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It's that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I'm not the kind of person that ever wants anything...

My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.

I feel bad though. I know it's hard when I don't talk about things I want. And when asked, I don't know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.

This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn't want things want for their birthday?

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[โ€“] Maiq@lemy.lol 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Tell them the they are the only gift you need and how lucky you are to have them in your life. Anything material just pails in comparison.

[โ€“] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago

Ha! To which they will then melt in my arms and kiss me and tell me just how wonderful I am... only to then punch me in the arm and say... "now tell me what I can get you, dammit, or I will hurt you more!" ๐Ÿ˜

[โ€“] nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 month ago

if i wanted something other than a bag of cocks i would just buy it

[โ€“] lietuva@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think you lifted gift giving standards way up high and your partner wants to keep up ๐Ÿ˜Š

  • Anything that can be consumed, eaten or drunk is a good gift.
  • Tickets to some event you can both attend and spend quality time together. Maybe a concert

Yup, 100%. Consumable treats that you'd not normally buy yourself and experiences like events or lessons.

[โ€“] Horse@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

my usual responses when asked are:

  • Cheap one: 6 pack of beer and a pizza
  • Middle one: bottle of vodka and a take out
  • Expensive one: bottle of scotch and a bar of dark chocolate

booze and food are always welcome with me lol

[โ€“] psyklax@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 month ago

She might get mad if you tell her this, but maybe you want some time to yourself. It's what I usually want on my birthday.

[โ€“] AnnaFrankfurter@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Ask for world peace maybe it'll work.

[โ€“] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 month ago

I asked god. Still waiting for a response. Will let you know.

[โ€“] Anissem@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Same, Iโ€™d honestly just skip my birthday if that was an option

[โ€“] Wojwo@lemmy.ml 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I always go with experiences over stuff. I want to do something with the people I care about and collect memories instead of things. It gives people the freedom to be as frugal or lavish as they want and I don't have to store or return anything.

[โ€“] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago

Now this is what I'm talking about. ๐Ÿ’ฏ

[โ€“] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[โ€“] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 month ago

Imagine the gift of wonders that my mind might give me for my birthday! It would be incredible!Either that... or I will suffer a psychotic break. ๐Ÿคฃ

[โ€“] tetris11@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Easy: "I WANNA SIX PACK O BEER AND AN EMPTY HOUSE, PRONTO"

[โ€“] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 month ago

Ha! You're on to something with that! ๐Ÿ˜

[โ€“] iamanurd@midwest.social 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[โ€“] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Good god no. Half my family's allergic. I'm just allergic to their nature. ๐Ÿคฃ

[โ€“] iamanurd@midwest.social 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

In that case, a cure for allergies.

[โ€“] iamanurd@midwest.social 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)
[โ€“] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 month ago

I'll put it on my wish list. ๐Ÿช„๐Ÿ˜บ

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