comment history, it looks like you are, yourself, part of the problem. I see a number of pessimistic (or shit-stirring) posts, posts that appear to be in favor of "ancap", and commenting in piracy comms. Sorry to say it but, you may want to examine your own behavior before pointing at others.

It doesn’t seem that way to me. What specifically are you seeing that gives you that impression?

I worry that merely accepting this as presupposed fact will make it more likely to become fact.

Hatred drives engagement on any and all social media. Even ones where everything is made up and the points don't matter.

I've seen very little negativity on Lemmy in almost a year of using it.

I find Lemmy to be about on par with the popular (Front Page) Reddit subs. I tended to stay in smaller, more niche subs than Front Page subs and found them to be more polite and well-written, generally.

Lemmy isn't so bad, but we do clearly get some people who are here because they were banned from Reddit (and sometimes for immediately apparent reasons).

I think there's far more negativity in the comments of YouTube, Instagram, and especially Facebook.

But more than anything, I've seen more posts about negativity on Lemmy. So to me, it almost seems like the people coming to (or on?) Lemmy are more sensitive to negativity, maybe?

I haven't found that at all. I have blocked a handful of communities, but most of them weren't particularly negative, just stuff I didn't want to see.

I see it too

I'm just as guilty of this as the next person sometimes, it sometimes seems like a struggle not to be your worst self online. I'm trying to be better, I think that's what we can do to combat it.

Idk, because redditors came here?

I think it's a facet of the largest Lemmy servers feeling (being?) more ideologically homogenous, itself in part because of how niche Lemmy still is compared to Reddit.

Many of the users came here after the API died and so made joining here an explicitly ideological choice.

People aren't here because their friends are here. Not really. Not yet.

They're here cause they want to be, because this is important to them or their beliefs or their identity.

That's totally valid and good and fine. But u should know and expect that when posting here, especially on the biggest or most general or politically volatile communities.

I've got negative interest in trying any Unix/Linux based OS on my home PC and I'm ambivalent about FOSS, but i recognize that being here will mean that putting up with a certain amount of "Windows bad" that i just have to laugh and shake off or stop coming here

A lot of comments seem to disagree with you, so define Negativity? ( what do you consider to be negative behavior )

Im pretty sure many of my subscriptions are on lemmy and I have not noticed it. I mean there is negativity but its certainly no worse than reddit and not even sure if I can say its way less but I find things more authentic overall.