Well, it helps to not be such a mopey little troll.
this post was submitted on 04 Apr 2024
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Have you considered fomenting revolution?
I have. I think I have a sign up sheet here somewhere...
I channel the despair, anger and misery into working on solutions to help marginalized peoples. I don't have all the answers to the world's problems, and I can't solve it all, but I can show the people who might have the answers that there is someone in their corner who supports them in their efforts. Even if those people haven't been born yet, demonstrating the power of empathy and collaboration sets them up to choose constructive paths. If I give up on them, then it becomes much easier and more likely that they will choose the same anti-social self-interested motives that are destroying us all. But, if they are going to be able to make that choice at all, they need to be in a position where they aren't in survival mode all the time.
We're all just organisms who exist for a brief flash of time on a galactic scale, ultimately this is all meaningless. But as someone who identifies as a bit of an existentialist, I make my meaning. You can too.
It also enables me to leave the weed for wind-down time, mostly. Depends on how badly my health is doing, and it's pretty variable.
For me, it's just math. The odds of things getting better if I try may be low, but the odds if I don't are even lower. I'll take the higher odds every time.
For you, have you considered spite? Live the best life you can to prove wrong everyone who tried to stop you, and do as much good in the world as you can so those trying to do evil have to try just that little bit harder. It only takes one good hit to ruin a superior opponent's perfect game, and you can only get that hit if you keep playing.
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One should always be drunk, that's all that matters.
So as not to feel time's horrible burden
That breaks your shoulders and bows you down
You must get drunk without ceasing.
But what with?
With wine, with poetry, or with virtue, as you choose.
But get drunk
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Well there is ALWAYS pessimistic and optimistic view on everything. But I do not mean naive or stupid. I mean optimistic.
Pessimist: "It makes no sense to improve my situation, because I will fail! I will not even try." Stupid: "Things are not bad. Nothing to change here." Naive: "Things will fix themselves." Optimist: "Well things may be bad, but we can, and we will fix them."
So to answer your concrete questions:
- unhabitable planet: lets vote for green parties, lets push for green energy. Results will not be immediate, but we will get there. Yes it will get hotter a few degrees and will cause some weather problems. But we can fix it.
- fascist government: Vote for better, join movement. Or if things are really extreme in your country. Move to a democracy.
- money problems: you can change your job. Yes it can be very hard, but If you really try (improve your cv, reeducate yourself, change profession) you can get really good jobs. You can learn sales and be really good salesman with very high pay without ever going to college.
- social issues: go out, meet new people, join some class, start a hobby.
Yes I know mentioned things can be awfully hard to achieve. Buy you can achieve them. One by one. As to why bother? You do not have to. But that is the beauty of it. You can try to improve things as many times as you want. It will be hard, but things can be way better.
If nothing else I would bother to fix my life (and the world) just for the sake of curiosity. To see how good can life actually get.
Have you considered you might have better relationships and definitely would have more money if you weren't high all the time?
Weed isn’t expensive everywhere. I just bought half an oz for $30; even when I’m in the middle of a pain flare and sharing with another heavy vaper that will last at least 4-6 weeks. ~$350/year isn’t changing my life if I don’t spend it on weed.
“Just don’t do drugs lol” is useless for anything other than feeling smug; when people don’t have access to quality mental healthcare and their material living situations suck, a certain amount are going to use drugs to deal with it. People who are having a good time already don’t want to be high or drunk all the time.
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Think globally, act locally
As said by Paulie Shore in his environmental documentary Biodome.
If everyone did that we'd be fine as a species, but not enough do. Don't get so stressed out about the stuff we can't change to not help change stuff you can.
Our brains don't care about the scale, it'll help if you do something no matter how small.
And that gives you the mental bandwidth to care about big shit again.
You have to moderate how many fucks you give or you'll run out.
This is the best advice I've adopted recently for exactly the same perception. Focus on your life, maybe do your best to have a positive impact on the things that worry you. Decrease your engagement with the news cycle - know what's going on, but only as much as you can handle without it affecting your mental health.
Learn to trust that things will be ok, even if you're not entirely convinced they will. It may not solve the problems, but your sanity matters too
If I may, let me rephrase what givesomefucks said:
Do not focus on the “ bigger picture”; it’s not something that can be easily fixed by you. Instead, focus on smaller things within your bubble of life; e.g., been putting off the laundry? Go do it real quick. All of it: wash, dry, fold, and put away. Been meaning to clean your bathroom for a while? Do it. Wash the counters and the mirror; wipe the toilet down (even the back of the base).
If it helps, make a laundry list of things you need to get done or want to do (they don’t all have to be chores). This will help get them out of your head and organized in a way that you can tackle each b item easier. And while you don’t want to pressure yourself to get them all done “right now”, give yourself reasonable deadlines to help hold yourself accountable.
The idea is to build up these little wins; they feel good when they’re complete, and also enrich your life in some way at the same time. It will also help build up your confidence, as you’ll run out of simple stuff and start focusing on slightly more complex things.
To add to this, I find it helpful to think about "what I'm doing today makes tomorrow easier" (or what can I do with these 15 minutes to smooth tomorrows hassles)
Have you considered joining a cult?
Yeah make sure it's not just any standard garden variety cult. It has to be a DEATH cult. Preferably one where there is a cool uniform, like dark hooded robes.
I'd like to know the answer to this question tbh because same, minus the 24/7