It doesn't matter what other people think of your partner. Only what you think. Fuck the haters.
this post was submitted on 28 May 2025
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You don’t have to explain if you’re attracted to your partner or not. Some people are assholes who can’t be happy unless others are unhappy. Personally I would tell them to fuck off and just not talk to them anymore.
You're getting a lot of answers from chronic singles on this thread.
The answer is: It depends on where you are in life and what you needs as a person.
Generally you value different things in a partner as you grow older. A loving, caring, responsible person may be less appealing if you don't live with them and share no responsibilities and instead are looking for fun and trouble, so you can prioritize other things you like.
As you grow older, you expect different things and reorganize your priorities. You might be more concerned about someone's personality if you want then to raise your child, than if you want them to get you Molly and fuck.
These comments are crazy lol.
The idea of "shallowness" is stupid. It's a normal part of human attraction to prefer people that are visually attractive, so it's unusual when people ignore that and take conventionally unattractive partners.
It's similar to having a partner who's kind of an asshole. Why would you do that? Cuz they're hot? It's just as odd and one-sided in the reverse.
Now, if you just find conventionally unattractive people to be attractive, then that's another story -- that would show that you're not making excuses for ignoring basic elements of human attraction.
Also, if you truly don't value physical attractiveness to the degree that other people do, and are not just saying that to cope with having a less beautiful partner, then that's totally fair. People are just commenting on it because for most people, physical beauty is a core part of attraction, and ignoring that fact is a big sign of denial and deeper unhappiness. But if that doesn't apply to you, then rock on.
Thank you so much!! Attractiveness truly doesn’t matter to me. (I mean, it does to an extent, if they’re covered in oozing sores like someone said, I would care.) But I do find him attractive physically and personalitywise!!
To me, he looks like your typical young man and my perfect fiancé ❤️.
That's wonderful, I'm happy for you. I hope you ignore the haters :)
Thank you! My best friend thinks he’s cute!
Tell them that they're ugly and that their partner is ugly. Don't expand on it, don't debate, just leave them at that. I've found that doing that really fucks with people. That, smiling, and staring at their foreheads, though not altogether because then you look like a jackass. It needs to be subtle and honest.
These words are in English, but the sentiment is so foreign to me I can't seem to comprehend it.
...might be fried from work and classwork, tho.
Try to get some rest, friend, you'll be all better in the morning. One step at a time, it's gonna be alright.
Generally a good thing to be attracted to the person you’re fucking
He’s very attractive to me and his personality is great!
You can be attracted to someone who isn't "attractive". Many people are.
Many people are themselves not particularly attractive, so this is may be a matter of realistic expectations.
It's only interesting when there's a large disparity in attractiveness which is generally anomalous. I think "many" falling into this category is probably an overstatement.
Aggressive lmao
I see what you did there
some only care about money, and think they can be stay at home moms forever.
It's been said before, but I'll repeat it: some people are shallow.
Because some people are just shallow.
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