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I just feel more and more it's a cheap excuse to dismiss debate out of hand rather then confront an uncomfortable truth.

I just don't buy that anyone online cares if someone is arguing in good or bad faith

 

So I recently got back together with my boyfriend after cheating and taking a break.

I went to reddtit to look for advice and all of the post on this subject asoneafterinfidelity,support for waywards and more had either explicit rules you had to use gender neutral language or for some reason the culture insisted on it.

But like why ? I am a woman getting back together wit ha man and I just think that the situation is not the same. Women can get pregnant so there is the possibility of an affair pregnancy, STDs work differently for men and women social and emotional standards are different.

I feel like this makes things worst for everyone but why ?

Full disclosure I don't even have a reddit account I am using this site because I could not cope with the karma system and I kept getting shadow banned.

So what is this ?

[–] [email protected] 26 points 4 days ago

so funny thing

Israel asked Bush to strike Iran's nuclear program. Bush refused

They asked him again to strike Syria's program

He refused again.

[–] [email protected] 41 points 4 days ago

The US airstrikes on Iran, a timeline of tonight, all times are in Tehran time-zone:

  • Pre 1am: Israeli drones activated air defenses in several Iranian regions.
  • 1:14am: Fighter jets were heard over Shiraz.
  • 1:22am: Several aircraft were heard over central Iran.
  • 2:04am: Two jets [bombers] and an explosion were heard near Qom. Qom's countryside is the site of Fordow.
  • 2:13am: An explosion was heard near Kashan, another city near Fordow.
  • 2:38am: An explosion was heard at Fordow, but it was assumed a drone was intercepted. Which has now proven wrong.
  • 2:41am: A loud explosion was heard at Isfahan's Atomic Energy Facility.
  • 2:46am: An explosion was heard at Natanz Nuclear Facility.
  • 2:55am: GPS jamming was observed across Iran.

Reminder this only happened because Trump tore up the original deal and Iran was pissed. He had no negotiating position to make a new one because why would Iran agree when you didn't follow the old one. The cope about it not being approved by congress doesn't make it illegal. Since when does maga care about that ? Trump has defied judges several times now.

Second wasn't a big thing Maga roared about was that Trump was anti war ?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 days ago

Exactly, I know to more normie liberals and Americans Europe's speech policies seem bad, but the truth is it's either undemocratic liberalism or illiberal democracy and the Europeans have made their choice. The European populace just can't be trusted to vote on some issues and it's been decided immigration is one. Everyone has the right to asylum and Europeans don't have the right to stop people from fleaing the countries they ruined. I think justice for colonized people is more important then the right of random Europeans to be racist.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 days ago (1 children)

That is what I think the left has failed at and it kept me as a baby leftist for a while because I would as a question and they would accuse me of being an alt right troll.

I love debating. I especially love debating right wingers because it's fun and makes the world better. One thing they are better about one of the few things is answering questions ,if you have questions they have answers. I would make fun of them and ask dumb hypothetical and they would still answer

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

Thanks I agree and this is a valuable perspective

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

So funny thing is republicans say the same thing. There is a famous quote "“Conservatism is progressivism driving the speed limit.”"

I would argue the left needs to take some responsibility with getting distracted in the culture war and losing site of the working class. Look at Bernie you can go back to 2016 and see people saying that bernie was a bro candidate and not progressive enough compared to hillarly on insert x wedge issue here

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago

there just isn't a sure path to success anymore. It's possible to technically do everything right and still fail.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I agree that we need to be more technocratic as I think democracy is kind of running it's course in the world. Maga also has a lot of contradictions to be fair

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

I like this actually

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

do you have an actual answer to the question ?

Also even if you disagree with that, that is how they feel and when it comes to votes weather or not how they feel is justified or not doesn't matter

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I am going to be honest, I think women need to be a a part of this. We are used to being right in regards to gender conflict because usually we are but one thing I agree with men on is that every woman says they want men to share their feelings more but many women lose respect for a man they see as weak.

Bell Hooks talks a lot about this so you can go read her.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

the issue with that is with less women dating period since less women want to settle. Would that work ?

There just isn't a gaurentee or even a good enough chance that being a progressive or supporting progressive politics will get you a girlfriend or wife so would this kind of incentive system work ?

If you want the carrot and stick to work you have to give the carrot.

Telling women to just date random progressive guys for the cause even ignoring the fact it's not ery ethical. I just don't think you could convince enough women to do it for it to work

 

I think progressives never thought about this because we banked on immigration and demographic change allowing us to win culturally and electorally but the issue is immigrants tend to be overwhelmingly male, that is how Trump won actually he won over a lot of Hispanic,Black,Asian and indigenous men who feel humiliated by a new culture, economy and world.

So what can we do rhetorically and policy wise to win more young men over ?

 
 

So a little background, I have dated a boy for a long time and then we took a break because of mistakes I made and I'm just going to be honest me not being a great boyfriend.

I have wanted to get back together with him so bad I have thought about it and what I want to say to hi and mapped out conversations in my head with him thought about how I will say sorry and make it right.

Everyone literally everyone says just move on just move on but no I want to make it right and make it work.

Could this be an Autistic fixation.

 
 

Especially for men but even women too.

like with how much more men statistically benefit from relationships and how hard dating is for younger men I just don't buy they would break off a relationship with a woman who cheated on them. Especially if she gave them a good deal because not only is fending a girlfriend harder but women just won't put up with mediocrity anymore we only date if we are interested we have our own money (young women out earn young men), our emotional support structure is better and the orgasm gap is real most men don't measure up.

So would you seriously rather be single then settle ? Every man says this but looking at the data it seems none of them mean it.

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