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Can confirm, everyone who has said "If you respect me, I'll respect you", has been a Grade-A Asshole
"stimmyabby"
get off the internet for the love of god
There's respecting a person's position and respecting the person themself. They're two related but still separate things.
Neither of those are the actual definition of the word. I've always interpreted it to acknowledge a person's abilities/capabilities. The big conflict of respect at my workplace seems to be older people who have worked there for 17 years not being respectful of people writing there for 8 years. They think they are the authority figure and deserve that kind of respect (as mentioned here) and treat people who have been there several years like they don't deserve the respect to make any decisions. Which is nonsense, and they are just making more work for everyone by disrupting workflow in order to prove some level of superiority.
It sounds like the post fits fairly well to your workplace, but at any rate I think the important part is that "respect" means different for different people and the core idea that some think there's a difference incoming vs outgoing is problematic.
The whole core of "treat others as you wish to be treated" is this. It's not about actions, it's about intentions. It should be "treat others with the respect and consideration you wish for them to give to you"
I've tried replacing "respect" with "dignity" in situations like this. I definitely don't think everyone deserves to be respected, but dignity can be afforded.
They aren't even used to being treated like authorities, they're just egotistical losers
Points of authority
I'm assuming by "authority" this means police, judges, etc, rather than health etc
I think part of dealing with professionals should be treating the position they're in with respect, especially in regards to the situation you may be dealing with. That said, they should also be acting within the bounds of their authority and with the dignity and professionalism of whatever position.
To me, this means that I follow professional advice with some gravitas - including that of doctors or medical "authorities" in their field - because their knowledge will typically exceed my own.
For police or judges, that means I respect them when they're acting in a professional manner within the bounds of their authority, and also respecting that a situation where I interact with them under such probably requires some seriousness. Not bowing or scraping, but also not cussing them out, provoking, etc.
If I get lit up by a patrol car, I'll safely pull over and see what's up. If it's a ticket and I don't accept the reason for it, then I'll file a dispute. If I attend court, I'll be professional. If my doctor recommends an important medical procedure, I'll listen and give their words weight.
This obviously doesn't mean I need to accept if these people should abuse their authority, i.e. by giving out frivolous tickets/charges or prescribing unnecessary medication, there are appropriate ways to respond to those.
You ultimately decide on the procedure/medication. You can challenge a ticket. You can refuse to answer the questions of a police officer. You can request/hire legal council. You can challenge a decision at a higher court. Etc
But frankly I see a lot of people who end themselves up in shit by behaving in a ... less than appropriate manner. They're still people, but acting like a reckless, combative, and/or arrogant idiot isn't going to improve the situation in any way, and there seems to be a growing trend where cameras are not only catching more bad behaviour by "the authorities" but also by people who seem to think that having one makes them some sort of Tiktok movie star immune to the consequences of their actions. This includes SovCit types who want all the perks of a civilized society but reject the "authority" behind laws and legal obligations.
This is why operationalizing your variables is so important
What do you mean?
I mean defining your terms and how they are measured makes it clear what you mean.
What do you mean "variables"? In the computer science sense? Can you define this term?
Variables in the general sense. A thing that is defined and measured.
Do some research on narcissism. That should clear things up
Your mistake was thinking I give a shit about your respect.
This is the Prairies in a nutshell (For Canada anyways, although it seems like the States is similar), respect is about authority there
I wish I could think and articulate this clearly all the time.
Wel, if it helps, it was apparently originally said by a neurodivergent child. This person is just passing it off as their own. So while you or I may not be able to articulate things this well…at least we don’t steal ideas from kids and pass them off as our own?
Me tooooooo.
Human respect should be given, respect of an authority, I think, should be earned.
For me, there's a default level of respect that is given to a person and to a person's position that are related, but still independent of each other, and they can increase or decrease depending on a person's actions.
Way back in my 20s I had a manager who was power tripping against me stating I did not respect her. I told her that I would do as she says because she is my manager, but respect is earned. She and her boss both argued that respect is given. I gave up and a few weeks later I quit because that job (and some personal stuff) destroyed my mental health. Ultimately it was the best decision I could have made for myself at that time.
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