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[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Not diagnosed here too. 99pct sure I'm in the club. For 47 years I've been written off as "absent-minded" (yet everyone seeks my advice for major life shit) or "ornery" (more when I was a kid). It's just incredibly frustrating, it feels like every doc I've ever brought it up to basically just dismisses me, taking about how rare adult ADHD actually is.

...this post was just basically supposed to say "yeah I feel that"... So yeah

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I've been written off as "absent-minded" (yet everyone seeks my advice for major life shit)

I feel this in my bones. My family has always labeled me as "aloof, absent-minded, head in the clouds"... and somehow always seem to forget that I'm the one that shows up or gets called when shit goes sideways

I've tried to accept that it's just an "endearing" label from them, and they don't actually believe I'm unreliable... because they still (individually) fall back on me whenever they need someone to come through. I'm an "aloof crisis hotline" I guess

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

being aloof or absent minded isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's just a different type of engagement with the world, would it be nice if we didn't forget shit the second object permanence stops applying? Yeah, can we work around it, also yeah.