I've been married to my wife for 2 years, after being in a relationship with her for 6 years. Things weren't always perfectly smooth sailing but we've managed to work things out. We sometimes have communication issues, which we're working on, but at least we understand that it's a weak point and any fights (which are hardly fights) don't last very long.

She is quite literally my best friend, and I am so, so grateful to have her. We spend most of our time outside of work together and we never grow tired of each other. We always help each other out and cheer each other up when one of us has a bad day. Co-op campaign mode is a great way to put it.

I came out to her as trans shortly after we got married, when I suddenly realized how I felt about being the opposite gender. She was very supportive from the beginning, and although she was initially a little nervous when I started hormones, we've grown a lot closer and our love has grown so much stronger since I began to open up and be my authentic self. And for that, I can't be grateful enough. Many couples I've seen where one comes out as trans end up splitting up, for one reason another, so I think I'm extremely lucky to have someone that can see past gender and love me for simply myself.

20 years in, it is pretty dope I have to say.

It's great as long as both parties fully understand the other's "drawbacks" and are prepared to deal with those. Never assume you'll fix somebody with time. Hopefully both parties do grow and improve themselves over the years, but nobody is perfect.

Love is being able to get angry with someone, wanting to resolve it healthily, and then actually moving forward and feeling it was worth it. It can feel like work sometimes, but the work should never feel pointless.

It's really nice if you got the right person for it. I love my person so much 💓💓💓

This is exactly my life right now, and it's great.

Ideally yes. This is me and Mrs. Warp Core and I wouldn't change it for the world.

However...

Well, let me put it this way. Ever have a best friend that, after spending a lot of time around, you find out that you actually can't stand more than a few hours at time? That is absolutely a possibility here. Only now their stuff is in your house (or vice-versa), and/or they're on the same lease.

$0.02: It may not always be advisable, but absolutely benchmark the practical aspects of your romance long before tying the knot. Long-term co-habitation is not the only route here. Consider other ways to rack up large blocks of time: getaway vacations, long weekends, or even just "play house" for a few days at a time. You'd be amazed at what horrible, terrible, filthy, obnoxious habits your partner has when "at home." The reality is that everyone is a bit (more) of a mess in private, and the only real question you have to answer is: "what am I willing to put up with?"

Far and away, the best aspect of my life.

My wife is the best thing to ever happen to me, plain and simple. My life would be a whole lot worse, and a whole lot more boring, without her in it.

This is exactly the relationship my wife and I share. We're each other's best friends, so it's easy to hang out every day. Which is important because we're both not working, so we're around each other 24/7.

So many couples struggled throughout the pandemic because they were actually forced to spend a lot of time together and realized they just didn't care for each others' company as much as they thought. But it had no effect on my relationship with my wife because we already spent almost every moment of our free time together.

And it's not like we do absolutely everything together. There are plenty of days when we're indulging in our own separate hobbies or interests. But we're always close by, so we can chat or share our geeky hobbies with one another.

If you marry someone for looks, status, money, etc., you may find yourself in more of a business relationship than a romantic one, which will struggle as you get older. But finding someone who completely gets you is refreshing. You don't need to put on a mask around them; you can be yourself and be confident that they love you for YOU. And if you truly respect them, you'll also love and appreciate them for being themselves too.

This entirely unironically. Life is better when you can share it with other people.

Well, one more reason to be sad about being unlovable :/

At the same time, it really, really sucks thinking you found this and then slowly realizing years into it that it’s not going to work because it’s just crushing your soul and there are some fundamental incompatibilities that are just not going to change and you have to get out for the sake of your own sanity and long term happiness, despite how much you want to make it work.

Source: I’m in the terminal phases of that process right now.

Apologies for being a Debbie downer. Just having some pretty rough times right now, and the next couple of weeks are going to absolutely suck, and there’s definitely no way around it but through.

It's damn nice, ngl. And I didn't get married until 2013 at almost 40.

It's one of those things worth waiting for, rather than jumping into at first opportunity. Not saying I wouldn't have preferred to have had what I have now sooner, but younger me wouldn't have been ready anyway. I'm just saying that it isn't something to rush for the sake of being married, it's about being good partners, matching well, and that's not something that's guaranteed to happen at any given age.

We decided to finally play Jumanji. She had to crawl across the living room and almost broke her knee. Now she is pouting with a cool pack while I boil water to make her tea.

Being single is cool and all. But I never want to go back. I decided this to be my life.

Maybe someday...

until you grow old

Really hope they mean "as you grow old".