The lighter side of ADHD
Reminds me of a time, maybe 15 years ago, a young teen fainted in the middle of the queue in the supermarket. Everyone was stunned by the bystander effect, and as soon as I checked on him, everyone else sprang into action. It's odd seeing it in action. Anyway, I could slink out real quick after that.
This sounds uncannily like my EMR experiences.
Me, when our cellar flooded because of heavy rainfall last fall: *overwhelmed* *panicattacc*
Me, when my wife proposes to go on a short vacation in two weeks: *overwhelmed* *panicattacc*
Their crisis managment skills have nothing to do with their ADHD. It my be inspite of it and good on them. I am not the least bit envious grumble grumble
This needed more Cheems and Swole Doge. Still upvoted.
Unfortunately, ADHD being a spectrum, not all of us get blessed with the crisis focus superpower.
Can unfortunately confirm. Am useless in and our of a crisis. I can have all the steps for what to do laid out in my head, but be inexplicably incapable of doing anything with them.
I’ve got it. I turn into a damn super hero.
I’m only worth anything in a crisis.
It’s why my last relationship worked for so long. Girl was a living crisis.
I only date crazy (cluster B especially) women. It‘s always exciting, never boring, and I feel useful when I support them in whatever crisis situation they created. Somehow I confuse being wanted as support with love.
I tried dating more balanced people, who have their lives under control. Couldn’t do it. It’s simply too boring.
I really miss my unstable ex, even though the relationship ended with a broken heart, being broke as in too much credit card debt, a broken door in my apartment, and broken friendships with my old friends. I would do it all again though. The happiest days of my life were together with that extremely charming and sexy histrionic goddess.
Limerance is my favorite drug.
The woman I’ve been with for the last decade is an emotional woman, but she’s smart, capable, and stable.
The one I spent my late teens through 32, man oh man. It was always something with her. I’d be at work thinking everything was ok, get home and find she had left. I mean, she dealt with a lot of shit out of me, but damn.
Our last big breakup took 3 years. We were a signature away from closing on a loan for a home. She left me over and over again. Cheated with more people than I even know about. Didn’t want me at all until I found someone else and then all hell broke loose.
To give you an example of how much cheating went on at the end (maybe throughout, I never spied on her). 2 years after we had split for good an old mutual friend approached me at a gas station and apologized to me haha. I didn’t even know anything had happened between them.
Poor girl died from breast cancer 4 years after we split.
Life is chaos. It really is.
Ohhhhhh, that explains a number of past relationships for me.
Lmao same here buddy.
Former paramedic here. Chaos is so calming.
Everything is important and very interesting? There's clear priorities, maybe even a checklist? Sign me up.
I'm welcome to ignore everything else around me and to focus on one thing for as long as I need and that thing seems unsolvable to most people. Yes please.
Oh and driving a lot...
Not all heroes wear capes.
... unless I'm the cause of the crisis, then I'm a mess
Me in normal circumstances: "Don't perceive me, I am not here, attention is pain, under the radar is my happy place"
Me running tech for live events: "Something is fucky on stage mid-song, and I am here to fix it. Fuck your attention, I am unborking a thing here."
Ah interesting, this explains why I have always been really good at giving presentations. People always compliment me after the fact and ask how I stay so calm. The truth is that I'm extremely anxious during the whole thing and I just won't stop talking when that happens
*Then procedes to be not less and no more helpless than in normal circumptences*
Me!!
When my boyfriend and i were short in time to get them a residents permit, without them having a job, i read law and planned finance so quickly and good that even the bureaucracy worker didnt know the forms i brought with me.
It all worked out great