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So I talked to my young relative about the people she normally associates with and her one friend who lives here too.
i have a rant.
These are the kind of kids in their late teens to early 20s whose parents found rent too high in Sydney and bought them an apartment with cash instead. Another who just casually mentions her parents rent out beachfront houses and can move between cities because they own properties everywhere, like it's fairly mundane information.
I try not to be resentful to the point where I focus on things I can't change, at the expense of things I can change. I can't personally blame these kids for something they didn't create.
But when the grind towards secure housing seems like such a Sisyphean task, and constrains so much of our lives these days, then I actually meet these kids and their friend circles being handed these assets as a matter of fact... to never know what such a fundamental part of most peoples lives involves... It's beyond just rich and poor, it is such a massive gap in life experiences and coming face to face to it is just a bit surreal and depressing tbh.
Really saps the energy out of you in even bothering to try joining the race. I don't want to grow up with all their privileges but gee, not having to ever worry about housing security when looking for jobs, partners, hobbies, etc would be very nice.
exhale well, not to try and Pollyanna myself out of the situation but I'll try and end the night now at least feeling grateful for my warm shower and power. The worst I've suffered back home is two chilli pots blown over squashing other plants.
It's hard not to be bitter when you see the staggering difference in opportunities being handed out. Indeed these kids are very privileged and will have a big head start in life. The system is fucked.
But you're doing such good things for your niece and ensuring she didn't just go off a support cliff on moving to study. It's so helpful what you did for her and having that support will help her focus on her studies. Even if it's not a paid off house it's a lot more than some young people get and I'm sure she appreciates it immensely.
What they have is family and no mental guilt or misplaced shame with using family assets.
How come poor people/young adults think they have to be independent, have to live on their own, have to make it on their own? That's nothing but false truisms that keep poor people poor.
kitten, you're doing really good things for your fam, the right things. ๐ค