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If you dial the resolution back beyond the bed, you have the whole human experience.
Finding meaning within a finite existence framed against the infinite is not easy but, if you pick up your fucking room a little, maybe it can be done with a bit more class and comfort?
Generally speaking, I agree with you, for many people... yeah there isn't really any real compelling reason to habitually do this.
However, there are fairly common circumstances where this does actually make sense:
Maybe you just have a tad of OCD, and well... this'll make you feel a bit more steady and comfortable, and it doesn't really hurt anyone, assuming you're not full blown OCD doing it over and over and over because its never perfect.
Maybe you are mildy to moderately depressed... and... just being able to have any kind of regular structure, regular task that you can accomplish... maybe that means you're not a completely useless piece of shit, and if you can keep up this good habit, and give yourself a pat on the back each time... maybe that means you can start to step up toward more, or bigger tasks.
Maybe you're a bit ADHD, and its... anchoring, helpful, to have that same just bit of predictable structure or routine, to help you get your day started.
Maybe you have a cPTSD / Trauma response to a messy bed from associating it with very shitty situations in your past, and... having a made bed just removes a trigger for you.
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Or maybe you have pets, or toddlers, and don't want to 'lose' them, lol, or have their uh, debris of whatever sort, just get everywhere in the bed.
Maybe you live in a studio and eat food on your bed, clip your nails on it, and you adopt a regular 'crumb removal from your bed' routine as basically just a hygeine pattern, like brushing your teeth or hair or what not.
Maybe your heat went out or its just fucking freezing, and having a properly made bed makes it just a bit warmer to get into for sleep.
Maybe you have very fancy, high maintenance bedding, that will wrinkle and deform if not regularly ... re normalized?
(Yeah I dunno, this is apparently a thing, I am apparently either too simple or broke a man to have ever entertained the idea of a high maintenance bed, but apparently people do?)
I don't do it because I'm lazy, and I'm just going to pull it apart again in a few hours.
Only if you get nothing from it.
Those are the only reasons you've ever heard?
I can't speak for others, but my sleep is not clean. I can wake up with half the pillows I started with, and the duvet sometimes spun a 180, so the buttons are up by my head. Ive woken up with my arm inside the duvet cover.
My making the bed resets all that. Gets the pillows off the floor or out from behind the headboard, and it turns the duvet round again so I can just flick one corner open and climb in of an evening.
Also when Ive lived with dogs and cats. It kept their hair from getting between the duvet and bedsheet, coz I really enjoy the idea of pets using my bed when I'm not.
Also it stops sex sweat from being in the sleep zone
I like it to look nice and neat. Mess and disorder puts me on edge. I like the bed made with the pillows fluffed and throw pillows placed in a certain way. And I do feel like it's more comfortable to sleep in a bed that has been made, because the pillows are fluffed and all the sheets are smoothed out and evenly distributed between my husband and me. I do just get in bed and turn over, I don't rearrange anything, and instead of a blanket I have my hubby for knee support :)
Keeps the dust off your bed
Keeps the moisture in
Better to just leave it in a pile
Exactly, you don't want the bedbugs to feel unwelcome!
But if there was someone I trust enough to be in my bedroom, I’m not going to waste my time convincing you that I do not, in fact, sleep in my bed.
If this is really how you feel, then I suppose I can't dispute you. But this is like saying, "why would I comb my hair? Anyone I want to talk to is okay talking to me as I am."
Sure..... But most people care about things like this. Maybe not explicitly - most people don't explicitly think to themselves "ugh, an unmade bed. What a loser." But on a subconscious emotional level, this is essentially what is happening. As a society, we've decided a made bed looks better than an unmade bed. That you have failed to make your bed prior to someone entering your bedroom indicates a lack of willingness or ability to confirm to social norms. This, then, typically corresponds to individuals with low social status, and lowers others' opinions of you. Again, this happens on an entirely emotional, subconscious level for almost everyone most of the time. But the fact is, it happens.
Hence, when I'm going to have guests in my bedroom, I make my bed. I don't make my bed every day - I just don't care that much. But I will 100% make my bed if I'm expecting someone else to see it, just like I would sweep the floors and comb my hair.
You don't need to remake the bed just for sitting on it, you just need to adjust the bed sheets for five seconds.
Right now, I'm lying down on top of my made bed. There are time where lying down is nice, but Id rather not get under the sheets. Maybe I'm old, but resting is different from sleeping.
But if there was someone I trust enough to be in my bedroom, I'm not going to waste my time convincing you that I do not, in fact, sleep in my bed.
This is just a bad faith argument. No one is trying to convince anyone of that they don't sleep in their bed. A fair amount of grooming is performative as is quite a bit of tidying. I, for one, get a sense of calm when I'm tidying things. I don't believe I'm not going to untidy things and I don't live in stress that things need to be tidied. But I'm mindful of it and attend to it when I have a chance.
When I get up from the bed, I may tug on the corner to remove the me sized indentation, but that's it.
I, for one, don't care if you make your bed or not. But I'd have a tough time sharing a bed with someone who doesn't.
I'll take this a step further - I sit or lie on my bed all the time just to rest for a bit or chill for a bit. For me, a made bed with a blanket on top is just enough to separate the sanctuary of under the covers from the outside world.
Like I don't want to come home after a day of riding around the metro, sitting on a park bench, and then go straight onto my sheets. It'd be akin to rubbing a thousand asses on the place I lay my head at night.
Minor distinction and largely mental, but enough to motivate me to make the bed.
It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.
More comfortable for the cat. She doesn't like it when it's a mess
end every sentence with MOM!
Unpopular maybe, but I agree with you.
I leave my bedroom in the morning and don't really come back until I am ready to go to bed. So the appearance doesn't matter to me.
I prefer my bedding to be how I left it, not all flat and tucked in.
My partner disagrees, so the bed is usually made by them because even if I do it it's not up to standards and I get up and leave for work earlier anyways.
But I get it. The only reason I do it is to be nice to my partner, I could give two shits personally.
If I had an efficiency apartment or something I might do things differently because it's like, cluttered in the whole living space, but otherwise I think it's a waste of time unless you're trying to impress someone.
Because science.
I don't make my bed too, but I swear there is some psychological/ritual shit going on in there. Another example would be why go to the church. Can't we just pray and confess on our own balcony?
Why hang up Christmas lights only to take them down a week later?
Why read when (if) we can inject knowledge into our brain?
Why workout when we can just inject steroids?
Some of there stuff are more of a waste of time than others, and I suspect it is the reason OP has this (un)popular opinion.
It looks nicer and a nice home that looks cared for is worth it on its own. I find it much easier to relax when things around me are tidy. Not making your bed is no different than leaving everything lying around after you're done using it. If you want to live like that, you do you, no judgement, but I don't.
No matter how shitty my day is, at least the bed is made.
Also, the texture of the sheets on your body feels smoother if the bed was made hours before going to bed, than that feeling of untidy sheets. My sleeping position is sideways, the blanket below me, back is cold, feet over the edge, only one leg covered.
I air my bedsheets outside 3 days after changing them, I change them once a week. Also, my bed is for sleeping and the nasty only.
And from personal experience, partners who didn’t make their bed tended to not have their shit together, so I’m kind of biased.
It makes it more comfortable to sleep in.
I have absolutely no idea where that comes from. Do you all sleep like Dracula? My bedding is usually tussled about within minutes of me laying in bed. Blankets balled up for knee support, one leg sticking out for temperature venting. I couldn’t imagine sliding under the covers and laying perfectly supine like Vladimir Lenin.
You fold your clothes after you clean them? Why, your clothes are just going to get wrinkled anyway.
You eat your food without blending it all up in a blender first? Why, your stomach mixes it all up anyway.
You take a shower? Why, you're just going to get dirty again anyway.
You wash your hands after you shit? Why, you're just going to shit again the next day.
You make slippery slope arguments? Why, you can just frame them as unpopular opinions.
I'm with you here. It does look nicer when it's all "setup" but for its purpose, I agree... makes no sense if I'm going to be under the covers anyway. Society plays stupid games and well... you know the rest.
It is also actually not healthy to make it right after you slept in it.
Yes, ideally you air it out first before letting the moisture get trapped. But between waking up and getting out of the bathroom is all the time I am willing to delay making the bed. I wanna move on and not be stuck in "morning mode" forever (unless it's the weekend).
The ritual of unmaking the bed can help some people, who experience difficulties sleeping, mentally prepare for sleep.
Most of our daily routines are.
I used to think like this but then at one point I looked at my bed and I can't stand it. It eventually reflects on how you treat the rest of your home and outside as well . If you find a 10 second task infuriating and pointless that's not too far off from thinking mopping , cleaning toilet , ironing clothes are a waste of time as well.
Same argument could be made for sweeping/vacuuming the floor or combing your hair. It will just get messy again.
For me making the bed makes things a little nicer and gets me rolling on doing other tasks. First accomplishment of the day and it takes 10 seconds.
Also and maybe more importantly, it will keep dust and spiders and other insects off the sheets I lay on/in. If you've ever got dressed or folded laundry in a sunny room yoh will see how much dust everyday moving around generates. Those dust particles are skin cells (human and animal), bits of fabric, hair, and plastic microparticles since so many clothes are made from plastic.
Same argument could be made for sweeping/vacuuming the floor or combing your hair. It will just get messy again.
This is not true, all of those things have drawbacks that not making the bed do not. Maybe never washing your bed clothes, sure, but just not making it is not the same as never cleaning your floors, or grooming your hair/body. If you don't clean the floors, they get sticky, attract pests, build up bacteria, etc. If you don't comb your hair it will begin to knot up, and cause scalp problems, if you don't do the dishes they will get covered in bacteria, and mold, and attract pests. Not making your bed doesn't have these types of consequences.
I don't think that it's useless because it will just get "messed up" again. I just feel the "messed up" state is equivalent or even better than the "clean" state.
Folded clothes, which I've heard some people mention in the comments, are better than unfolded clothes for two simple reasons: They take up less space, and they can be retrieved easily. Ive lived out of laundry baskets for a time and it is inarguably less efficient and consumes more space.
I like sleeping with spiders tyvm
I thought the one thing to worry about with the bedsheets is not to grow a large population of mites in them. So you mainly want to keep it ventilated.
This opinion is actuaöly very popular with me.
I had one of those sleep number mattresses once, they have inflatable air bags inside so they zip open and you can get at all the layers of foam too. If you saw how much moisture gets trapped in there you'd do like I do and turn your covers down for the day so everything can dry and air out.
Making your bed all nice and tight just traps a whole lot of moisture.
I make my bed because my dog likes to lie in my bed during the day and this keeps the majority of his hair/dirt/dander off my sheets and on top of an easily washable blanket. Also, it prevents lots of wrinkles and lumps in the sheets/blankets when sleeping. Both bother me and my sensory issues, especially because I sleep in the buff and my skin is sensitive to whatever is directly touching it. I can't even leave my room in the morning without making my bed because it feels wrong in my head, I don't make it for anyone but myself