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Have you ever been rejected just because of your height? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I've seen people consider even 5'7" as short for some reason so i'm curious if it has happened with someone

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I'm 5'6. Yeah. So much. I was rejected like crazy for my height in my teens and early twenties, but I lived in a particularly shitty part of the United States, so I'm not surprised in retrospect. I also dated a ton, so there was a lot of opportunity for rejection. I even remember a woman I was not interested in and had shown absolutely no interest in going out of her way to tell me she would date me if I wasn't so short.

I relocated to a much more progressive part of the country and it hasn't come up once in nearly a decade.

Edit: I should mention it was only an issue with women, I never heard anything about it from men.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

No, but I was rejected because I couldn't drive.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm a tall lady (for my area, though shortest of my siblings), about the average height of guys here, and yeah. Some guys have sounded very accusatory actually - as though I grew tall on purpose to make them feel short. Oddly enough, none of those were literally short guys.

No big deal, I like my height, shorter is not something I've ever wished to be. All 3 of my long term relationships have been with guys about my same height.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

I'd consider myself to not care about if my partner was higher than me.
But if I am really honest with me, I do think it would hurt my pride if my partner was taller.
I am totally fine if equal or whatever else size. But I believe if the personality is near total hit and fits mine, I could totally see past that.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I thought this thread was talking about applying for jobs and was so confused

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 days ago

Sorry, but you are to tall for this rollercoaster :/

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago

My favorite height in a woman is the height of the woman who is interested in me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Being thin will land you there.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Also fat...

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago

I tell people I'm 4'23" and that sorts them out.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'm 5ft11 and I think I just get rejected for being myself rather than my height 🤷🏼‍♂️

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

Same, 5ft11 as well, I think we're both too tall and too short for people.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

I'm a tiny bit shorter than 5'7" and yes, rejected multiple times because of it, but they don't always tell you why, so some of it is speculation. I've dated taller women a few times as well, so it's not that bad. My wife now is a lot shorter though, but I don't think height played much a role for us. If I were much taller we may even be incompatible.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago

I'm 6'2" and I dated a woman taller than me. That was very odd not having to look down or crouch to hug. lol

I dated one woman who was so much shorter compared to me our favorite time to kiss was on the stairs.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I can't ride the go karts at the nearby go kart track because I am too tall 😔

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Flying and being tall is a nightmare.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Whoa what? Since when can tall people fly?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

They keep letting me onto planes!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Somedays average is best.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

same for skydiving.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago

I'm too tall for that. But on a lot of dates i go, the woman tells me that she's glad i'm tall and then tell me a story how they went on a date with a short guy and how awkward that was.

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