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What's your version of "I DON'T like it but I do like people who do like it"? (feddit.org)

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Someone just asked the opposite of this question here and I was wondering if there are cases were you're just not interested in something but you know the community is great nonetheless.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Rugby players.

I don't care for sports so much, but a ton of my friends play rugby. Several of my exes play rugby. I've got cousins who play rugby. I live in the States and, while rugby is popular, it's no where near the levels of enthusiasm where like 90% of the people a person hangs out with plays it (and you not also play or have any real interest in it). Mostly to support people I was dating, I've been to like ten games in my life and, while I understand how the game is played, I'm just completely uninterested in sports and following sports as a hobby or interest. I don't know why, but rugby people love me and I love them.

[–] [email protected] 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm not into other girls, but I've got lesbian friends who are great! 😃

[–] [email protected] 3 points 22 hours ago

I'm a cishet dude and all but one of my friends are some combination of gay, bi, or trans

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

I'm not into guys but I've got pan/bi/het friends who are great! 😃

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Anime. I don’t get it, but boy those anime girls are so cute. <3

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Weed.

Stoners are cool people. Usually very funny, down to earth and fun to talk to, but it’s not my thing at all.

Give me a decent scotch with a drip of spring water and I’m good!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Gimme a stoner any day. Better than trying to talk a roided up jock half way through a bottle of tequila out of punching his nana. I don't consume myself because weed just puts me to sleep. I guess I'm mellow enough.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I have always been a liberal leftist but I actually really enjoy being around old school, fiscally conservative Republicans, when they aren't talking about politics. They tend to be softies on the inside - they value strength and tradition and care deeply for their communities and families; often more directly demonstrating that care than liberals tend to. They also don't accept the victim mentality and tend to shoot straight with their words, and can be hilariously harsh. They are responsible and tend to follow through with their commitments.

The problem is, I can't really stand being around them because they can't help themselves bringing up the dumbest opinions of all time and they typically don't like digging into fact based thinking.

Same now as 20 years ago, when they would say shit like, "pretty cold out today - don't seem like global warming to me! Hahaha" etc etc

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

TIL 20 years ago is 2000... not the 60s... fml

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

they value strength and tradition

And this is good because...?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Strength is good, tradition can be anything

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Strength is good

Is shit that fascists say. Just a heads up.

And "tradition," at least in this context, is almost always based in bigotry.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Fascists say some things that are normal, like anyone else; they just also say a lot of things that are evil. This one is normal. Strength is used as a tool by fascists but it in and of itself is not inherently bad.

Republican tradition is generally something that hurts our ability to make social progress, yes.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

"Strength" when used in political contexts, is almost always related to some form of oppression at the very least.

I am struggling to think of a time when hearing a politician speak about "strength" could be seen as a good thing. Perhaps briefly, directly after 9/11, but before we decided to invade the wrong countries? Even then, it was more about unity than any kind of strength.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Strength, as in the power to exert your will on others, is a dangerous concept. This is the sense in which fascists use it.

Strength, as in the power to stand up for yourself, is good. We should all have the strength to fight against tyranny.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

I guess I just wouldn't use that word in the second case. Determination maybe?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Something about the horseshoe effect I'm sure. I'm the same way, I make the best of friends with conservative assholes. They care about family, water is thicker than blood, blah blah blah. It's just the policies they vote for that I hate, which is also why I love just chatting about them. Gives me an opportunity to "know thy enemy" and have a chance to change their mind

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's all well and good, until they vote for literal fascists who believe trans people shouldn't exist.

At some point you need to draw a line. And even if they don't say that shit out loud, or they pretend to disagree, they still vote for it and most of them will refuse to ever admit they were wrong for that.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

You're absolutely right. If you search my account for "good ol boy" or "from Oklahoma" you'll find a comment where I gave a more specific example of this. I didn't give all of these details, but I stealthed basically my entire personality for about a year and half with him while poking and prodding at his beliefs in a "curious" manner until he started getting deeper into those bills on his own and forming his own opinions.

I mentioned in that comment that he became an LGBTQ ally along the way basically by accident. Gentle curiosity about someone's beliefs is a great way to change them

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