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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

I get the point, but it's not a good way of defending it. The ADHD medication might be okay, but here is framed as an exaggeration, and the other one is not good.

Furthermore, many of those interventions are detrimental or at least dangerous. Mine was orthodontics and it ended terribly; today, I would need a surgery to correct all the damage caused. While I was a difficult case, it's not uncommon. In recent years, braces are being reconsidered as they alter a developing skull, often atrophiating something while repairing something else. Sports in childhood can have an impact in adulthood. This one I'm also living it closely as my mother was one of those girls inspired by Nadia Comăneci to start gymnastics. Today, she's living a hard late adulthood.

We've normalized not listening to children and thinking of them as our properties. Medical interventions (I literally pointed out the problem with my treatment and I was ignored) or the lack of them can be a sign of this. We need to balance their developing cognitive abilities with their autonomy, not shadowing their autonomy all together. That's the argument. Telling people "things are already done, so what's the problem?" is fallacious at best and counterproductive at worst.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

It's just "muh parental rights" and people clinging onto their power over others.

Essentiallly, if you're not excercising overt control over your children, then you're showing to those children that do get that kind of overt control, that there's an another way of life. You have to essentially micromanage your children's life well into their adulthood, just because some scummy adults that managed to steer their children into unwanted relationships and/or shitty jobs, and you'd offend them for it.

I kind of got that kind of treatment when it comes to jobs. My stepmother really wanted me to have a "manly job" instead of becoming a programmer, because she was "concerned of me" that I will end up too weak, and also she hated working on computers because they crashed thus she believed they're "just a fad" (until facebook came). All while being too disabled to do said jobs. Things that shouldn't hurt at all are really painful for me, likely due to a mixture of pain hypersensitivity (due to then undiagnosed autism) and some skin/collagen condition. But all of these did not matter, because parents even have the right to make mistakes from time to time, and they can't be right all the time unfortunately. Result: starting college with minimal programming knowledge, while others already dabbled into OOP by that time.

For the reactionary, a parent's horrible mistake is million times more important than the child's own will, that could sometimes even save them.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Ok but let's not further the anti adhd meds bandwagon. I'd be a high-school dropout instead of a college graduate without them

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

Yeah, that rubs me the wrong way. I've never been diagnosed with anything because that costs money, but if you told me there was a pill I could take that would make my brain work something close to normal, I'd trade almost anything for it

Like yeah there's obviously nothing wrong with having ADHD or depression or autism, and also your quality of life is significantly worse if you can't bring yourself to make phone calls or wake up before noon or remember to brush your teeth every day

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

I've been without my ADHD meds for a couple days since II ran out and since I was changing the dosage I decided not to get a refill until then, and my God i am so annoying without them.

anybody who claims to not want to put people on ADHD medicine should have to sit next to me explaining F1 drivers and shit at a restaurant where I'm not getting the social cues to shut up

update: saw a lady at work with a CSX shirt and I said "I love trains 🥰" my autistic masking flew out the fucking window.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

We could put on a track of me repeating words so I don't forget the thing I'm trying to do, get, or find. You can only hear the word keys repeated until shit shoes, shoes, shoes… so many times before going insane

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

anybody who claims to not want to put people on ADHD medicine should have to sit next to me explaining F1 drivers and shit at a restaurant where I’m not getting the social cues to shut up

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