I'll go first
my guilty pleasure rn lol
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This was my first
then the girl from Monsters Vs Aliens.
one night I was in a discord call with some friends and they were playing smash or pass and APPARENTLY everyone else got turned on by the monsters or aliens and IM the weird one for not being into that??
When I was surprised they made me take the BDSM test and I got 97% vanilla and 50% submissive. in retrospect this probably ties into my next point...
I did not have a 'crush' for YEARS after that, IRL or in media. I still don't think I feel it in the same way others do. I guess I would want to live in the same household with someone cute, but like that's a far cry from what other people describe it as and I would much prefer to be the cute one.
I cannot comprehend the concept of being horny and taking it out on others against their consent.
Even if I were in a relationship I don't think I would want to. Going to the bathroom for 15m would be easier than having to bother someone else, no?
Literally last week my bloodwork results came back in and I like 1/2 the hormonal levels you're supposed to have.
AND I'm on antidepressants that lower my labido so I'm like borderline involuntarily asexual because I just have a really low sex drive.
Another vanilla! High vanilla outcome on the bdsm test seems to be quite uncommon. At least among people on Discord, hehe.
I mean, discord is full of disgusting deviants, I'm not surprised.
You sound asexual. That's fine.
Why did you bring rape up? Seems strange. People can be horny without wanting to rape someone. Being in a relationship has never made me think it was more okay to rape my partner. That's fucked up. I'm gonna chalk up that line of thinking to being unfamiliar with how normal people experience horniness.
I don't think anyone can be voluntarily or involuntarily asexual. It's just kind of an intrinsic trait of your personality. It's like saying you involuntarily have brown hair.
Re: the consent: I was initially confused like you, but while I’m not OP and can’t say for certain, I’m pretty sure they extend the concept of consent to also include being a target of lust, as in the target isn’t intending to, or consenting to, being a target of lust. As in using an image of someone/something not consenting to that use case, as material for self pleasure for example. I think.
Weirdly enough that isn’t something I’ve ever thought about actively. In a way it makes sense to extend it thus though. But then again it seems like a complex topic I’ve no expertise in, so I’ll just leave it at that.