Look into your communities events pages or whatever it'll be called and look for things that might be your interest adjacent. Go to community centers and look at their boards. Find a thing you're vaguely interested in ago go. Then meet people there who can either tell you about other things that you might be interested in or continue what you're doing. Churches often have good community boards too, depends on the church. Some are far less evangelical than others, your results may vary.
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Try bellawhiskey.ca/trollegle. It's a silly little chat site. Will not necessarily be alive when you join, but there are a few regular visitors. I would recommend to avoid speaking to _ though.
It's pleasantly surprising to see it getting mentioned it at all. Loved the servers when they were Omegle chatoorms, and it's a bit sad to see it sort of die out with the death of Omegle. But yeah, the people there are generally nice.
Also, since I mentioned Omegle: I do not recommend any Omegle clones, as they often have an account system in place, which sort of ruins the whole anonymity stuff and also leaves to some stigma to those who do not want to use the account system. Not to mention that these sites generally attracts horny creeps, and finding a good chat partner is thusly hard.
I met someone on Reddit about 5 years ago whilst talking about making a smart mirror for fun. Ended up not making the mirror but did end up in a relationship from it. Was random, I had never exchanged dm's with anyone before that.
For me WebFishing. Some time ago I played VRchat.
Discord is also good but lack of 3d avatars just doesn't provide the feeling of socialisation.
Love yourself and be content in being alone, get to know the real you. When you do that, you will find the right people. It will be instinctual.
No offense, but "be content in being alone" is not a good answer to "how do I meet new people for a chill time"
None taken. I'm advocating for introspection, as in, why did they come here and ask the question in the first place? Why not just seek out a like-minded community? So, how can one possibly get directions from another when they don't know where they want to go? At that point, any direction is valid.
Fair point.
Maybe I feel like this because I've been in the same situation before, where it felt like I had exhausted all social options in my comfort zone. Asking random strangers is nice sometimes, because it gives you perspective and feedback from people who are out of your own bubble. Or, at least, a way to vent your frustration without risking to alienate your friends.
Or you'll just be alone with your cats forever because you no longer leave the house, but like it's cool because you're fine being alone.
Would still be neat to find a partner, though, but the likelihood she shows up at my house is pretty slim. Maybe I should order more doordash..
When you find yourself, it won't be in your house. That's hiding from yourself.
In what way is that hiding from yourself?
From a metaphysical point of view, you and the rest of existence are reflections of each other, thus, the rest of the existence is not separate from you and is a part of yourself, for without it, you would not be who you are now, nor would it be what it is without you.
Knowing this, we can look at Plato's allegory of the cave. Staying inside restricts you to a limited view of yourself, and an online one is even more limiting because it reflects a distorted truth from others suffering the same fate. How can you possibly know who you are from such a limited scope?
Temet nosce. It means "know thyself". You should do everything in your power, to the very best of your ability, to see this through. Otherwise, you're still in the cave.
I never leave the house and people are constantly messaging me online and trying to be friends in a lot of cases.
The hack is to be useful to people. Then you’ll have friends even if you don’t leave the house.
That seems quite dependent on the online environments and kind of useful then. Or is missing some other context.
I don't receive any direct messages even when quite connected or in communities and even when being useful or potentially useful and continuously contributing foss.
I meet tons of people on Discord.
Hey people have dated and married over gaming chats before. I knew someone in college he met his then about to engage fiance. I lost contact after graduation though
play an MMO game. plenty of ways to break into friend groups there.
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