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How long have you gone without being in a romantic relationship? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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How much time have you spent being single?

If you're currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

What are / were the pros and cons?

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

If you're currently not single: Did your goals change after getting into a relationship?

What are the pros and cons?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

How long have you gone without being in a romantic relationship?

About 14 years (I’m 22).

If you're currently single: is it by choice or circumstance?

Not by choice.

Do you / did you enjoy single life?

No.

What are / were the pros and cons?

Pros: More free time, less drama

Cons:

I don’t get to experience what it feels like to be loved or to have any kind of intimacy (cuddling, kissing, sex, pair dancing, etc.)
It will be much harder to find affordable housing once I stop being a student
I feel excluded when my friends talk about their relationships
My parents are going to be disappointed
If I want to have children in the future (I’m not sure yet), it probably won’t be a possibility

Is / was partnership a goal of yours?

Yes, obviously.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Short but to the point comment: at 22, you have more than 10 years to have children. Probably closer to 20. Release yourself from the invisible trap you are in.