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This but replace "stuffed animals" with "your friends." Nothing like someone coming along thinking they can somehow be the one to "fix" or "save" the homie and ends up separating them from longtime friends (and then they're still not happy and now we're all a little more lonely)
I would never hide my stuffed animals. I have exactly one, and it's a hedgehog I keep on my bookshelf. Not a Sonic-style hedgehog, a British hedgehog.
I will be keeping that hedgehog until I or someone in my family has kids, at which point I will pass it down to them.
How can you tell it's British?
It has a massive hoard of stuff its grandparents stole from all the other stuffed animals.
I have a small figurine of an Irishman and I'm fairly sure the hedgehog is bullying it.
Fair enough.
Probably because it stole spices and land
This is Netherlands erasure
#PortugueseCrimesMatter
You can tell because of the way it is.
Don't date ~~people who make you feel like you have to hide your stuffed animals~~
Don't.
Hella respectable
To each their own. I don't think I could take someone seriously if they were too attached to toys and dolls as it is, for me, an obvious sign of an arrested development. But that doesn't mean I should ridicule them, nor that others wouldn't be right for them (or that they're immoral people either, of course, which is what truly matters in the end); the world is big enough for both of us, and for your toys too!
I'm really not sure why you're being downvoted. Your comment was polite, contributed to the discussion, and was made in good faith.
I'm on the other end. I don't think keeping a stuffed animal matters really. I have a functionally useless old timer pocket knife from when I was a kid and I just kept it for sentimental/memory value.
I know you think you're coming off as magnanimous, but it's got the same energy as "I've got a lot of gay friends actually" energy.
I don't, but I do have a gay uncle.
The problem isn't the toys and dolls, but being overly attached, which can happen to any material possession, even "adult things" like cars or clothes.
100%. Anything that can just be bought and seen but has no depth is definitely on the top of the list. At least if you're into cars but talk to me about engines and technical evolution, or you're into animals but fr and know classifications and curious facts about otters, like, even if I'm not interested at all I can't help but respect a bit. It's a passion with depth, an obsession I could never have but that shows you appreciate the less superficial and consumerist parts of the world. I'd have the same opinion about someone who has a massive collection of Bionicles (I get it, they were cool AF but there's a time and place for everything...) in full display in the living room, or worse, anime bodypillows, lol.
Two things.
First, dating and commitment is about matching and compatibility, not about some kind of objective ranking system of quality or merit. It's about how a partner or potential partner rates on your own personal scale, not some sort of societal scale built by social consensus. So while it is ok for you to find a particular trait to be a negative, or even a deal breaker, your point is completely irrelevant to the advice being given, which is not to hide important traits of one's identity.
Second, your own preference here is stated in unnecessarily condescending terms, as if your preferences are right and the opposite preference is wrong or the sign of some kind of disorder. Whatever your definition of "toys and dolls" are, it probably isn't a very tightly defined term, and I'd venture to guess that you are OK with some kinds of "toys" but not others. People collect stuff. People develop emotional attachment to physical things all the time. And for you to gatekeep and say which things are acceptable or unacceptable is kinda an asshole move.
I'm taking a somewhat oppositional position to OP! I'm not gatekeeping anything, just expanding on the topic. And no, I personally have never collected anything nor do I particularly care for decoration, and I find being attached to material possessions to that extent says something not necessarily dangerous or immoral about you, but it does still. So, while being obsessed with toys is not at the core of any ideological or personality-dependent negative attribute (nor does it constitute one by itself), it does serve as a litmus test for whether the person is, you know, 'regular'. Come on, you go to a guy's house and he has nothing but Goku and Vegeta inflatable dolls and refuses to take off the Piccolo doorag in his 30s and you're not gonna think he might be a tad infantile and focused on less than important things?
and you're not gonna think he might be a tad infantile
The question is: why should I?
I don't believe you're more mature because you have fewer doorags, dude.
I do believe someone having this much contempt for keeping art in their house is a little weird.
Oh god, you’re dealing with this idiot, too? They’re the whole reason we have the saying “nothing before the ‘but’ matters” and it’s just so disappointing that they think they’re being a good person.
I just like chastising people for being rude. People will, as a body politic, periodically pick up really negative attitudes about things, and that shit has got to be fought back. A strong, pro-social attitude is important to keep.
Because anyone too involved with collecting nonsense instead of deep thoughts and friends is lost in the sauce. Also, art? Or toys? And it's just a convo we're having about it, it's not like I go knocking on people's houses and bully them for being nonsensical.
You're bullying people now and you don't even realize it. That's why people are upset with you.
And yes, art. How are you collecting friends when all of them know you think they're low-class simpletons just for keeping some pokemon cards instead of "correctly" larping as an intellectual?
You can't vibe with someone who keeps a bunch of plushies on their bed? That's fine. Whatever. Why do you think so negatively about your fellow people?
None of my friends do that, and I am gentle when they do harmless but nonsensical things or simply say nothing because I'm not that much of a maniac, lol. I have no other social media accounts besides this Lemmy one for that same reason. And I don't think negatively of my fellow man, I just think vacuous and consumerist interests are neither artistic nor overall valuable, and dolls are for children. You can still be a lovely person even if you're into dolls in your 30s, of course, but I know we're not gonna have much in common and that's just life. 🤷
Critics who treat adult as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves. To be concerned about being grown up, to admire the grown up because it is grown up, to blush at the suspicion of being childish; these things are the marks of childhood and adolescence. And in childhood and adolescence they are, in moderation, healthy symptoms. Young things ought to want to grow. But to carry on into middle life or even into early manhood this concern about being adult is a mark of really arrested development. When I was ten, I read fairy tales in secret and would have been ashamed if I had been found doing so. Now that I am fifty I read them openly. When I became a man I put away childish things, including the fear of childishness and the desire to be very grown up.
My friend was embarrassed when I stayed over the first time because others had made her feel bad about these things. She’s a very emotionally mature person with degrees, social skills, and all the rest and I wasn’t about to act superior just because she had a big chipmunk that made her feel good.
I’m not sure you’re on the side of this that you think you are and I hope no one has to deal with that until you can address it.
I'm on the side of not bullying folks for ultimately harmless things. When it comes to dating, it just wouldn't be my thing... but I'm a married man so that doesn't truly matter either, lol.
And yet you’re literally saying that someone liking a stuffed animal is a sign of arrested development. “I’m not bullying them but I am saying that they’re a little broken and don’t think they should be taken seriously” is so much more a showcase of your own deeply flawed character than theirs.
Does this apply to my Funko Rogues Gallery?
Eeeehhhh, I'd silently judge anyone with a Funko collection. 2 or 3 would still be fine
But it's a fucking awesome collection of various villains. I got a Mirror Spock between 10" Skeletor and Storm Trooper enforcers, yo. And a MF Dalek up front, who will exterminate any punk asses.