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Hello Internet,

I have trouble with any underwear I ever owned. I am wearing XXL or size 8 underwear but they tend to make me uncomfortable in different matters.

Waering loose Boxershorts is okay to my wiener but my balls are to free. Also they tend to crawl upwards during the day.

Tighter Shorts have a good appearance and are my main underwear. But I struggle with them as well: My thing turtles uncomfortably making me insane so I can pull it into position. Also, they tend to screw at the bottom after half an year.

Asking this within my circles only earns sarcastic comments or the experience isn't shared. So I ask you: How do I determine the correct underwear for me and am I missing something? If you relate and have solved this issue, please recommend me some underwear.

// Edit:

Thank you for all the recommendations and input. I wasn't aware of the pouch feature. Researched all suggested brands and:

Ordered from overseas:

  • SAXX
  • BN3TH

Currently not deliverable:

  • Step One

Lululemon does have a store in the city, so I will go there next week to try those on.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Pico underwear. Arguably the best material I've ever felt.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Am I the only person that actually wants an openable fly in their boxer-briefs? All these companies these days willing to make 2 distinct pockets for balls and shaft but won't let me poke out for fresh air or a bathroom trip without having to deal with the waistband drive me nuts. My cock didn't commit any crimes, I don't want to force it into solitary confinement...

The worst part is I found my perfect underwear several years back and the company has basically disappeared. They had a sort of soft and loose-ish horizontal fly that basically revolutionized my relationship with my crotch and I can't find more :(

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

I relate to this so much. I hate when I get a pair with A grundle pouch but no gate to let it out. I'm not an over the top type of guy.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

poke out for fresh air

wat

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

In the comfort and privacy of my own home, sometimes it is nice to feel a breeze twixt my nethers.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Something women can't comprehend, our balls are actually lungs and our willy gots to breathe else suffer asphyxiation.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

BootyShorts! T-bo are my fav

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Pair of Thieves long legged boxer briefs their "superfit" material. Available at Target.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

I had similar issues before but then I decided to try Other Danish Guy boxers. They are expensive but I realized that they are best clothing item that I own. I have recommend them to some of my friends and few of them also fell in love with them. They are much strechier than other boxers that I have tried and really comfortable to wear.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 week ago (3 children)

This is a message to all straight guys: buy gay underwear!

Get yourself on Andrew Christian, Box, or Aussiebum, or any of the other underwear sites that cater to gay men. We have styles of underwear you wouldn't believe. Yes there'll be rainbows on a bunch of them, but there's plenty that are more "reserved".

BUT, what we do have is a wide range of styles that are comfortable and sexy. We have underwear that separates your cock from your balls, which are really comfortable. We have styles that allow you to show off, or act demure. We have boxer shorts that have freaking pockets!

And because the queer community largely (not always, but we're working on it) accepts all body types, we even cater to larger guys who need a little more room in their smalls.

Seriously boys, get yourself some sexy gay undies. Your junk, and your partners, will thank you.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Huge thanks for this!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

I was about to say something similar. Like I started wearing some “women’s” underwear and running shorts even before I realized I wasn’t a guy. Obviously for people that aren’t trying to hide things I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it, but some of the underwear I have now is just better than tons men’s underwear I wore pre-transition. Just materials, and seam placement, and color options, all of it. You can still find boxers and everything. It’s kind of just better.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It never for one second occurred to me that a gay me could have a wider choice of underwear than a straight me currently does. Firing up the private browser tab as we speak - thanks for the info.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

better fire up the VPN too. You don't want your ISP to know that you're gay-boxer-curious!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I have a similar issue that the package often goes backward, if that makes sense. It's so uncomfortable if it happens after taking a seat in a meeting so you can't fix it. My solution is to purchase boxer briefs from those fetish brands. They usually carry a product line that pushes up the package. I don't need the visual appeal but the design groups everything to the front, so they have nowhere else to go. Then you just choose a size that the pouch is just big enough.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

I feel you bro. When I am in an overall working outside this issue is unbearable. You can't bow, knee or anything so I am constantly pulling to switch sizes depending on what I'm doing. I go fk nutz currently

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

Boxer briefs, ex officio is too expensive but pretty darn great.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago

They're not cheap by any means but stance boxer briefs have not done me wrong. Even the tighter bits are pretty stretchy to accommodate. Loose enough but supportive.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Having went through this recently and tried ~5 brands, I recommend Duluth. I like the dang soft, but I'm still exploring their line up.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Duluth wore out very quick for me; the elastic bacons up.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Good to know, but haven't had this happen to me personally. Do you remember when you bought them and what kind?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Nope, too long ago. I remember enjoying the initial quality but being let down within a short time by the longevity (or lack there of) for $20 a pair.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

Plus 1 for Duluth

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Personally I use meundies long boxer briefs. They run a little small. I'm a big guy, 40-44 waist, usually for shirts I wear a 2x, 1x if it runs big. I need to go 3x in meindies and even then they're a little tight, but not uncomfortably so.

They last a while, I've had a few pairs for a few years now. I'd recommend joining the membership (no fees, cancel anytime, postpone anytime) and get a pair. If you like them, get a new pair every month or two. Till you fill out your closet.

They're a little pricey at close to $15 - $20 a pair, but they're fun patterns and decent quality if you feel like splurging. But get ready for ads on every ither youtube video for the next year if you even go to their website

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

$20 each is pretty inexpensive, given that they aid my issues!

I didn't find a decent picture of the pouch on their website. So I skipped ordering one. It looks like their pouch is pretty narrow.

I am similiar sized, I checked each brand for size recommendations before ordering.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

I'm definitely not below average in that department, and I'm fine with it. It is a mostly spandex material, so it'll stretch for days. The pouch doesn't have any empty space for sure, but I'm never feeling compressed down there. And if you get the long boxer briefs, then you can pull the legs up a bit to get extra room for the jewels if you need it

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

My friend, it's like searching for true love. You're going to have to go out there and spend the money and try on different styles until you find the right one.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes and now he has many recommendations from a real form to guide his spending, not the equivalent of "hot singles in your area".

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

No recommendation is any good. Again, as with true love, what makes the heart of one man soar like an eagle will only throw another into the nadir of despair. Many a man rejoices to have their intimate areas caressed by Calvin Klein, but the same brand has strangled the gonads of the unfortunate few.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I follow your advice and will go into the city to shop for my underwear needs. You are absolutely right: My trunk differs from others. My requirements also change depending on my daily tasks. So I will address this explicitly!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

If it wasn't underwear I'd advise you to ask a fellow of similar proportions what they like. It's one thing to discuss jeans with a stranger irl and quite another to ask about intimate attire.

Have a good day, internet stranger

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Yes but at least they are getting unique ideas and not just whatever ad bullshit the general internet feeds them.

I also love the A+ prose.

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