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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 days ago (6 children)

I remember talking about how the sun is relatively small compared to how big stars can get. Then my dad said “wait, the sun isn’t a star…” He basically thought the sun’s technical term was “a sun” and that stars are actually as tiny as they appear to us in the sky.

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[–] [email protected] 49 points 5 days ago (9 children)

While writing my master thesis my professor suddenly left the university. Noone ever really knew why and there was no official statement other than a short sentence on the website that Prof. XYZ has left the department. My master thesis was on hold while I had to find a new professor. My mother, who has always accused me of being lazy and lying, insisted that it was all a lie. When I pointed out the news on the university website, she said: "I don't know how you hacked the website and got it to display your lies, but I'm not falling for your deceit." I am not a computer science major, I studied linguistics.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 days ago

don't we love a trusting parent

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'll forgive you if you come back to God. My crime was finally standing up to her abuse and her insane religious bullshit (at 16) and moving out (at 18). Conditional love, just like Jesus preached lol

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 days ago

some_guy's mother: Something something the gays, I just wish they didn't have to be so in your face about it.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

There's too many.

Off the top of my head, a fav dark one might be their serious quoting the Bible to me about how any child that isn't respectful or submissive should be killed.

Some fucked interpretation of Deuteronomy about stoning a child in public or something.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 days ago (2 children)

My mother used to call me a son of a bitch until I one day replied "I know".

Or

"I don't believe in god because of the things He has done to me, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't believe in Him"

She also talked about her "schizo friend" quite a lot, as if the events were recent, even though there was no chance she had seen the person in over a decade.

We don't speak anymore.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 days ago

Reminds me of a day when my mother and i had a "your mom joke battle" (friendly)
I think it ended when she said something like "your mom is so bad, she only managed to get dumb and ugly kids"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago

See my sibling comment. We also don't speak anymore. But I do send flowers on her bday and mom's day.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 days ago (4 children)

"I love you, but I don't always like you"

Cool. Thanks. Feels just amazing.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 days ago

I love my racist, homophobic mother. I get the statement completely.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

I mean they were probably being honest. Kids are annoying sometimes.

Source: Was an annoying kid.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 5 days ago

Counterpoint: You were an asshole sometimes.

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[–] [email protected] 51 points 6 days ago (3 children)

When I was little, I did something bad (I don't even remember what it was), and my mom got angry with me about it, and I was already crying, and I asked her "Do you still love me?" and she said "I don't know", and that shit has stuck with me forever and I'm sure contributes to the fact that I don't truly trust anyone. If I brought it up to her now, she'd 100% deny it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

Light that gas right up, mom.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 5 days ago (1 children)

That's rough. I still love you, pal.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 days ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 38 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

If I brought it up to her now, she’d 100% deny it

The axe forgets; the tree remembers. It's why we should be far, far more careful than we usually are about throwing around things like that.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

I had moved away a few years and my mother was homeless due to her own choices and lack of effort to do anything. My wife and I were in town visiting her family, and we decided to take my mother out to dinner. During the meal she was (rightly) complaining about the perils of being homeless and having to watch out for the pigs. I suggested that she look into getting into some government housing. You know her response?

"I don't want to be the light in he dark."

If you're as confused as I pretended I was, she means she didn't want to live with/around black people. Which was really fucking surprising to me, considering we had lived with, around, and had been friends with all kinds of POC growing up (as you you tend to do in poor and mixed neighborhoods and when you have to rent out rooms to get by). That level of racism was rather surprising, but she had become toxic as fuck in the years before I moved, so it shouldn't have been.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Reading through this I totally get why the world is the way it is.

Most people are actually really fucking dumb.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago (4 children)

Fifty percent of people are dumber than the average. Of course a much smaller percentage are REALLY effing dumb.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

There's a plurality of people clustering around 100 though, which is why it's the baseline IQ.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

For some reason the conservatives in the UK are really keen on pointing out that the "silent majority are with [them]" on their policies. However, originally that phrase referred to the dead so it all sounds a bit strange when you keep that in mind.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 days ago (1 children)

As they got more and more out there on pre-MAGA conservative media, the unhinged hits just kept on coming. But probably the most unhinged was their belief that "90 percent of Black males are in a gang." Sad.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Had they said that about cops in the US, I would believe it.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 days ago (2 children)

My dad's advice was that the cops are a gang.

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[–] [email protected] 40 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Back when Wicked, the musical, was brand new & the hot topic & it was just so so cool culturally speaking -- my high school choir was going to take a field trip day to go & watch it live in a big city. 🤩 Time off of school, going to this cool musical, it's a no-brainer. Right?

My parents told me I couldn't go because there was a 20-25% chance of snowfall. Combined with a significant 2+ hour commute, there was a chance I wouldn't make it back home by 6:40 PM on a Wednesday night, and that would cause me to miss the hour long 7 PM Wednesday night church services. 🥴🥴🥴🥴

Not even Sunday morning, most of everyone's day of rest. Wednesday. Night. Services. Couldn't even take a chance on missing that. That was...."special".... 🙄 Religious brainwashing at its finest!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

Church of christ?

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 days ago

Going to see witches vs saving your soul, it's a no brainer, really.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

I try to be generous in my readings & assign to others....grace & the best of intentions. So! I take what your parents said and, while not eloquent, you could maybe read it as: they were more frugal in your younger years, saving money "just in case" or whatever. Now that more years have come & gone without horrible financial issue, they have an abundance of sorts, and they feel more confident about splashing a little more cash on you now, and frankly when you are of an age to appreciate it more. 🙂

I've seen people spend stupid amounts of money on newborns, 2-3 year olds, and it's like....you know they won't remember any of this. Right? 🤔 Same with very young kids, yes they'll remember & appreciate certain things, but most of it idk is just kind of lived & lost. So your parents say that, and if it is in good faith with good intentions, I feel that. Kinda. I just wouldn't articulate it like that.

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