A place to post ridiculous posts from linkedIn.com
(Full transparency.. a mod for this sub happens to work there.. but that doesn't influence his moderation or laughter at a lot of posts.)
Oh sure. Suppress your feelings. Very healthy. Makes aaaaallll the problems go away. /s
I think that woman needs therapy. And all the people in her stories too - if they even exist and aren't just a thinly veiled attempt to get suffering people to work more.
Burrowing your feelings like that is a fast way to a burn out or worse.
The "Ex-colleague with a liver disease" sent a chill through my spine. Was he an Ex-colleague because he was fired for being sick 👀👀👀? Was he healing himself or was he desperate not to die? There's a difference.
Work can be meaningful, therapeutic, or simply a useful tool for coping. That doesn't mean it should be the only tool, nor should it be relied on without clinical guidance, nor should it be the expectation.
Talk-therapy might not be for everyone, work therapy certainly isn't. The complete lack of empathy and humanization in the post is disgusting.
Given that this person is in India, and yes I checked, yes probably they got fired for having liver disease. India is one of the places where working is even more dystopic than the US.
Sounds great for the kid that just lost their mother and now has an absent father escaping through work. Definitely a healthy way to process emotions that won’t risk lasting damage. /s
this shit is sad not virtuous. cancer patients and sick people need treatment, not work. people should be able to afford recovery.
First to log in, last to log off... But what about the poor kid ?
Doing the same at their burger flipping job of course
Yeah, that's actually kind of true. When you're working, you can shut off a lot of that stuff for a while, and power through. Then that's nine hours that you don't have to think about X, Y, or Z. It gives you space, so that emotions aren't as raw, and it gives you a structure. I would never suggest work instead of therapy, but I know a lot of people that went to work the day after their spouse died because they couldn't stand to be alone with just their thoughts.
Getting fired for being in a 'bad mood' when my ex-spouse told me that they wanted to separate took me from deeply depressed to suicidal, and I got to spend the next four days, three nights in a hospital. If I hadn't been fired, I would have... Coped. Not well, but I wouldn't have tried to taste-test a shotgun.
Work also gives you structure in your day. It also means you have to practice enough self care to take a shower, do laundry to have clean clothes to wear, have at least some human interaction. Also having money is important.
If you’re unemployed and can do drugs all day, wallow in self pity, be disconnected from other humans, no haircut in months, etc. That will make your mental health worse. Also when money runs out and no new money is coming in, getting actual help to improve your situation gets much harder. Small problems become bigger problems.
I know from experience.
You’re absolutely right. The person in this post is a fucking maniac, and they’ve completely lost the plot, but they’re right for the completely wrong reasons.
Work is useful and therapeutic for people because it’s a way to derive purpose and meaning through the things people need from you. You don’t want to let your colleagues down, or have your missed work increase their burden. It’s also a distraction and something to do besides sit at the house with your thoughts like you said.
Therapy gives you mechanisms to cope in healthy ways with the grief. Work can be part of a healthy overarching coping strategy. But it can very easily be a maladaptive way to avoid dealing with it.
There are those who work to live and others who live to work…. And only one of those groups is doing it right…
man I might have to block this community before I get too damned angry and start killing corpos
You must look deep within yourself and ask, "Am I strong enough to follow in Saint Luigi's footsteps?
Working to escape sickness and loss of family members? Pathetic. My Grandparents worked to escape the war crimes they committed.
Ugh, I can see the point, but it feels to me that this point is taken too far in order to push a particular agenda.
Like, sure, makes sense, work provides a routine, reason, mask, so on and so forth. But there is an attempt to imply that ”work is more effective at healing people than therapy", along with these safety boundries like the "especially in this part of the world", "something therapy sometimes doesn't", which I feel is a gross simplification of a complicated matter while using wordplay to like compartmentalize her statements should someone actually question them on this, which grinds my gears.
Yeah...the fact that they are stating this as a matter of fact, rather than say a sort of observation, effectively stripping away any sort of nuance, makes me immediately question the validity of the claims and intent in this post, ya know?
Yes, knowing how much worse whatever you're going through will be if you're homeless is SO much better than therapy! What a breakthrough!!! No eggs benedict for me, thank you, these bootstraps taste just fine!!!
Tell her she has to work when she’s got cancer and see how much she celebrates her good fortune.
Clueless, table for 1
“By creating an environment with no room for human emotion, we provide a way for those who do not want to engage in healthy processing to do just that”
Work works for me. I need the structure or I get depressed. My job kept me sane when I was torn up by my first divorce.
I thought that too, for like 20 years. Then I started going back to therapy, now I'm actually on the whole happy to BE at work. Never really realised how much I just needed to have someone I paid to at least pretend to listen. He says I pay him to be on the call, he listens because he wants to.
I have really close friends who always say/said if I needed to talk just shout them. I would occasionally talk surface level shit, I didn't want to burden them with all the shit roiling around in my head. And weirdly after I started seeing my therapist, I started talking to them more about shit that was tearing me up.
Worked for me, maybe not for everyone, no size fits etc etc etc.