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For men, look straight ahead while walking and don't get out of anyone's way, act at all times like you expect them to get out of yours.

Don't wash your ass

I'm straight and I've been accused of being gay before for being an intellectual and compassionate and not demonstrating an affinity for sports and similar competing with other men. I've also been accused of being trans before because of an affinity for playing female characters in tabletop (I like diverse groups so I often play female or black characters because many other folks won't) and computer RPGs (I prefer to stare at a woman's ass all day over a man's and I tend to enjoy the voice acting better).

So I guess don't do anything I do.

There are no traits that are universally "straight traits", "gay traits", "trans traits" or even "ace traits". So any behavior you can have is technically "acting straight".

I'm sorry you feel the need to hide who you are. I hope we can, as world societies, accept people for who they are. I know this doesn't answer your question (I don't really have an answer), I just absolutely hate it that this question even needs to exist. :(((

I sorta feel like men and women act more diffently from each other than gay and straight people.

Terribly fitting clothes, terrible outfits, caribiner for your keys, "the wife"

I'd rather not, speaking from experience. Do it if you absolutely must (like living in homophobic country)

Look no further: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-f3sNylbUI

What tv shows/movies with gay and straight people. Don't do what you see the gay people do. For a lot of people, especially the gay haters, their only experience of gay people is from tv and movies.
Of course anything too gay friendly they won't have watched. So skip will and grace. Go for things where the gay person is minor comic relief. That is the kind of stuff the haters would have put up with. And I assume there must be some shows or movies that demonize gay people. Those would be research material. I just don't know of any. Maybe listen to that black comedian who was anti LGBTQ+. I am sure he was spouting all the sterotypes that haters would recognize.

As someone who has masked both neurodivergence and sexuality, it's not worth it. It will be challenging to navigate our biased and unaccommodating world, but the challenges pale in comparison to true happiness. Happiness is always fleeting, so seeking a negative peace pretending to be something you're not is a fool's errand. Hiding yourself will only ever lead to pain and mental anguish.

I can't really help on the question because I stick out myself for different reasons, but what about hanging with people you don't have to blend into anything? My neighbours are very obviously gay, and me and my dogs love them both because they are really nice people.

As a cus straight guy myself I’m not sure fully understand the question but here goes my best interpretation,

I do not recommend this but the only thing I could think of is not displaying any affection to your parter, but if someone said I couldn’t hold my girlfriend’s Hand in public id be pretty pissed. So just be yourself OP

In my experience I’ve never noticed and even if i did I don’t care, they’re just doing their thing. The only time I’ve noticed some ‘act gay’ is that Hollywood over the top stereotype flamboyant kind, and whenever I see those people I wish I had that energy, just living you absolute best life

Kinda got a little off track there but my point is unless your in physical danger (I hope your not) just be yourself and what you think is right

Speech Cadence. I know some people do it, and some don't, but if you do it (and I hope you know what I mean) then at the very least, this will immediately lead many people to assume you are LGBTQ+, regardless of how true it may be. I say this in the interest of helping, and sincerely hope it does not imply or convey any sort of bias on my part. The fact that people in this country need this information right now deeply saddens and angers me.

Honestly I wish everyone spoke as clearly and articulately as gay men. Mumble and mangle your words together, and dumb down your vocabulary to sound like the typical straight dude. Think of yourself as a kid in school, the teacher just called on you, and you really don't want to answer.

Look at straight people and act like them? I'm not really sure what to respond. But I know several people who don't really stand out. And I mean it's not like we talk about sex and partners all the time on the street or at work. So unless you wear an outrageous dress or have a crazy wig, or tell me... I won't really notice if you're queer, or if you have different sexual preferences than me. (I'm not really sure if we're talking about outer appearance here, or every day situations like going to the supermarket, or hiding your true self from close friends and relatives...) I mean generally it helps not to act too extroverted if you want to blend in, because being loud will get you attention.