Really don't comment on people's appearance unless its positive (and not positive in the sense of "I'm helping them!", like genuine... idk), and even then never with strangers.
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It's really just acephobia.
Leftist and even specifically queer spaces struggle enough with allonormativity as is, but these kinds of takes (calling people prudes for not wanting to sexualize themselves) are just explicitly acephobic, whether they intend to be or not.
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That's not prudish that is reasonable. Prudishness is when people think less of people who enjoy sexualising themselves or demand that perfectly harmless behaviours be 'kept behind closed doors' and so on.
Edit: to be concrete if you find sex as a hobby more controversial than carpentry you might want to examine why. Or if you complain about 'public displays of affection' but think that people whinging about punks playing street music are frustrating boomers maybe you're confusing your own preferences with moral truths.
But sexual liberation is for everyone, including people that want as little sex as possible. It's about a world where we respect each other, and recognise that what people do or don't do doesn't suddenly become a huge fucking deal because it relates to sex and sexuality. Wanting to avoid sexual attention, or not caring one way or the other, is just as valid as wanting to center your whole damn life about it.
We're all just food for worms.
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Pretty reasonable. Calling anyone a prude for their personal decisions about their own bodies and self-expression is uncool. Really, forcing yourself into anyone's space that you are not apart of, and trying to force them to change their behavior for your conformity, especially when their behavior causes no harm to them or you, is antithetical to a culture of diversity and acceptance.
I feel as if a lot of people don't grasp consent that well
People can dress how they like and they shouldn't be subjected to harassment for it
It's that simple
Unless they're wearing something reactionary, in which case, they should be egged until death
What's the vegan version of egging a reactionary mf?
Throwing rocks at them
Bunya nut cannon
Flax eggs
But we can freeze them first so they're hard
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Exactly this.
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grandmas tell the coolest stories
The older i get the more i appreciate people checking in before discussing sex, or mybody, or actually just dont talk to me if youre a sexpositive loser enthusiast.
I will be wearing jeans and a tshirt, don't tell me I won't be sexualised for that anyway.
solidarity.
This might cause a struggle
I hope not, it's an entirely reasonable take.
I made this post because of this recent post https://hexbear.net/post/4904490 which complains about how "prudish" and "puritan" we are.
I usually don't do this but we have been getting an influx of people obsessing over the "loneliness epidemic" stuff and it's starting to bother me.
oh god no. that post sucks ass.
rant, CW: talking about porn and kink, specifically choking
i've noticed this rhetoric, that porn addiction isn't a thing, multiple times here lately. i don't quite get it, but it seems like they're trying to excuse porn consumption as, likee something that doesn't impact anything? which seems very incorrect to me. as someone in bdsm spaces (insert joke about ace ppl being rly into kink here), we've noticed an increase in hardcore acts being normalized in vanilla spaces. this coincides with them being normalized more in porn. the most obvious one is choking. breath play is really fucking dangerous and requires clear consent, but since it's normalized in porn (where consent can HOPEFULLY be discussed off camera), it becomes normalized in vanilla, where consent rules are NOT really heavily used.
and you can argue this is an issue with most cishet ppl, "normal sexually liberated people" as said in the post, not understanding consent, but acting like porn had no influence on this trend is craaazy. and acting like people are evangelical freaks for being concerned about the normalization of hardcore sexual acts through porn makes me s upset
also acting like it's not a real addiction people deal with is super invalidating. obviously anything can be addictive.
i really hope this doesn't become a trend, since this is the only like, site i can use that isn't overly horny and exploitative all the fucking time
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I think both posts are complaining about the same thing: policing each other's behaviors and expression of sexuality.
Maybe a lot of incels/gooners bring their lack of sex on themselves by not considering others desires or experiences. Until they figure that out, they have to be removed from common spaces. The loneliness epidemic is self-inflicted (and exacerbated by patriarchal capitalism).
first pronouns OP on that thread has is they/them, comrade
don't disagree with your point, and it's annoying when people (deliberately, imo) misunderstand the volcel bit, but we don't have to misgender those doing it
Sorry about that, I changed it to be less gendered.
I've noticed that a bunch of dudes with "problematic" opinions all joined around a month ago. And all of them seem to be determined to make this "their space" instead of accommodating their attitudes to match the space.
As a cis(?) white dude, it's basically what we've been taught subconsciously by society, that you need to "make your mark" on a space. Thankfully, this is one of the best places on the internet to call out that sort of behaviour.
Where are they coming from???
My conspiracy brain says 
, but it's probably just coincidence and me not understanding the linear passage of time very well. I say "a month ago" but that could really mean anywhere from 3 weeks ago to 3 months ago.
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As an ace, I would like to add that calling a sex-repulsed ace a prude is aphobic. l'm not sex repulsed myself, but someone asking you to respect their boundaries when it comes to sex-related topics or not being comfortable around sexual media isn't prudish.
hard agree. i absolutely hate being leered at by men and people act like me dressing to avoid that is me falling to the patriarchy, or something? like no, me needing to wear long skirts instead of short skirts to not be leered at isn't on me.
also i am not a prude for not liking random male-gazey sex scenes