You don't need to want to be alive to want to be not miserable
this post was submitted on 03 Aug 2024
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bonus: no need for sunscreen on my arms
Don't go to a foreign country without travel insurance. I almost died and was threatened with arrest for being unable to pay the hospital bill.
I have travel insurance, but I had a near miss with a tooth infection I got right after I got back from the usa
That I am simply not greedy enough, ruthless enough, or duplicitous enough to be my own boss, much less the boss of anyone else.
Trigger warning: Suicide
Don't trust a suicidal friend's promise that they won't off themselves and will seek help. Try everything you can to get them into therapy. Even if it will cost your friendship. It can save a life in the end
Your grandparents/parents had a whole life before you. Loves, wishes, likes, dislikes. You can ask them about literally any topic in the world and they will probably be happy to talk to you about it. Where was their first holiday? What did they watch on TV, who was their hero, what job did they actually want to do.
One day they will be gone before you if life goes the natural way and it will be too late to ask and you may regret not taking a moment for a chat.
Along with asking them things, go do shit with them when they show interest in things you might like, you never know if you'll get that chance again.
I still remember turning my grandfather down on a trip to go see Sue (the big fukkin TRex) when I was younger because I was playing with a friend that day and was a little shit. That memory is like a core regret, and I don't think he ever made an offer like that again....
If you feel like you don't need your medication anymore, that means the medication is working, and doing what it was prescribed to do.
When the Dr says wait 72 hours before drinking alcohol after taking the anti biotics give it a week at least, it's just not worth it.
Definitely don't fill your pillow with cement.
If an ex calls you, out of the blue, for no readily apparent reason, it's solely to take that knife they already jammed in your back and give it a few more good, hard, twists.
Got Gut Ain't no knives in my back
And anyone who doesn't want to date me for being friends with exes will just have miss out
You get a bigger raise by just getting a new job.
And…
HR is there to protect the company, not you.
You have to roll forward and reconcile the fixed assets every month or you will spend days catching up at year end, invariably finding a prior period issue that has to be corrected in the current period.
I was warned, but trusted the system too much - it can't regulate human error, no matter how many controls are in place!
That just because someone treats you better than you’ve ever been treated before, does NOT mean that they are treating you WELL.
If you were bullied or abused as a kid, do some actual reading about what’s normal and healthy, and get out of a situation immediately if there are any even slightly concerning signs. No second chances, no guilt, no self blame, just go.
I learned this for work, too.
Added to that: your company will let you go without warning. If they've proved this, then they deserve nothing better. Since then I have ab-sol-ute-ly no qualms about bailing without warning.
Right‽
2 jobs ago, I left with essentially 3 days warning because I was fucking miserable (this gave me a week off between jobs).
The last job I left, I negotiated a 3 week gap, so I'd be able to give a two-week notice AND take a week off because I genuinely liked the job and the people I was working with, but I fell into an opportunity too good to pass up.
A super important life lesson is to always put yourself and your mental health before the company.
I got some life advice somewhere, I don't remember where, that was essentially: Don't craft a well-thought-out argument against somebody that John Brown would have shot AND never give two weeks notice to a company that makes you miserable and it has been life changing.
Don't craft a well-thought-out argument against somebody that John Brown would have shot AND never give two weeks notice to a company that makes you miserable and it has been life changing.
That is amazing advice, and I will try and fail to put the first to good use here on lemmy with these fucking trolls.
A super important life lesson is to always put yourself and your mental health before the company.
This should be the norm. Companies usually don't care enough about you. They try to nurture loyalty in order to keep wages down while a few up in the hierarchy reap most of the rewards of your hard work.
If you were lying in the death bed, you probably wouldn't look back and think: "oh gee, I wish I would've worked more!"
So always put yourself first over some company.
The value of a consistent circadian rhythm.
I have cultivated my circadian arrhythmia to the point where I feel rested after a 20 min nap and feel great after 4 hours of sleep. The shadow people even wave to me in code sometimes to remind me what day it is!
Oh, that's the dream. #n24swd
That quitting a job to get a "better one" never ends up having a better job. The grass is never greener on the other side of the fence.
This was definitely not true for me. I have quit jobs for better jobs, and they were better! Never perfect, but better.
Welllll, in some cases the grass on this side is really bad.
I worked a job where my co-worker attempted suicide in front of us.
I found a new job in a new postal code.
Despite how you feel and what experts and friends tell you, you might be seriously struggling with mental health. One stiff breeze and the stack of cards comes tumbling down.
Don't drink alcohol with a mood disorder, It might seem ok for a while, but it's totally not.
Don't drink alcohol.
This, exactly. But darn are some people pushy
If your spouse is near comatose but is still arguing he doesn't need to go to the hospital, it means he's in diabetic ketoacidosis and you need to call an ambulance no matter how stubborn he's being despite not being able to keep his eyes open.
The world sucks and you can't do ANYTHING about it. Some people are just privileged and you're not one of them.
That if you're happier alone, you should stay that way.
Heck yes. You do you!
Way too many people tried to tell me what's supposedly good for me. But in the end the best decision I made was to stop listening
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