Taj Mahal because it's in India and I am female.
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Turkish resorts. They are mostly in places where people were taken in bunches to the sea and thrown off board just a bit more than 100 years ago. And anything Turkish tbh. Oh yes, there is a lot of friendliness of the "oh so your ancestors are from Ispir, mine too, I have friends in Ispir, come visit" kind. It feels mind-bending, because it's always orthogonal to whether the person saying it thinks that genocide is, you know, not okay.
I would probably want to see the less tourist (less inhabited honestly) parts, where villagers follow you with suspicious looks.
Various despotic monarchies attracting scammers and whores. That is, I'd probably be interested to take a look, but the fact that there are places where you can be jailed arbitrarily technically doesn't instill confidence.
Israel. Being part Jewish too, I'd kinda feel like complicit in evil. I've felt that once, don't want to repeat yet.
Basically, anything Israeli and Turkish because they won't admit their genocide.
What about Japan?
Not because they won't admit it, but because they won't unpair their core identities from it.
For the same reason Japan has options, while these two don't.
There's nowhere that I wouldn't like to see for myself at least once. So I'll go with somewhere that I've been already and wouldn't miss if I never went again.
Paris. It's literally just a big dirty city with graffiti and people peeing in alleyways like any other city, plus a few famous landmarks that you only need to see once, in areas where everything costs twice as much. Big whoop.
On a side note: I didn't encounter the stereotype of rude French people anywhere in France. If you're friendly, don't treat waiters and stuff like servants and don't expect people to fall over their feet for you, I found them to be just like any other human beings anywhere else. Some people are friendly, some people are just doing their jobs and getting through their days.
The closest I came to a 'rude' French person was on my way out of the country, going through all the hoops in the airport. This one women at the counter's face almost seemed to light up when she saw and was so friendly and warm. Until I spoke English and then her face just dropped and she barely looked at me or said a word the rest of the time.
I feel the same about Paris, there's nothing romantic or magical about it. It had easily the worst air pollution I've ever seen in Europe (but I understand that's improved a lot in the last decade), it's overcrowded and smells like sewage everywhere. Not a place I'd ever care to visit again. That said I use a number of French services and I really like a lot of their cultural exports, and I'd love to explore other areas of France.
I'd love to explore other areas of France
When I was there, apart from trips into Paris, I was staying in a little village about half an hour from Paris called Nozay. Now that was something that you don't just get back home like a big city. Cobbled streets in certain parts, half the buildings are probably as old or older than my country, there's the little town square where everything is from the mayor's office to the bakery to the pub and tobacconist lol. I'd love to visit the French countryside and little villages and stuff again a lot more than I'd like to see a big city again.
I want to see Japan, but I have almost no interest in Tokyo or Mt. Fuji or anything well known outside of Japan. I want to see small towns and non-touristy places.
Any place where a lot of people are. I don't want to see them in my holidays. Scottish highlands were nice. And Norway.
Any theme park. Except Disney. I'd gladly go to a Disney park. After hours. With a tanker of kerosene and a box of matches.
If you do that I'll fight you till the very end cos I hardcore ❤️ disney
Any and all of them.
Because i don't like people, and that goes double for crowds of em.
Pisa, it is total tourist trap. Italy has way much better tourist destinations.
the evening-/nightlife was pretty cool. all those toscanian like alleys (similar to lucca for example) inbetween houses and lots of - i mean lotslots - 10000/10 restaurants filled with locals
EDIT lots of locals are students too, which makes a far more interesting crowd in general imo
It wasn't so bad when I was there (in the '80s) but yes, Italy has far more important and beautiful cities to visit.
My personal favourite was Florence.
Any of the Disneys. Just screams consoomer to me and I risk running into a Disney adult
I'm sorry to tell you I am a disney adult.
That's disappointing, Ms Cheese, but everyone has their flaws lol
I use to be a huge Disney theme park fan, but the increasing nickle and dining throughout the years has really turned me off. I still deeply appreciate and admire the architecture and artistry of the parks, but I am not a fan of the direction of the company as a whole tbh.
While not exactly a holiday destination per-se, having seen pictures of people literally waiting in line to get to the trash pile at the peak of Mt. Everest is such a turn-off that I'd skip it even if I was a true mountaineer.
Had a guy in one of my grad school courses who always found a way to shoehorn in the fact that he'd summited Everest not just once, but TWICE! 🙄 Climbing Everest just strikes me as rich person bragging rights, and it isn't even that impressive given that a lot of the people who do it pay porters to carry their supplies and dig their latrines.
Florida because Florida
Most of them. The more popular, the less I'd want to go.
Tokio; it's just way too busy for me and all the tourists (particularly the ones that don't have any manners) do their part.
Any resort, frankly. I remember a conversation with a colleague a while back about holidays. I said I'd like to see Turkiye, and they mentioned that they had been the year before - to a resort at Antalya that they never left the entire time. Now, each to their own, if that's what makes you happy on holiday then do that. But to me personally? That sounds bloody miserable. That sounds like you didn't see the country at all. Why go o another country to only stay at a resort trying to cordon you off from the country? If I go to Turkiye I want to see the Roman and Ottoman heritage of Istanbul, or try all the Turkish coffee, or see the rock-cut towns and balloon festivals in Cappadocia, or visit Gobekli Tepe. You know, stuff I can only experience in Turkiye
Many people go just to experience the beach or weather... And honestly, why even go to Turkey or Greece or Spain if you're just going to do that? Cheaper places exist with even better weather, like Egypt...
Dubai, most of the Middle East, China, most of the deep south in the US, and any other states or countries like Singapore with shit like beatings or the death penalty.
If Singapore ever relaxes its use of beatings and executions, I would consider going, as it has beautiful gardens and amazing green infrastructure.
Honestly, Singapore might just be the most boring bland place you could possibly go to. If it was your first time travelling overseas it might be good, and my experiences there have never been bad per se, but discounting places where I'd be afraid for safety, I can't think of a single place I'd recommend less than Singapore for someone to visit.
Singapore is alright. Been there a few times.
100% fuck Singapore. Was such a police state shit time
Anywhere in the US. I live in a western country that's basically a US colony, so I've seen and heard enough of the place without actually going there. Plus - Grand Canyon: it's a lot of rocks with a big canyon amongst them. Doesn't interest me.
New York City. Stayed one night before flying home and discovered it was noisy, smelly, crowded, dirty, expensive and generally horrible.
I went to NYC on business (trade show, working the booth). I was glad I was there only for the closing weekend. Some of my colleagues had to work the booth the whole week and be in NYC the whole time.
I really did not like New York, and I didn't even go to the rougher areas. Just too noisy for me, too expensive, and it smelled bad.
And this was in the early '90s.
Anything in the USA, because that place scares me.
I have to agree here. I decided after a job interview in Houston I wouldn't go to the USA ever again. This was in the mid-late '90s. It hasn't improved in that time.
Yikes. I avoid remote positions from the US, and actively flee if it's from Texas.
Don't know if it's a holiday destination, but Dubai. Heat and shopping malls are two things I'd pay to get away from.
Same. It just seems like a vulgar temple to money.
I also hate extreme heat and shopping malls, and have been to Dubai numerous times. The heat and hypercapitalism were horrible, but the city itself was fascinating (to me). The last time I was there it was 52°C. I must say, the novelty wore off on that trip.
Yep that's somewhere that's just never interested me. I hate shopping malls and being too hot so paying money to suffer it isn't me
Same same. I so not want to visit an extremely hot mall where I might also be thrown in jail for being female and existing wrong. Sounds like a bad time even if everything goes fine!
Norwegian fjords. Because I already live here.
I get that. Where i grew up theres stuff I find normal that makes visitors cry. Then I go elsewhere and my mind is blown. People crave novelty.
Can confirm. I have a fascination with deserts. It's been that way for as long as I can remember. I wanna tumble down a sand dune!
I'm so jealous I could cry
Bali
Indonesia has so many beautiful places, but Bali is mostly (I know there are nice places and things too) visited by people who I actively avoid
The Australian bogan is bad enough, but there are the dregs of all sorts of societies there
Go to Lombok instead. It's fucking gorgeous
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