Honestly, everything about it. Sometimes I feel like I’m talking to rocks or something, when I try to explain that my brain is literally build different, that I just can’t go and focus or being on time or whatever and people just like “you don’t even try” I do try, if I didn’t try like they say I would be dead. 😵
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No, you don't have ADHD just because you get bored sometimes.
dont like that approach since mental illnesses are typically underdiagnosed rather than overdiagnosed. If someone says they have adhd they do until proven otherwise.
It's undiagnosed because you don't have it. Mental health is an extremely complex thing that only somebody with the right qualifications should comment on.
just stumbled across this video and remembered out "conversation"
wow thats hostile, fuck you too buddy
I thought I was hostile until proven otherwise?
go fuck yourself you piece of shit,
a) I am officially diagnosed dont know why you assumed I wasnt
b) not everyone has equal access to healthcare and might have no choice other than to self-diagnose and medicate any range of illnesses
c) there are systemic issues like e.g. racism, sexism (sexism is double the issue in mental health than it is in physical) paired with the superiority complex of some doctors constantly leads to psychiatrists dismissing and downplaying their struggles and not diagnosing or writing prescriptions a patient needs.
but glad you keyboard warriors who never had to deal with this shit got it all figured out
"a) I am officially diagnosed dont know why you assumed I wasnt"
Do you need to be officially diagnosed? You've made it very clear you have the power of Google and YouTube on your side.
"b) not everyone has equal access to healthcare and might have no choice other than to self-diagnose and medicate any range of illnesses"
If you could diagnose yourself you wouldn't need any of those things.
"c) there are systemic issues like e.g. racism, sexism (sexism is double the issue in mental health than it is in physical) paired with the superiority complex of some doctors constantly leads to psychiatrists dismissing and downplaying their struggles and not diagnosing or writing prescriptions a patient needs."
Oh, so now I see. You don't even need doctors because they're racist or something because they didn't give you the diagnosis Google said you had.
Do you need to be officially diagnosed?
Helps with access to medication
If you could diagnose yourself you wouldn’t need any of those things.
In a perfect world everyone would have access to what they need, until then a lot of people will have to make do with what they got and if its not a licensed doctor then google will have to do.
Oh, so now I see. You don’t even need doctors because they’re racist or something because they didn’t give you the diagnosis Google said you had.
They did. I am officially diagnosed by a licensed psychiatrist with ADD and I get prescription medication for it. Still don't know why you assume I am not. Yet still there a lot of doctors which are racist, sexist, transphobic and mis- or underdiagnose because of their biases. A white wealthy male doctor might have difficulty relating to a black poor woman and not understand the issue they're facing. On top of systemic racism, for instance it's well documented that, especially in psychiatry, a lot of the research is centered around USian college students, because those are the easiest test subjects to find, which makes the research rather biased.
And there are a lot of people that don't even get to see a doctor due to poor health coverage who have to make do with what they find online.
What an absolute cold-blooded dismissal of other people life-altering struggles.
No I'm not trolling you, I literally do not remember what you asked me to do. I don't care if you asked me 30 seconds ago; I legitimately forgot and I apologize for that.
Yes I know, I should just knock it out now before I forget again, but my low dopamine levels won't let me. No I'm not just being lazy; you might as well ask me to move a mountain. That's just how difficult is for me to complete the most basic of chores. It is completely out of my control, and no amount of Adderall will fix it.
The wife and I have this argument all the time and it drives me crazy.
How do I upvote a million times?
the problems sound similar to "what everyone has" but they arent the same
Yes everyone struggles motivating themselves to do chores but it's not the same when you have adhd.
Yes everyone has trouble concentrating during a boring lecture/lesson but its not the same when you have adhd.
Yes everyone has the urge to buy stuff they don't need, but its not the same when you have adhd.
so it's those but more of them
It's those but so bad it's a disability. Like how just because most people don't hear something from time to time doesn't mean they're all hard of hearing
not necessarily more, but more intense. Like it's borderline physically painful sometimes to force myself to do something. It feels like I'm being very cruel to myself for no good reason, its just a dishwasher after all
people who have never been depressed tend to think that depression is just laziness
YoU jUsT nEeD sOmE fReSh AiR
Yeah it’s always „why don’t you just…“ or „why can’t you „
yeah there are only two reasons why someone doesn't do something and it's because they can't or the don't wanna. If they want to do something but don't it's because they can't and some pedestrian advice like "Just think how much nicer it will feel after you're done" is not gonna help.
The amount of misinformation that's out there about it.
Around 50% of TikToks about ADHD are misleading. I feel like we can expect similar results in other social media.
How fucking hard it is to remember daily and recurring tasks. Taking meds, brushing teeth, checking email, cleaning up, cooking, laundry, on top of stuff related to work.
Another one is that we are blind. Unless I expect to see it, I cannot see it. I literally dont see clutter. Only when I force myself to think about what I'm staring at do I realize there is a bunch of crap on a table. Its really easy for my room to get messy because of this. Because it hardly exists for me.
Living on my own I was really good about any mess I made in an instant being dealt with immediately. Dishes would not pile up, etc. Any problem with a longer accumulation time might as well be there forever though, dust bunnies can have eternal lifespans.
I didn't find it so bad, but a switch to living with someone who just does occasional cleaning can throw your living space into chaos. The tiny psychological difference between "making a new mess" and "contributing to an existing mess" has way too much impact on what tasks will get addressed, and it's difficult as all hell to break free from that.
Unless I expect to see it, I cannot see it.
I don't know if it's a gift or a curse, but around my house, I'm the only one who can find anything - but it's not because I scan the room and see it, but because at some point in the past, I happened to notice, and I just remember where nearly everything is, whether I want to or not. I guess it's my coping mechanism.
Hey, it's me! Have you tried one of those weekly medicine pill dividers? I did. I think I filled it once, then went back to my daily routine of forgetting my meds. ADHD fucking blows.
Yep. Same thing happened with me.
Anxiety over missing my meds keeps me (mostly) on track, I do however forget to request refills until the last bloody moment though, love how the process for ADHD treatment is so anti ADHD...
We I have the fun combination with (undiagnosed) autism and t Which one had primary control at any time is a scrap shoot.
Even medicated I can not see the clutter... Until it's all I can see and I start AuDHD cleaning.
Executive dysfunction is damn near disabling when I'm not medicated. I struggle with it & decision paralysis even when medicated. It's an unfortunate issue that I'm unsure I'll ever work through.
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