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There are people who dress for comfort or the weather, and others dress to impress.
You can drive a car that'll get you there, or you can drive one that makes people jealous.
The people who are concerned with how attractive their partner is to others, are the same people that are worried about how others view their material possessions.
It’s a universal people red flag and automatic -500 karma. Only pitiful fools date for looks.
What do you mean by date for looks? I'd wager almost everyone thinks they date for more than just looks.
I mean, did they talk about how he wasnt conventionally attractive or did they care about it?
Are they saying, "old ugly bob is coming by for dinner tonight, make sure to put out an extra setting", or are they saying "don't date bob because he's old and ugly"?
“Ew, he’s ugly/He’s ugly, you can do better.”
These people you are talk to are shallow and immature. As far as those people you have to choose from to talk to, you can do better.
Like, my blunt uncle might make a joke about a boyfriend being ugly and cracking a mirror or something, but he would never, ever, say something like 'you can do better' or 'ew'.
There's a line between being open and honest about someone's attractiveness, and being cruel and a bad judge of character.
Yeah, those sound like crappy people that you're talking to.
I can't imagine caring that a happy family member or friend's partner is less conventionally attractive, much less saying that to them!
You need to meet and surround yourself with less horrible people.
Everyone's definition of attractive is different, but typically everyone wants their partner to be both loving and attractive. It's the "full package."
So they care because they want you to have both, they want the best for you. So long as you find him attractive, that should be good enough.
I, too, am in a mixed attractiveness relationship. Though I'm on the opposite side as you. All I can say is if my wife was receiving those comments, she did not show it. After all these years I think her family and friends accept me.
But in all seriousness, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If you are happy, then that's all that matters.
People care about that? Not in my life is that an issue
I'm pretty sure that it boils down to successful procreation genetics. As in, the more attractive you are the bigger the selection of mates you have access to. It's been happening for as long as life has existed here.
No doubt this has across history been heavily distorted by culture, art and religion and in more recent times by fashion, marketing, advertising and media.
I need to feel some level of attraction for it to work, but i try not to care about what others think. I also find that people i like/love grow more attractive over time.
My criteria for dating: someone I can snuggle at night after a long day. Ideally with cold feet and warm torso so I can choose my temperature.
I seriously don't know anyone who thinks that way, I'm sorry you have to deal with those sort of people.
The majority of people I have met only care that you are happy and the rest I ignore.
It’s ok 🫂
I agree with you.
Well for what its worth, if you're happy I'm happy.
And if you aren't happy you can talk to me even though I have no idea what I can do to help.
People notice things that they are self-conscious about. Not even that they're necessarily insecure about it, but when you think about something a lot, you tend to notice it in other people as well.
So I'd say it's because your friends and family think a lot about their own appearances. Likely because they're insecure about their own appearances.
The only time I've ever cared about someone's appearance, is if they are covered in festering boils or oozing sores. Because that shit looks contagious.
Exactly! And my fiancé has neither
It's called "vanity".
Lots of people care only about status. If someone is better looking then that means to them that other people will see that they have won.
They would rather have someone they can show off at a party than a person who is actually compatible with them.
They probably watched too many Disney movies.
Apparently you meet very shallow people.
My dad included 😭
Oh goddddd the dad thinks his kid needs to chase hotter dudessss I'm gonna die