I usually dont engage directly with my thoughts unless I am talking to myself out loud which I often do.
I think mostly on instinct, and rationalise/summarize my actions only if I have to.
It's a bit like waking up at night in a pitch black room and making your way to the toilet. You barely remember it the next morning, but if someone asks you about it you say "oh yeah maybe" and retrieve/fabricate a memory of you navigating around furniture in the dark (because you MUST have), but can't actually recall it.
Sounds like there were a lot of fights growing up but now they're at somewhat peace with one another