Asklemmy

You want a purple rubber dildo

If your partner is a craftsy type, you could suggest that they craft something for you. It was always those gifts that meant the most to me when I was with someone craftsy. It doesn't have to have utility, or be perfect, it just means the world that someone spent time and thought creating something for you.

To list of things anything you could want:

• Goods
• Services
• Relationship time, that is your partner doing things for you,
  which can be subdivided into 10 more types of wishes.

You want a 6npack of BIC medium black pens

I have the same problem when I need to come up with things on the spot. So instead I keep a list that I add ideas I get for things I want over time. That way if someone asks I can show them that and I don't have to think on the spot about what I want.

Get a hobby. You'll always need/want stuff if you become a photographer or a fisherman or a pnp-player or a ...

Food? Everybody likes food, right?

Or an experience - a trip, a night out, whatever

With my partner, we usually gift time/knowledge. As in, one person wants to buy something but doesn't have the time/expertise to read up it and find the perfect thing. So the other hops in and does the research for them.

This valentine's my partner helped me decide on a new gaming keyboard, while I got him a custom web domain and email setup.

So maybe if there's a thing you've been meaning to research/buy, let your partner do it as a gift?

A pair of Calico Cut Pants

Maybe a really nice edition of a book you already love, from a luxury publisher like The Folio Society or Easton Press?

Beans

Jamon Iberico

Life size model of Captain Picard

Escape Room

8000 Hamsters

Ketamine

Dinner at a fancy restaurant

Art

Bathtub of chocolate pudding

My partner gifted me a pottery class recently, which we are doing next weekend and im VERY excited about. Maybe do that?

Pick something you already have and use often, like a phone charger or an office chair or a pair of shoes, and ask for a higher quality version of the same thing. Something that will last longer or be more comfortable.

I always ask for the same thing.

A rare steak and messy anal.

Full disclosure, I peeked at your comment history.

How about those phone mounts and maybe a neat 2-in-1 tripod/monopod for your binoculars? Or a shoulder sling?

Otherwise, my go-to is an experience like others suggested. Escape room, paint nite, afternoon of pool/ bowling/ mini golf, Top Golf, cooking class, museum visit, comedy night, hockey game, roller skating, hiking, music bingo/pub trivia, or consider a hotel room nearby for the night with an indoor pool or my absolute favorite...a cabin weekend with a hot tub and a real wood-burning fireplace.

A small island nation to crush beneath the heel of your boot.

Or, if you don't have boots, you can ask for those.

Use it as an excuse to strengthen your bond I guess. Just say something like "all I want is to do (XYZ thing you know you both like: dinner, movie, whatever.) with you, I don't need anything more." If that even is something you'd even want to do of course. Don't force it if it isn't what you want.

Just be honest with them, you could even possibly try to explain the anxiety you feel about it all and let them know you're happy just being with them in whatever way.

Either that or pick a food you like lol for me I'd probably just say "get me a big ol' bag of chocolate covered pretzels and I'll be in heaven." :P

I also don’t like receiving gifts from my spouse. So I just tell her to buy my bar tab for the night.

An experience, like going axe-throwing.

A favorite food.

A music playlist made especially with you in mind.

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