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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

To me she looks the best when she just woke up. All messy and wild. How nature intended her to be.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

And post shower. Tasty.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago
[–] [email protected] -1 points 1 month ago

Anyone can look better with the right makeup, even me and I am AMAB, this was from last night. And anyone can look worse. But generally makeup feels fake, so less is more IMHO. But it's totally my partners' choice if they want to wear it or not. It's for them more than me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

She always looks good but can look better with make-up

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

She always looks good, I'm not particular about the specific texture of her skin.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago

I honestly can't remember how she looks with makeup on. She has worn it maybe a dozen times in the decade plus that I've known her.

She looks fine without it. She seems happy without it. I don't really care either way.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I know it's kind of lame, but I like it when she likes it. She wears relatively light makeup, maybe some eye shadow and lash stuff. It accentuates the things she likes about herself, but she's also totally comfortable wearing none. So basically, I like when she wears makeup and when she doesn't, because she's not doing it because she feels compelled, she's doing it because she feels like it, and I like how she looks when she looks how she wants to look.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Setting of a the positive feedback loop of love:

  1. You're happy because she's happy
  2. She's happy because you're happy
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Anyone that says makeup doesn't make people look more attractive is lying and disrespectful of the skill it uses.

Whether you're okay with them saving their time is a different discussion.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 month ago

I think it's more that a lot of people only think of badly done makeup and see well done makeup as natural beauty, which it enhances rather than contrasting with

Of course someone with clown-face-adjacent levels of makeup is going to look worse, but if done to make the skin look natural but smoother, eyes look natural but bigger and features natural but better defined then yes, I think very few people will find that less attractive

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I've never really thought makeup made anyone look better. Even stage makeup makes people look worse than just being au natural.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

Stage makeup isn't supposed to look good up close though, or really even look good at all - it's just to make you look like you have a face to people sitting farther away.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

The first time I saw my wife with makeup was our wedding day. Since then at most once every few months for work and then only maybe eye shadow and lipstick. Safe to say I prefer no makeup. Let the natural beauty shine on its own!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

One of my partners wears it and I think so. She only puts it on for special occasions or when she wants to have fun with it so I associate it with those things. My other partner doesn’t wear it and I don’t mind a bit. I only wear it when going out and never to hide my features

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago

They always look good. Normal day levels of makeup looks great. Special event extra fine makeup looks great. Morning face with no makeup looks great. I just like their face.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Light makeup makes her look as confident as I wish she could be at baseline. She has a lot to be confident about but has horrendous self-confidence(relatively speaking). We're all a work in progress though.

Heavy makeup(indian weddings...) and I feel like I don't recognize her and she hates it too so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

Of course not. I'm in love with a whole person, not her appearance. I love her fierce intellect, her passion for justice, her wanderer's spirit. I love that we can sit together and watch anything only for it to lead to a new and endlessly fascinating discussion.

Makeup doesn't affect any of that.

I like how makeup highlights her favorite features or hides when she feels tired or insecure. I like that it helps her feel more fully herself. I think it's great that makeup can do that for her.

She will always be attractive to me for who she is. How she looked may have helped me first talk to her, but who she is has kept us talking for 16 years.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

One night my ex decided to wear make up even though she never did. It wasn't badly done but it felt odd, it just wasn't her

But honestly I don't care much, except for fake lashes, I don't find that attractive in the slightest

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

Yes, but shes gorgeous without it as well. She wears little make up, except for some stuff around the eyes. I really like her eyes, and the makeup does make them even prettier.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 month ago

yup, and I'm real up front about it as early as possible.

I've always had an aversion to people wearing makeup. I'm not sure where it came from, and I know I came across Rocky horror picture show young and i already really didn't like makeup, but I've never gotten seriously involved with anyone who uses makeup with any regularity, especially lipstick.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago

I'm a sucker for cat eye and lashes on my wife.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

Yes, but only because makeup is one of her passions that she can get really nerdy about. Something about her trying new, colorful looks and excitedly showing me makes me find her more attractive. I used to be a guy who didn't like makeup.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I can't imagine him in makeup, but he was having midlife rosacea and getting cosmetic treatment, not just the dermatologist but the MedSpa stuff, really good skin makes a big difference.

On me we agree, a light tinted sunscreen and some mascara or very subtle top eyeliner is best looking - the sort of makeup guys think is no makeup, basically. Before COVID I would have said more eyeliner, mascara, eyebrows filled, and lip gloss but happy for the change, people do wear less everyday makeup now.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I also have rosacea, is the MedSpa stuff helping? Is it very expensive?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

He got IPL, it is $300 a round but can pay from the HSA or FSA if it is for rosacea and your dermatologist may be able to get it covered by your insurance. Yes he found one treatment with the IPL did more than all the stuff he did with the dermatologist for two years now. They have other treatments if you still are having bad breakouts, he had the acne part tackled with tretinoin - the IPL significantly reduced redness and helped a lot with texture. It's not one and done but couple times a year, maybe eventually once a year, not bad.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Purely aesthetically I like light makeup. She doesn't look best in light makeup though. We like hiking and most of our vacations are to various trails. She is at her most attractive after a difficult climb. She is a very strong climber and during the climb she has an amazing confidence. Right after she gets to the top and sees the view she gets this look of accomplishment and joy and it's absolutely breathtaking. So she looks best sweaty, dirty, exhausted, and happy.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago

Man, that's the kind of relationship I dream about... Though swap the climb for a hike because I'm deathly afraid of heights 😂

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago

That's sort of the point of the stuff. If you use it right, it works.

I'm happy either way. I think the key is that it has to be done with enough subtly that you don't realize it's there.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago

No makeup at all for me. I know that some women have a "no makeup" makeup, the kind where you say you don't have any but you actually do. I don't like that either. (she thought that I couldn't tell)

[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Personally, I don't like noticeable make-up. If it's barely visible, it's fine as well but in general I like 'no make up' the best.

It's also not only about looks:

  • If you wear make-up, you have to be careful with rain, touching the face, kissing etc.
  • It may take a lot of time to apply.
  • It's expensive.
  • It's rather bad than good for your skin.
  • It's bad for the environment (more trash, animal testing, contimination of water etc.).

No make-up = Win-Win-Win-[...]

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

Eye makeup is a killer

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

No. I can't stand women wearing makeup. I like reality.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 month ago

No, I greatly prefer no makeup. At least no foundation. A little eye makeup can be nice.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not better or worse, just different. But those kind of things are really more for her than me anyway. She's most attractive when she feels good about herself.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

For me, it's primarily the confidence boost that's attractive.

She's very good with makeup, and doesn't overuse it. Who am I to say if she wants a little more jaw angle, or eyelash definition.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago

No, it only detracts from her perfection.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

When we started dating she had a light-"natural" style of makeup I liked. Ten years later I'm not entirely sure what happened but when she puts on makeup now it's much more extreme and not really attractive to me. It makes her feel pretty which is what matters I guess.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago

My partner recently shared a video/clip about the differences between the way girls do makeup to attract guys vs the way girls do makeup to attract girls. What your comment reads like to me is that she put on the light makeup because she figured you would like that, but now, she's figured that there's no need to attract you with her makeup anymore

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago

I'm ambivalent. Makeup is fine, but I wouldn't say she's prettier with it. Doesn't help that currently she's following some TikTok makeup people and they have her doing a ton of layers and gluing on eyelashes and stuff. I don't care for it at all, but it makes her happy so I haven't mentioned it.

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