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Drag is a perfectly fine user.

Drag is not a tankie. Drag is not a fascist. Drag is not a bigot, not a paedophile, not a scammer, not a rapist, not a billionaire, not any manner of individual that you should be directing your rage toward. Drag is a respectful member of the queer community, like you, like me, or like anyone else. That alone in my books makes a friend, and not an enemy. So what, I had to take ten seconds to connect the pronoun "drag" to what I already know about language?

I, personally, don't find it a major inconvenience to show a little kindness. Also, drag is cute, in my opinion.

For those not familiar with DragonFucker/Rider/Drag:

Dragon uses the pronoun "drag" in place of "I", "drag's" in place of "my".

They wouldn't say:

I like cheese. Blueberry isn't my favorite. I know what my heart wants.

They would say:

Drag likes cheese. Blueberry isn't drag's favorite. Drag knows what drag's heart wants.

Beyond whether or not they literally think they are a dragon, going to marry a dragon, beyond even using 'drag' as a custom neopronoun that normally replaces 3rd person pronouns...

They are using what they call their own custom first person pronouns, but this reads to basically every English speaker as constantly referring to themselves in the 3rd person by using their own nickname, akin to the royal 'we'.

Dragon has told me that they don't see "drag" as a nickname, but as a pronoun.

... I don't think they are trolling, in the sense of just doing something annoying to get a rise out of people, a voluntary activity one choses to do consciously.

Their grammatical behavior is consistent across all their posts, they don't only engage in it from time to time.

I've even had a few conversations with Dragon where I've attempted to explain that half of the hate they get and arguments they get into stem from people misunderstanding what they are saying, because of their extremely niche way of using pronouns.

They've told me, directly, that my understanding of how their pronouns work is correct, and that this proves that their pronoun/grammar style is thus not confusing, and that eventually everyone will just adapt and understand them.

...Despite the fact that I told them I had to do like an hour worth of research to figure out how this all actually works, which Dragon ... intially chastized me for, saying it was all clearly evident from their profile (it wasn't), and that I did not need to do that much research...

...even though I seem to be the only person I am aware of explaining Dragon's grammar/pronoun style in every thread we both happen to be in where most other people are just misunderstanding them and that leading to arguments.

Anyway, I've never heard of anyone using custom pronouns for "I" and "my" until Dragon.

Ever.

I myself am queer, have run in many circles with many lgbtqia folks, and I've even dated a queer person legitimately diagnosed with DID, and not even they would use their own custom first person pronouns for their alters, or the collective system of alters as a whole...

Well, that certainly is one of the paragraphs of all time.

It’s crazy what people make a drama about not being able to harass someone who doesn’t use he, she or they

I cannot see any Lemmy account which the writer of the removed comment could possibly be referring to.

Hypothetically, if there were a user whom all but the admins/mods could conclude to be a troll, all users could individually block said hypothetical troll and advocate for blocking of accounts that come across at first glance, second glance, and even ten hundredth glance to seem to be trolls. This would allow the users to avoid the frustrations wrought by the hypothetical troll as well as prevent users from incriminating themselves within the admins’ and mods’ rules by not interacting with nor even referring to the aforementioned hypothetical troll specifically.

This is all purely hypothetical of course.

Again, I cannot see any Lemmy account which the writer of the removed comment could possibly be referring to.

However, I’m sure the admins/mods couldn’t knock you for gracefully advocating for wariness of nonspecific trolls in general if you happen upon a situation in which you think that warning may be particularly helpful.

You can also just block users whom you get bad vibes from for whatever reason, whether you believe them to be genuine or maliciously disingenuous.

Do admins have access to a tally of how many users have blocked a given account? This may give them an indication of whom the user masses consider to be problematic accounts.

Ah lol, your heading is really ambiguous. This initially looked like you were supporting the ban and saying "goodbye" to them.

Get Glomph'd on! Thankfully I've never met someone who actually wants people to refer to them as dragonkin outside of FFXIV roleplay servers.

I knew Blahaj was never 'for' me, but I always felt comfortable here. Guess that's over. Ada and the admins have the right to cultivate the community they want to see on Blahaj, and I wish them the best of luck going forward.

I'm going to miss 196 and Femcelmemes, but... well, Blahaj isn't for me, since I don't acknowledge 'dragonfucker' as a gender.