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As a 6'2 man the clothes I find which are right for my height are often very loose on me. And if I worry about the waist I look like a kid who grew a lot in the past 2 months and everything is too short for me.

Its not entirely universal, some stores are better than others. And I wear a lot of loose casual t-shirts so thats fine too. But finding dress shirts means some places work, some don't.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

As a fellow tall, I don't even buy things unless they are "T" sized anymore. Gave up on it a long time ago. My shirt size is "XLT". There are sometimes things like work events or other places where they are giving away T shirts and they ask for my size and I tell them XLT and they are like "How about XXL?" and I'm like "No". I don't need to add another ill-fitting t shirt to the pile of shirts I will never wear.

Kohl's has a big and tall section that is pretty reliable. The past few years I have been stocking up on Tommy Bahama clothing. I have a relative who works pretty high up the chain for their corporate office so I am able to get a discount which brings the price of their clothing down from "outrageously expensive" to "still pretty expensive". It's damn good quality clothing though. I have the Big & Tall Bali Skyline T-shirt in every color. It's probably the most comfortable thing I have ever worn.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (2 children)

For me it's that everything today is made out of some flavor of shitty plastic. Call ot whatever you want - "Active Wear", "Cool Breeze", "Dry Tech" - it's polyester, it feels terrible, and amps my BO up to 11 even if I'm just sitting still.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

I thought it was just me! I almost never have BO, unless I'm wearing polyester. Sitting for 8 hours in a football shirt is like equivalent to me not showering for a week.

I don't understand it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

lol sorry about that. Polyester definitely doesn’t have that effect on me and unlike cotton, 100% polyester is pretty much unaffected by wash + dry cycles.

Cotton wears out stupidly quick in comparison.

So when buying off I’m interested i don’t even check sizes, I go straight for material. If it’s less than 70% polyester I won’t even consider buying it.

The apology is because stores do seem to be shifting towards folks like me. I love it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Yup. Polyester feels way better on my skin than cotton, especially if I sweat at all. Also easier to maintain. I won't buy anything cotton these days.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 months ago

Getting kicked out of occupied change rooms. Like, I thought sharing was caring

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I'm fairly broad for my height and need a taped waist on tops so I'm a bit of an outlier.

I won't buy clothes now that doesn't put the actual measurements of the clothes on the listing for the item because otherwise, I have no idea what the fit is actually like.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

34" inseam is too long 32" is too short. Thick legs compared to waist size so if I don't go up a size the legs are too tight.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

Look in your area for a shop that does ready-to-wear clothing alterations. Sometimes dry cleaners will offer those services. Altering a dress shirt to fit you better is a relatively inexpensive service and then you don't have to worry about this anymore. As a 6' tall woman, this is literally one of the reasons I learned to sew.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

Paying of course.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I fount some shirts that fit "tall" and they are fantastic!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I'm 6'4, hopefully I have some help. Levis jeans makes a 36" inseam, Kohl's has some tall sized clothes here and there, a few dress shirts and around the house gear, and Lands End has some tall sized stuff, though most of it makes you look like a grandpa.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago (1 children)

When I've decided something I bought a few months ago is perfect even after several washes, I try to buy another one, but that product is sold out and will never be seen again.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Yes! I hate this!! There seems to be an industry wide practice of never carrying any product consistently.

I understand that if something had to be put on clearance even in-season that they’re not going to buy more of it. But surely bringing back best sellers would be profitable?

Or even providing some mechanism for ordering previously-stocked items online? I don’t need to try it on and will order many units/variations because I already know I love it. Seems like an easy way to make money. Low to no returns too.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I have a body that no clothes will fit. A very dramatic hourglass shape. If I see something cute, it definitely will not fit me.

Nothing. Fucking. Fits.

The worst part is the bras. The fucking bras!!! Why are US bra sizes so fucked?? I literally only wear ill-fitting sports bras now!!! Otherwise my tits are squeezed or wire stabs me or every other pain.

I also have stupid sensitive skin & hypohydrosis, so rashes & heat exhaustion are things I need to think about when getting dressed.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Idk if you already knew about it, but check out ABraThatFits

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I can see only 2 arguments for learning to sew. This and being able to add or enlarge pockets

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Don't worry. I am built pretty straight up and down and nothing fits me either. I think that people with good fitting clothes are probably getting them tailored.

Could you wear a well fitted sports bra instead? Can you handle Merino wool fabric? The Branwyn Busty soft bra is so very nice and temperature regulating, I can wear it doing yardwork. Any other wool I absolutely cannot stand but the soft Merino knits can be very soothing feeling and they stay dry.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

Everything except pants. My legs are apparently within the bounds of normality but my head, hands, feet, and spine are simply too big.

You wouldn’t think being six feet tall would be such a hindrance to shopping. It’s not big enough to stand out in a crowd, so why is it so big as to be incompatible with mass production?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

Sizing and needing to calculate.
Luckily I found a shop (online) that is nice to wear and has no bs sizing.
And it shows the real employees wearing the stuff.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

Mostly the "shopping" part.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

I fucking hate cloths shoping, buying cloths is the most annoying part. I actually just bought new cloths, I haven't purchased new clotheing in many many years and more than half of my current shirts have numerous holes around the arm/neck areas. I think the holes add character but I feel like I look homeless and unkept. Not that I care but I feel bad for my partner, so I bought new cloths.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I keep those as the indoor shirts

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago

Shoes. They might fit in the store, they might fit at home when I walk around with them for 5-10 minutes, but once I take them outside and they get dirty, suddenly it hurts everywhere.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Deciding if I look a dick in the clothes I am trying on, or whether I really really look a dick in the clothes I'm trying on.

The one real advantage in going clothes shopping with a wife or girlfriend, for stuff for oneself.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago (1 children)

My autism manifests heavily on the side of hating certain feelings and very much hating anything tight on me. Anywhere. Makes it difficult to wear anything. Especially bras. Which is very bad as it's very obvious I am not wearing one.

So instead of trying to find one that works I just have up caring.

Still trying to find comfortable clothes but if I find that, I care little how it looks. Usually. Until the anxiety manages to come screaming in.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Especially bras

Excuse if I am mistaken but isnt it the whole point to be snug while not being too small and bordering on squeezing you?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Yes, which is why they are absolute hell for my brain.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (2 children)

As a woman? Brands that think tall ladies are just short women on stilts, so the pants are too short through the rise and shirts too short. We are not all legs! I can get a fit in pants by buying from the few places that have legit tall women's clothes and then hemming them to fit.

Very close second place is bra shopping, same sort of problem - cup size scales up with wire diameter, but in general small boobs are not small around, they are just flatter, and on the other side big boobs can have narrow roots. They need 3 measurements not 2, like band length, wire diameter and cup volume all need to be moving parts.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Your experience as a tall person and mine as a short person makes me wonder if these clothing makers have ever met a woman in real life. It's like they are designing based a description of a woman they heard 5 years ago.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Tall women are attractive. So feel better. :)

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

Tall women (5' 7" / 170cm +) walk elegantly and have a poise often denied their shorter counterparts.

Never be worried about being tall. I wish I had been blessed. Both wives were 5'4". I'm 6' 183cm.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I am about the same height as my husband (5'9") and was about the same height as my ex too, but his ex was tiny, and I joke with him about it because his sons are shorter than him, tell him tall ladies make tall kids, he should have planned better!

So really I'm not even that tall, just taller than women's regular clothes are. At least they make them now, Gap and Madewell are both serious about tall sizes, the rise on those fits well, the inseam too long for me but that's an easier adjustment.

And yeah I feel bad for really short ladies too, if the petites are just shorter inseams that won't work either!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Husband is a lucky guy. I guess your ex was hoping for mean reversion (there's a more appropriate mathematical term that I just can't think of as I write), with/for his children..

I had a best friend as a sixth former (17-18 yo) who was around your height; I lost my bf because the person I was engaged (then married) to didn't like her. Subconsciously, I've probably always compared everyone to her and the grace and poise with which she presented herself. I'm old now.

Scandinavian girls seem to be a reasonable height. I haven't spend enough time over there to know for certain that it's really a thing; and I wasn't that sad to want to look it up! Wonder if that would suit too? It's not the 80s anymore though, sadly, and dressing is very different and difficult now.

5'9" is tall. Hope you get to work/wear it well! I want to say 'congratulations' .. it doesn't make any sense but congratulations anyway! You/he won the lottery.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

We have excellent online stores like Zalando that have changed my life. I order, clothes are usually delivered the next day, and returning is as easy as putting it back into the same box and driving to the postal office again. Money back within a few days.

They have perfected the clothes shopping experience for men. No more going to awkward physical shops.

My size is known by the shop, and I can order lots of variations of the same clothes, different sizes, just to find the perfect one that really fits me.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

All the clothes that fit men especially big men be it tall or thicc are so.... boring. Its like the same few colors, and design isnt really considered. most of its just practical stuff. Some of the best quality clothes i have are "work clothes". Its hard enough finding things that fit and arent shit quality much less finding something that looks nice.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I'm an Asian size Medium. American sizing puts me in an awkward middle of S and M. US Small fits best on my shoulders and arms, but the torso is too tight. On the other hand, US Medium fits well on my torso, but the shoulders are too wide and the sleeves too large.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Same here as a European. Small shoulders but medium torso. Luckily it's not too bad.

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