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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”

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[–] [email protected] 66 points 6 days ago (9 children)

Yes. My mom, unprompted one day, said:

"Did you guys know that Elon Musk's Dad owns an emerald mine?"

Followed by me saying "yes, did you also know he used slave labor in apartheid South Africa to build it?"

"Well I don't really care about any of that. I just thought it was cool."

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

"We shouldnt have accepted east germany. They just get out money." And that its their fault for getting a dictatorship

"I hit and abused you because i was overwhealmed because of you" (i have adhd and autism)

We dont talk. She doesnt understand why.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

Sounds like your parents might be in financial trouble to say that. Trying to guilt trip you into.giving them money, or expecting you to be a golden goose.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 6 days ago

My relationship with them was already in very thin ice due to repeated trust issues over the years, but what finally sealed it was my coming out to my dad and his response being "it's all because of this woke generation". Coming from someone who I thought had a very left leaning stance, therapy over the following years made me realize just how shitty and homophobic they really were. Turns out I'm probably more bi than gay (also ace), but it still stands.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 days ago

My step dad believes that the history of the physical world is as his mother explained it to him 70 years ago.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 6 days ago (1 children)

My mother did the slitty eyed gesture and said that there were too many chi*ks here, in the car part for a large asian grocery store in the local chinatown that she had chosen to go to, to buy asian food. Yes other people heard and saw what she did, including asians. This was more than twenty years ago so not linked to the current rise of more overt racism.

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[–] [email protected] 120 points 6 days ago (9 children)

My da told me "God does not forgive people who curse his name."

I asked "But God forgives people who sexually abuse kids?"

"If they ask for forgiveness, yes."

wHy DoNt YoU aTtEnD cHuRcH aNyMoRe??? lmao shut up.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

They're not on the same plane as everyone else. Fantasy delusion to the detriment of the living.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

My Dad's gone totally off the rails conspiracy theory nutty.

Fake moon landings, fluoride in the water is mind control, vaccines cause autism and maybe microchips and mind control again, foreign people are simultaneously lazy stealing benefits and stealing all the jobs, my god the racism. He fell into an echo chamber during COVID and hasn't come out again.

The best one was when I was telling him as a healthcare professional on the front lines watching patients and colleagues die that COVID was serious and we should take any opportunity to avoid it and make it better, he told me it was just flu and all fake news.

Yeah I don't talk to my parents much anymore.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 days ago (3 children)

'Gravity is caused by the rotation of the earth'

apparently that's what they taught back when she was a kid

But how even?!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago (6 children)

Well that's how it works in Larry Niven's Ringworld and also Halo. They just thought the earth was a ring.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Maybe cause The force can simulate gravity. That's why you see rotating stuff in sci-fi.

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[–] [email protected] 50 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I found out my parent's computer had a lot viruses because they are dumb and bought a McAffee subscription. I told them, they answered that they knew better than me, I replied that I had a degree in computer sciences, and my father laughed like the fucking idiot he is.

Let's say we don't talk about my job or computer anymore. Also I reduced the visits and phone calls that they had because I'm tired with their bullshit.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (5 children)

My mother telling me I should not think that she makes any money with me. (Backstory: Was living with her, dad paid ~~alimony~~ child support). I was baffled, because even when I lowkey suspected that, it was not even a relevant thing for our conversation at this time.

A few years later, when I wanted to move out for studying it was suddendly a problem, because she could not make the full payments for her house without the ~~alimony~~ child supprt from my dad. So I stayed.

Some more years down the line I finally wanted to move out, as I had a full time job in sight and wanted to live with my boyfriend. I was in my mid-twenties. Basically the conversation was the same as before, she could not pay for her house without me. She could not answer my question how she thought this would work out. Was she expecting me to live with her until she paid for the house? Because this would be up until my forties, maybe longer. The house is not big enough for two families, so it was never an option for me and my bf to move in. Of course I moved out.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago (1 children)

What happened with your mom after you moved out?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

She somehow managed to keep the house, but struggles to this day with payments. Does not want to move in a flat, because the house has more room for possibilities and a garden. Also says I should get the house someday but it is unclear when or how this should take place. She tried to make a deal with me and my boyfriend (now husband) a while ago, but the terms on her side werde very loosley written out and had too much room for malicious intent in the long run. Also the payments are very high, because she made a bad deal in regards of the interest rates, so me and my husband also would struggle financially and we do not want a house this bad.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

Sounds like she wanted you to get a house, so she can move in for free. She's probably claiming you as a dependant, or using you to get more money from alimony or the state if you were living with her

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I told my mom I'm suicidal, she told me she regretting giving birth to me for "being ungrateful", and now I'm even more suicidal and perhaps even a little homicidal.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

My parents are good people, but my mom doesn’t know anything about technology. There was an incident where something was wrong with her computer. I had to go over and fix it. She said she couldn’t get the screen to come on no matter how much she moved the mouse.

The mouse was unplugged, cord hanging off behind the desk.

She said the mouse had somehow popped itself out and asked if there was one that couldn’t do that.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago

Cordless mouse?

[–] [email protected] 73 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (5 children)

Just sitting and having a casual lunch with my dad at work. Sack lunches that my mom had made us! When he nonchalantly tells me that women aren't people and only exist for men's enjoyment. I basically completely froze out of shock as he spends the next half hour trying to use excerpts from the Bible to prove his point.

I haven't had a conversation with him since and that was nearly 20 years ago. Also realized that Christianity is not something I want to be associated with.

Funny thing is that he used to be adamant that god uses Parkinson's to punish only the worst sinners and he's got it now... Apparently there was some engine cleaning solvent my mom desperately tried to get him to stop using? The government banned it because it was giving people Parkinson's so he stocked up on it to prove my mom wrong...

[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 days ago

Using the wrong engine cleaning solvent is a terrible sin and he's being punished for his hubris

[–] [email protected] 31 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Ayyy my da told me that line about women, too!

I also am a woman!

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago

Unhinged!! 😮😳

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[–] [email protected] 87 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I went on a trip to another country. Unfortunately, I had an accident (involving a fucking hurricane) that almost killed me.I had insurance so they covered all the medical expenses, including tickets and accomdations for one of my parents (aka: one of them could come free of charge). They decided that it was a good opportunity to visit the country since one was coming "for free" and they only had to pay for the other one.

Years later, my father told me that they are still paying the debt for the money they spent "because of me" when I had that accident so it was my fault they were in debt.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 6 days ago (1 children)

So just to reiterate: What they're paying off is literally just one of their vacation bills? I mean this would be an odd accusation even if it included other expenses but like... Huh?!

[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Apparently, going from europe to america buying the ticket at last minute is very expensive, they also had to add the stay in the hotel for one of them. For what he said, he spent around 9k euro on that trip (odd, i paid around 1500 for two people). Still, he threw that to me to make me feel guilty of their shitty spending habits. It was some years ago, when our relationship was already ice cold.

They both are shitty parents and now they wonder why I don't talk to them.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Damn. Yeah sounds like a very mature and responsible person 😬 I've got a dad like that too.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

Yeah they... are not good parents. They always were more interested in drinking than in growing their kids. And they both try to make you feel miserable because they now have understood that they lost their children due to their own selfishness and ego.

When he tried to make me feel bad for almost dying in another country, it was the thing that snapped and made me cut the already thin ties completely.

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 6 days ago (4 children)

The day my niece was born, my mom had asked me to wake her up so that she could be there after the birth.

Apparently, me actually doing what she asked me to do turned out to be a grave insult.

She ended up yelling and screaming at me, which triggered me, so I started yelling and screaming at her, and then she hit me with the only thing she could think of to actually hurt me.

See, from before I get into that, I've got to explain that from the time I was 15 until I graduated high school at 17, my mom and my stepdad essentially locked me in my room and only let me out for punishment, which was digging up stumps in the backyard or picking up a rock from one pile and hauling it to another pile, picking up a different rock from that pile, hauling that one to the third pile, back and forth. for eight to ten hours a day, And for going to school, just enough to prevent CPS from being called on them.

There was also a healthy dose of corporal punishment on top of that, being beaten for half an hour or longer for the smallest infraction.

It really messed with my head because I honestly thought like at some point they would come to their senses and realize how absurd the entire thing was and apologize and they never fucking did.

Anyway, now that we've got the groundwork in place, my mom decided she would say the thing that she could think of to hurt me, which was to tell me that her mother, my evil grandmother, had convinced her to do all of those things because otherwise no one would ever love me.

And why is it that otherwise no one would ever love me?

because I'm not white

My mom had shamed the entire family by marrying a Native American and giving birth to his child, And my grandmother, who is evil for multiple reasons, and I'll be glad to go into those, cause may she rot in piss, was a terrible person, had decided that the only way to cleanse the family of the stain of my existence was to psychologically induce my own mother into tormenting me in every single possible way she could.

And so every single time I think about all the opportunities I missed out on and all the times my mom wasn't there for me and all of the times that I was neglected and abused throughout my entire childhood, it all rolls back to my grandmother being a racist cunt, and my mother somehow not realizing that for what it was, and just being a good little flying monkey and doing whatever her mother told her to do with her own fucking child.

So yeah, I was abused because my grandmother is racist, and I didn't find out about that until I was 23 years old.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 days ago (3 children)

Basically anything full on Cult of Personality for Trump plus steadily increasing levels of fundamentalism Christianity. Holidays have been getting.......tense to say the least.

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[–] [email protected] 90 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I’m American: my dad told me a couple years ago that immigrants were “unclean.” I’m almost 40, and that was the first time he’d ever used that phrase. That’s probably the first time I realized how “mainstream” extremism had become, since he has virtually zero online presence.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 days ago (3 children)

This is why red jurisdictions are a "no-go zone" for me as an Asian American first generation immigrant.

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[–] [email protected] 35 points 6 days ago

Parent told me I shouldn't hold it against my older sibling who abused me when I was younger because the older sibling also remembered my birthday and got me toys when I was younger

[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I was like always told to respect them before beating me and telling me how much of a dumb, useless piece of shit I am and that I should be thankfull they did not abandone me and decided to put up with such an eyesore.

I guess they never heard that you have to actually earn the respect and now wonder why I won't call them more than once a week.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Once a week seems to bee a lot given in this case...

[–] [email protected] 9 points 6 days ago (3 children)

The TLDR is my mom is super manipulative and has threatened to kill herself if we don't & if she does my brother will probably follow her.

I know they are both their own people and what they do is their own decision... but I would feel bad for my brother, so I play along once a week.

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