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A former close friend kept me (f) around as a backup plan while she waited for her ex to "stop dating other people" so they could get back together. It fucked me up bad when I learned about it since we were REALLY close otherwise, basically a LTR in all but name. It sent me into a downward spiral that took years to recover.
I cut her out of my life after she showed up unannounced at an address I never gave her to tell me they got engaged.
Oh, my parents take the prize.
To pick just one thing, I remember a disagreement about how to re-arrange the furniture my bedroom. I remember saying (and with regret as the words were leaving my mouth), "well, it is my room." Instant shitshow. She announced that since she wasn't needed she would be Running Away From Home.
Even at 5 or 6, I knew that this was the stupidest thing ever, but that she also wouldn't back down unless I cried and chased her and begged her to stay. She got out the front door and slowly walked towards the street, stopping every few feet to look back. She had nowhere to go, obviously. If this were going to be a battle of wills, I held all the cards. I was also six. If I had been 16, I might have thought to lock the front door behind her. In any case, even at that age I knew that if I somehow won this, things could only get worse.
Yeah, I whipped up some tears and ran after her. But she never tried that one again and I like to think that it was because she got all the way to the street before she got her intended outcome.
That's absolutely hideous. Sometimes they only care about how you reflect them.
what the fuck. i'm sorry this happened to you
They told me that if I went to college and got a job, I'd be able to afford groceries.
Speaking of college/jobs, they told me that going to them would help me make more friends.
And took out a pyramid scheme loan right?
First ex would threaten to kill herself everyday if I didn't bend over backwards for her.
Also shit that my parents did but they were young and dumb trying to raise a kid and our relationship is actually very solid now
My birth mother's constant gaslighting. I'm 4 years free of her shit and no longer working to the bone just to stay away from home.
I'm not going to detail everything but it boiled down to unclear directions, didn't happen the way she wanted yet exactly as she directed, gaslit me into thinking I didn't follow her directions.
Got old like milk as soon as I started writing down and recording what she initially said.
Feel you on the crazy mother thing.
My cat pretends he's starving to death. Every day. Even though I just fed you, Mojo
Cats are assholes haha.
Ex went off birth control without telling me. Only found out because I insisted on going to the doctor when we had a pregnancy scare.
Omigod, why? That's a horrific thing to do.
