Asklemmy

I despise people that ghost others and I see it as nothing but maladaptive and sad. A person who ghosts is someone who lacks enough empathy to understand how damaging it is to others, it's someone who lacks conflict resolution skills, who internalized Internet block / unfriend buttons in their mind as a viable way to terminate any relationship.

When I was younger, people didn't do this shit. I grew up without the Internet and didn't have it until I was an adult, younger people don't realize it, but people didn't use to do this, and it's hurtful and infuriating how technology has affected this aspect of human behavior.

when i got ghosted by my job, i wish i'd started looking for a new one sooner, before burning through so much of my savings.

With jobs, it's just the job market right now. Companies aren't interested in keeping good relations with applicants. Expect to just never hear back on a significant number of your applications.

A job (assuming it's one I've not already got): they don't want you, move on. It's the same thing as a rejection. You can chase up once but I don't see why bother more than once.

A person you're talking to romantically: check in on them, if they don't respond after messaging a few times over a few days it's deliberate and they're not interested. Move on. It probably wasn't that serious if they ghosted you, or if you're actually in a serious monogamous relationship and they ghost you then I'd either worry they've actually gone missing or something's happened to them, or they are just a massive asshole to not be able to actually break up with you properly.

Do you really want to have a relationship (of any kind) with someone that treats other people that way?

Everyone is saying move on... but did you try to follow-up first? No harm in checking in if you haven't done so

People need to understand space and respect it. Not everyone needs to be communicating every single hour of every single day. If you can't handle that, then you probably have an insecurity.

You aren't entitled to a response if someone doesn't want to respond. Suck it up and move on.

Move on, it's a sign your not important to the other person, so they are not worth worrying about

I've got a friend who just dips from the conversation for months and shows back up like nothing happened. Now I respond to their new message, but use signals timed message feature to match however long they ghosted the conversation. Disappear for 2 months then ask a question? No problem, the answer is coming in 60 days!

If some recruiter ghosted you, don't bother them and move on

How can you tell if you've been ghosted? Maybe they just got busy with other things.

Move on, get your mind off of it by doing something new and wild (bungee?) or something familiar that never involved that person

As someone who is in incredibly extroverted, you just have to take the hint and move on. Being ghosted is many people’s solution to the problem of “I don’t want to be around that person/do the thing but I don’t want to be impolite.” Just gotta accept it and move on to the next person you want to annoy into being your friend.

Move on and not think about it at all.

Sign them up for something embarrassing or offensive via snail mail and use their first and last name (ghoster) but instead of their actual address, you use the neighbor's address.

Ghost them back. Or sometimes ask politely "so that's it?" and then continue ghosting them.

There's really nothing you can or should do, except move on.