"Frankly, you brought this all on yourself" usually resolves it quickly, in my experience.
this post was submitted on 22 Dec 2024
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And then what happened?
That must be really hard for you.
Wow. You don’t deserve that.
How do you feel about it now?
Ugh. That sounds awful.
You’re handling this better than I would.
How do you even respond to that?
Tell me about it.
What can I do to help?
You’ve got this, but I’m here.
Edit: I wrote the above to illustrate how many options there are in the parlance of active listening. The formula is simple: imagine how they feel and join their side or, if you can’t yet imagine, ask questions until you can. That’s it.
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This is slowly being replaced by 👍ing or ❤️ing the message. No actual words needed.
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Haha so true!
Haha so true!
There is a secret fourth option that requires the player to cancel the dialogue and just perform an action:
Give hug
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Or maybe ask what they need from you? Just a thought.
It works spectacularly well with people you're close to or on very good terms with.
If my other half is kicking off about something, a quick "hey listen, are you wanting help to fix this or are you wanting to vent like fuck to feel a bit better?"
It's rarely the former, though I'd be more than happy to help if it was. At least then I can let her rage out and decompress without throwing in unwanted suggestions.
Probably comes across as a bit blunt to people you don't know well though.
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"that's crazy"
Gotta find a non-patronizing way to ask if they need help, a hug, or to be heard.
Empathize, "I can imagine how much that must have hurt, I'm sorry you had to deal with that"
"That's rough, buddy" is my goto.
I'm more of a "well, shit" guy myself.
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That sucks. Definitely push the last one. This happened to me one time in band camp
Good thing he has three things to push all the buttons with......
That sucks but this reminds me of...
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