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[–] [email protected] 98 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (5 children)

And then what happened?
That must be really hard for you.
Wow. You don’t deserve that.
How do you feel about it now?
Ugh. That sounds awful.
You’re handling this better than I would.
How do you even respond to that?
Tell me about it.
What can I do to help?
You’ve got this, but I’m here.

Edit: I wrote the above to illustrate how many options there are in the parlance of active listening. The formula is simple: imagine how they feel and join their side or, if you can’t yet imagine, ask questions until you can. That’s it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

Awesome list! Much better than a list I would make 🙂

I would just change slightly the “What can I do to help?” (That is a call for a “nothing”) to “How can I help?” (That shows much more enthusiasm in wanting to help)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago

Hey thanks! I like that phrasing better. Less perfunctory, more sincere.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

Look at mister "I leave the basement twice a week" over here

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 hours ago

In the land of the ~~blind~~ awkward the ~~one eyed~~ I dunno less awkward I guess man is king

[–] [email protected] 18 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Thanks, man. I needed that.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 12 hours ago