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Edit: while I'm at it, does anyone know what I should do when I'm waiting for a coincidence/adventure to happen, but it never comes? I can't really go outside and arrange for it to happen because I don't know what I'm looking for.

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[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

"Life sucks and then you die" - Vince McMahon

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago

I feel scammed

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

Don’t set yourself on fire just to keep others warm.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

"Everything you want in life has teeth".

It means no matter what you think you want that'll surely make you perfectly happy, it'll never quite be what you want.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

"you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you find you get what you need". - the great philosopher Jagger

I may not always get exactly what I want, but if I put in the effort and do my best, I find that sometimes what I want is not what I needed in the end.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (1 children)

“The more you tell the truth, the more your life becomes an adventure”.

My favorite psychology professor told me this, and it rings true. I’m autistic, and have an obsession with never saying anything inaccurate or untruthful, even if it’s a common way to phrase things.

I’ve also had a ridiculously interesting bunch of adventures in my life, and it just keeps getting more interesting.

I think that my unwillingness to bend the truth in order to fit in or smooth things over or ignore things, has led to a lot of those adventures happening.

We tend to use lies, as a culture, to stabilize our lives into predictable, known shapes. Once you stop that, it goes off the rails very quickly.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Same here! Life is so much easier if you just tell the truth. This is a great quote.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.

Practice the basics, get it right. Don't try to go faster for the sake of going faster, you'll hit your limit and get sloppy and pickup bad habits. Test your limits to learn them, but don't hit them every time. Get comfortable within them and the goal posts will move.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

This is good

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

"A mind changed against its will is of the same opinion still."

You can't argue your way to winning people over with your ideas/opinions.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Not unless they respect argumentation

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Something always happens.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

Misery is not a currency.

Meaning you cannot pay off grief, sadness, guilt, or remorse by forcing yourself to be miserable. It’s not a penance. Fell your feelings, and get on with life.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago (1 children)

“Easy things tend to become hard, and hard things tend to become easy.”

This was said to me by my mentor when I was contemplating a very difficult career choice. I have found a lot of truth in it through various areas of my life. The most striking has been watching people I knew when I was much younger who always look for the easy way out of whatever life throws at them. Over time I’ve watched how this catches up to people and makes life much harder for them because they never plan, never save, never deny themselves in the moment.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 5 months ago (1 children)

The most-predictable method I know-of, for producing inability-to-plan, is chaotic/incomprehensible parenting or home-situation:

The child learns that there is no cause-effect relationship, that no planning is going to produce any results, & this lesson alters their unconscious brain-wiring .. by the age of 7?

Possibly younger.

WHEN life is irrational & chaotic, THEN planning is wasted-effort, & only immediate-gratification produces any worthwhile results.

That sabotage-of-a-life isn't undoable.

Worse, it's self-perpetuating, generation on generation.

Breaking the cycle .. how could it happen?

You'd need to break the brokenness in the parenting, itself, & you'd need to do it consistently, for the next-generation, so they grew-up with stable & trustworthy parenting, through years of young-childhood..

how could such result be created.

No population would tolerate such alteration of their family-process, would they?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Not sure why you were downvoted. In some instances I think this may absolutely be a factor and the generational perpetuation of such an environment is hard to overstate. My spouse and I refer to it as “One Hundred Years of Solitude” after the amazing novel by Gabriel Garcia Marquez. If you haven’t read it, it follows this family in Columbia through multiple generations showing how self-destructive behaviors can be passed through generations in a self-perpetuating way. That’s an aside to say that I agree that yes I suspect that for some folks this is a part of the story.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago

“After everything is said and done, there’s a lot more said than done.”

— my old man

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

"Nothing moves faster than the hands of time"

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Another way of saying that c represents the maximum speed at which entropy can accumulate

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago (1 children)

„Bees don’t waste their time explaining flies that honey tastes better than shit.“

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Haha this is a good one. I can see where it applies

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago
[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

"The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is right now."

Stop regretting what you didn't do in the past, and do it now. Time will continue to march into the future irrespective of whatever actions you take. In another 20 years from now would you like to arrive there having accomplished many of your goals or accomplishing nothing?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago (1 children)

They build their own cages. - The Pigman

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Ugh, how do you avoid building your own cage?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Meditate to ensure fresh data is constantly entered into the system

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago (1 children)

a hippy dippy one:

"whatever time it happened was the right time, whoever was there were the right people, whatever happened was the only thing that could have happened. It is always your time to do it, and same for everyone else."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

This one resonates with me a lot. I go with the flow for almost everything and while it's unpredictable and chaotic at times, i'm often much better for it. I'm attuned to myself and what i need so in any given situation i can get myself together and figure out a way to keep moving forward.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 months ago (2 children)

"It's amazing how far some people will come to have a bad time."

After seeing an argument between a couple at a large EDM show (Sasha and Digweed) in the chillout lounge.

"Just imagine what it's like inside his head."

After getting verbally assaulted by an angry guy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Haha that is a funny one

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 months ago

Sasha and Digweed, that must have been a hell of a show

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 months ago

"Tell one lie, and you end up saying 1000 more lies to protect that lie" - My math teacher

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

"I've learned that life is one crushing defeat after another until you just wish Flanders was dead"

-Homer Simpson

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