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The tinder one is though. Someone being on tinder doesn't tell you anything about that person. Only that they're looking for either a partner or casual sex.

Reasonable preferences stated in the form of red flags are still red flags.

I like how you put this. Anon was asked requirements and all he gave were deal-breakers. It comes off as desperate, crass, or both.

I'll first say that from a social standpoint it makes sense to focus on yourself when asked that. But the person asked "tell me what you look for in a girl". You would have to be pretty damn masterful at thinking on your feet to take that question and immediately flip your answers into I statements. Especially if you're anon and obviously don't get asked things like this a lot.

No kids is a common wish although the reason for it can make or break how fine it is to have.

My guess is that anon is overweight, and the person they were talking to was thinking of friends they had that were overweight and were great people.

Anon betrayed that their preference was a bit delusional and/or didn't understand that it can take work to be in shape and takes it for granted that women should be expected to be fit for him without him having to do anything. That's a pretty sour fart of an opinion.

The no dating apps thing is pretty cringe. And could certainly make you seem like a pariah to most people. It definitely betrays a sense of superiority if it's in your top 3 dating requirements. I feel like anon knowing the word demisexual is slim to none but that would be the best thing you could say.

Actually my guess is that this is fake and anon is just stirring the hate mongering pot.

Yep, it's all about the framing.

Tinder is the worst possible way to get to meet people, unless you’re at least a 9/10 guy or a woman who just wants to hook up, nothing more. At least that’s been my experience, both using the app and talking to friends who have. Meaningful connections are rare.

A reasonable argument would be because oop sees sex as something special and would like a partner that thinks of it the same way.

In reality, oop probably thinks of woman who are on tinder as worthless sluts and doesn’t want a woman with a higher headcount than him because it bruises his ego.

Fair question! I'm guessing he views such women as sluts and beneath him.

Makes sense to me, but I'm odd like anon too I guess. I won't work for places that have an HR department for (likely) similar complex reasoning. I don't fit the mold or follow the rules like most people in a job. Just give me responsibilities and I'll be as reliable as if you do them yourself. I don't handle arbitrary people and bureaucracy well. I just do what makes sense in the moment like a business owner that is very conservative. I ran my own businesses for a long time and act like the employees I wish I had been able to find. When a company has an HR department it says they are inflexible and incompetent in efficiency and abstraction. I know I will be miserable in such a place where layers are used to mask managerial incompetence and political maneuvering.

Similarly, a person that likes to shop around and date a lot says quite a bit about their ethics and mindset. I've never used a dating app in my life. All of my long term relationships are from friends of friends. I have no curiosity about who is out there in general or judging people based on their best sales force lies or old pictures. I am only interested in the rare people that say or do something candidly interesting when I am not expecting it; like if someone has a nerdy passionate interest or interesting quark. The average person is not interesting to me, and average people are on dating apps.

Plus, I know what I am, and I do not care to try and sell that to anyone. I would much rather the person at least have some familiarity with me beforehand. Starting off formally of calling it "dating" just sounds silly to me. Like, let's be friends first for awhile. "Dating" puts sex in play on some kind of level. No one can think straight after that addiction starts. So, friends-first for me, and dating apps are not the kind of environment where I can find nerdy interesting friends without extra baggage and expectations.

U tell me

I think it's 100% reasonable to not want to meet dating app girls