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to those of you who like doing your job and go home, what do you tell chatty coworkers to keep their questions and time they take from you to a minimum? (feddit.de)

submitted 9 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm an introvert and I like going to work to do my job and go home. I don't understand people who use a job as a substitute for friendship or marriage. It's a means to an end.

The sooner I do my duties, the longer my downtime is going to be, and I love having my downtime.

Many of my colleagues see me and immediately start asking questions I don't want to answer, but neither do I want to hurt their feelings, I mostly want to be left alone. In the past this has been deconstructed as arrogance and people with fragile egos feel insulted by my indifference to them and that I prefer to work than to talk to them.

The world is made by extroverts. I have observed that people are eager to help you if you give them attention. I don't get it, but neither I'm not going to change how extroverts think or feel.

If I give them the attention they need for as long as they need it I'm going to end up with daily headaches and neither my job nor theirs is going to be done.

I want to appear approachable, but keeping the info I feed them to a minimum. How do I do that?

What do you talk about to your coworkers?

What do you say to stop conversation organically? (meaning they don't get offended).

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[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Since you brought it, must be mutually exclusive again, right?

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Mutually exclusive or not. Nothing in the description nor the original post depicts introvert behavior.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

introvert noun someone who is shy, quiet, and prefers to spend time alone rather than often being with other people

I don't know what kind of headcanon definition you have. Lots of people ITT seem to over complicate the concept when it's just as simple as that.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I would consider that definition to be overly simplistic and failing to capture an important point that is often referenced when describing traits of an introvert. Introverts find social interactions, especially in large groups, to be draining. I believe this to be a key distinction between people that avoid social interaction out of misanthropy or frustration or fear or depression or any of a myriad of other reasons that a person might seek solitude over the company of others.

The reason and motivation behind the desire to avoid social interactions plays a role in determining a course of action in responding to them and ending them early. If you find them draining, a simple "sorry, I gotta get going", when you start to feel drained, is all you would r really need. However, if social interactions trigger a negative emotional response, then more tools would be needed.

Here are a few references on the topic of introvertion:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/introversion

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/introvert-definition

https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-an-introvert

[–] [email protected] 0 points 9 months ago

Bro, did you read your articles? All of them you could summarize in the same description I gave you (except for the shyness). Besides, these are no papers, these are articles created by randos on the internet, or worst, companies (you know, with commercial agendas). There is no review process for these. Wikipedia is more reliable.

Introversion is a preference. Not a condition.