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Let's hear some stories from the thready-verse about how you guys met your significant other.

For me it was during the first year of COVID, my company asked who from Europe (I was living in Sweden) wanted to go for a three month business trip to coach a big Korean automotive supplier on how to do modern software development. Most of the other people had families and especially during COVID nobody wanted to travel. I said I could do it, even though I never coached before. But because nobody else volunteered they sent me and and another guy who also was single without a family, etc.

I was convinced that the other guy would have good game with the women here, and thought that there is no harm in installing some international dating app and to try my own luck. During COVID I just lost a ton of weight and found new confidence and it was far away from home and what happens in Korea stays in Korea and so on :D

Anyway, to my surprise during the first two weeks I got some matches and I hit it off with one of them. We met and started dating and very quickly fell for each other. Then when the 3 months were over, I asked the company if the customer would still have some use for my skills and they said yes and send me for 3 more months. I had to go back to Sweden to get a new Visa and spent another 2 weeks in quarantine (as the first time). But then the second tree months were over too and I asked again for more. By that time I was really sick of all the time in quarantine and asked if they could move me from the Swedish office to the Korean office and they agreed.

I went back to Sweden, threw away most of my stuff and put the most valuable things up on a friends attic and moved to Korea with one suitcase. I stayed at AirBnB's for two more months and then we found an apartment and moved in together.

She has a daughter from a previous marriage and we now have a 1.5 year old son together and we still live in Korea :D

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Long time ago i was an actor and a cook at a medieval market. it was Beltane and my best friend said "I'll get you a wife tonight". It didn't work, and she was very upset about it. I had some sausages on the fire when some girls walked past, and i cried out loud "i'm giving a sausage in a bun for a virgin, anyone interested?. One girl was interested, but very annoying, but her friend was cute. So now i'm married with two children with her.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

We were chatting on IRC, and no I wasn’t a moderator. We decided to meet IRL several months to maybe a year after starting chatting. We lived less than 2 hours apart so that made it easier. I encouraged her to find a job in my city as life in Switzerland is sweeter than life with minimal income in Lyon (France), she did and moved in with me.

That was 15 years ago, we’ve been married for 7 years before getting a divorce in 2024 but we are still friends and talk regularly. She’s now a Swiss citizen and is very happy with her professional life.

Now I am not looking for a significant other anymore, but all of my, ahem, 'adult games partners' have been met in bars or places like that.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

OkCupid. I had been using dating apps for like 8 years at that point with no luck. I was her first or second match. W4w

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

As an aside OP, are you still in Korea?

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 45 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (5 children)

Gary bar. We're not gay.

Edit: Well fuck me in the ass. I'm leaving it as is.

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[–] [email protected] 58 points 1 month ago

She was dating my ex girlfriend. They split. My ex recommended she ask me out because she thought we might be a good fit. It's been 14 years.

Having a previous significant partner that I split with on good terms has always been a great strategy for getting a new partner.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 month ago

I was joining the crew of a ship that I had worked on before. When I met the mate in the tender to bring me aboard I requested to be moved into a specific cabin (to avoid being put in the one that shares a bulkhead with the engine room water tight door which is clanged loudly every half hour for safety checks). That cabin was already occupied by my future wife.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

At risk of repeating an answer to a similar question some weeks or months ago:

My wife and I met on a porn site. We caught feelings and met IRL and it was actually pretty great.

Well, it was not exactly porn but more a popular “adult fanfiction” (almost the same thing) site where we went from cooperative creative writing to something much more intimate. I flew out to meet her and now we’ve been married for about a decade.

I still say we met because of porn. My first message to her contained a detailed, descriptive, as unceremonious as it was unambiguous list of preferences but it seems to be working out so far.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 month ago

My first message to her contained a detailed, descriptive, as unceremonious as it was unambiguous list of preferences but it seems to be working out so far.

Sounds like the foundation for great communication to me.

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[–] [email protected] 66 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Met on irc a hundred years ago. Moved to a different state to be together. Got married, had kids, still together livin' the dream. No regerts. Ragerts. Whatever.

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Met last year through online dating, met once when we were able to and sparks flew when I saw he eyes light up at me mentioning that the intersection outside my front door really should be a roundabout.

Never knew how sexy a politically active dryad could be until I was seeing one whenever we had the chance to meet up. She's legit like a forest spirit that shows up from congress with the fey courts and immediately wants to jump me and it's fucking amazing. 10/10, date the witchy ones if you know how to appreciate them, they will have you under a spell you'll never want to be freed from.

Maybe it's second honeymoon phase since we're getting to see each other for the first time in a few months after I caught a nasty bug, but the needed time apart has just reinforced to me that my life's better with her in it than it is when she's not, and if that's not a healthy foundation for something bigger to be built on, I haven't found what is yet.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 1 month ago

Introduced by a college friend. Buddy of mine was visiting my home country, we plan to meet up and he randomly and last minute tells me he's inviting an acquaintance to our meet up. I was a bit annoyed at the sudden change in plans but turns out the rando he invited was a pretty cool lady with a lot of shared interests.

We went to a concert together that weekend, a comic convention the next and the fun kept going.

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