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Your story sounds exactly like mine.
Yeah, I think a lot of us that grew up in the 90s/00s went through a very similar experience. Kids who excelled early were assumed to be advanced, but a lot of times that "advancement" doesn't stick. And it's compounded by the fact that those of us who went through this never really learned how to study; we were able to pick up on concepts very easily early on, so we never learned how to actually take notes or read material in a way that reinforced knowledge retention. We were able to get by with "skipping" the actual learning part.
So when we reached the grade level where we can no longer just effectively "wing it", we're trapped because we don't know how to properly study, and teachers won't teach you how because you "should have" already figured that out several grades ago, and if you passed those classes already then surely it's because you knew how to study all along and are just getting lazy with it now, right?
This video by Dr K articulates this concept a lot better than I can: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUjYy4Ksy1E
I strongly recommend watching this if any of you were considered a "gifted" student. He touches on a lot of things that were very eye-opening and felt eerily similar to my own experience, so I feel like the things he talks about here probably apply to many of us.
That was really good! I saw how long it was and thought, I'll give it a few minutes, but I sat through the whole thing.
I could definitely relate to a lot of what he said. And I'm going to steal his quote and make it my new mantra: "Dark Souls doesn't care! (if your parents call the principal)"
A lot of Dr K's videos have this effect on me! He does a fantastic job of explaining things in a way that anyone can understand. He goes really deep into the psychology and neuroscience of everything, so I always come away from his videos feeling like I've actually learned something.